Post # 1
I just got engaged last week and I can’t make any major decisions yet because we can’t meet with our priest to set the date for another week and a half.
While we are waiting on that, we are trying to get some planning done such as colors and the overall look we are going for, but I am having some trouble.
I have 5 Bridesmaids and 1 Maid/Matron of Honor, but I would really like to include my 3 neices and 2 cousins as maybe jr Bridesmaids and flower girls. How many is too many Jr Bridesmaids?? Two of the girls are 9 but they are still small so I thought they could be Flower girls with my 3 year old neice… Then the other 2 girls are 13 and 11 and they are taller. The 13 year old is taller than me almost. Is this going to look funny if she is a Junior??
Is 2 juniors and 3 Flower Girls too much? Does anyone have any other suggestions on things they could do that would still include them in the wedding? I had someone suggest to have them as pages but wasnt sure if this was still a thing…
If they are juniors, what color should they wear? I second guess everything and have trouble with decisions at times so I’m on the struggle bus right now.
Post # 2
You got engaged last week, chillax. You don’t need everything planned this second.
Two more bridesmaids and three flower girl is fine. Kinda extra, but fine. I think junior bridesmaids are usually dressed as similar as possible to the regular bridesmaids.
Post # 3
Keep in mind that every person you ask to be in the wedding party is another thank you gift to buy and turns into 2 people (3 for the kids) attending the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 4
- Wedding: December 2018 - City, State
I may be wrong but this is going to be a big Catholic wedding?
Post # 5
While you are waiting for the priest meeting, focus on your guest list and gathering correct names, spellings, salutations,, and addresses. It takes forever, and drives a lot of decisions.
Post # 7
Maybe just hold off on asking anyone at this point. Personally, I think that sounds like way too many (if I’ve read correctly you want 11 women and girls in your wedding party…)
Is there a particular reason you want to involve that many?
Post # 8
I wouldn’t have any junior bridesmaids honestly unless you’re just super close to them. I could see having the 9 year olds walking with thr 3 year old as flower girls..but you really dont have to include every family member. The more people yoi include, the bigger the hassle.
Post # 9
Do whatever you want! Whatever will make you happy. I don’t consider myself an “extra” kinda person but I relocated cities so I have friends from home who I love dearly and friends in my new city that I see on a regular basis and have grown so close to. I didn’t wanna have to choose, not to make anyone else happy but just for me, I wanted all of my favourite people around no matter what anyone thought. But under anyones standards it was a huge bridal party, even for me but i LOVED having everyone included. You wanna know how many? IT’S SO MUCH hahaha! 5 from home and 5 from here, so 10! All fully adults and fully bridesmaids. It was great and no one noticed and I was surrounded by love all day!
Post # 10
The one thing I did do, was just choose a colour and everyone picked out their own dress. I thought 10 grown women in the same dress was too much.
Post # 11
I wish I had this problem! I can’t really think of anyone else to have stand with me besides my sister lol if I didn’t have her I’d really be in trouble! I think it’s great that you have so many people you love to surround yourself with! Who cares about the norm.
Post # 12
Slow down dear op, the ring is barely on your finger! Have as many as you like, why not. The more you have, the more dress etc wrangling and potential drama of course.
l wouldn’t bother about calling anyone ‘junior’ myself, l’d just call them all bridesmaids and merely be careful you give them age appropriate dress choices. The little girls can be flower girls, tho you might want to check with the 9 year old if that’s ok with her.
But, unless you are getting married in a few months, hold back on all this for now. Lots of problems caused by being too precipitate in asking people to be bridesmaids.
Post # 13
Why do you want them in your party? Do you really want to see in the party with you, or do you feel like you’re doing it out of obligation?
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having that too many junior bridesmaids. Really they are just younger bridesmaids, and the main difference is that they wear age appropriate gowns, and don’t do any of the more grown up bridesmaids activities. Junior bridesmaids gowns tend to match the bridal party in color, though they may have different hem lengths, necklines or straps to the bridesmaids gowns.
You could have the two 9 year olds be flower girls with the 3 year old, though at that age, they may feel like they are too old for that.
Post # 14
I had 7 bridesmaids, 2 Junior bridesmaids (husband’s half sisters ages 12 and 14), 2 flower girls (husbands half sister age 9, and my cousin age 5), 6 Groomsmen, 2 Junior Groomsmen (my 2 cousins ages 12 and 14) and one ring bearer (my cousin age 7). It wasn’t too many and I’m soooo glad we included everyone. I definitely recommend including the kids that you are close with. It really makes them feel special.
Post # 15
I think whatever you want to do is fine! Its your wedding! I’m only having 3 bridesmaids to even out how many groomsmen my FH wants. But ultimately its your day and whatever you want goes! Dont need to comform to any norms.