Post # 1
My wedding is still over a year out, so currently I’ve only asked two of my friends to be in the wedding. One is the Maid/Matron of Honor and the other a bridesmaid. They have not yet met eachother. The one who is a bridesmaid and I have HH on most Friday nights. It’s typically our time to chat, vent, and just have some us time. She found out there is a wedding event in our area this Friday and suggested we go. It’s not a huge event and we aren’t going to search for vendors or make any wedding plans.. it’s just for fun. I’m afraid inviting the MOH to join might be rude but I’m also worried NOT inviting her to join will hurt her feelings if she finds out later…. Suggestions?
Post # 3
@HappyORBride: Sounds odd if she would be hurt about that? The only expos Ive been to were with Fiance and with my Future Sister-In-Law (not even in the bridal party), neither my Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor could care less really… Haha. I don’t think she would be upset at your looking at some wedding stuff once with another of your closest friends, else she be quite the clingy one?
Post # 4
Just go with your bridesmaid. She’s the one who suggested it, so she’s the one you go with. You don’t have to invite your Maid/Matron of Honor and alter how you do things just because it’s a bridal expo that you’ll be going to that Friday. It’s not that big of a deal. Just go, have fun, and leave it at that.
Post # 5
Why not also have a day when you and Maid/Matron of Honor got out?
Post # 6
Is your Maid/Matron of Honor super sensitive? I’m only asking because that’s the only way I’d see her getting upset. I’ve been in weddings where I wasn’t asked to go to every little wedding related thing and I didn’t care at all. I haven’t invited all of my bridesmaids to everything I do either. They’re all busy too so the way I see it is they can’t make every detail anyway and that’s ok too.
Post # 7
Talk to the other bridesmaid about your Maid/Matron of Honor coming – this could be a good bonding experience for them and for the three of you as a wedding-unit?
Post # 8
@HappyORBride: Go with your Bridesmaid or Best Man and have fun! I really don’t think your Maid/Matron of Honor would be hurt; it’s not like you ditched her to go out with your Bridesmaid or Best Man. Take it easy 😉 Would your feelings be hurt if it was the other way around?
Post # 9
Your Bridesmaid or Best Man invited you out, it’s not like you arranged something and left your Maid/Matron of Honor out intentionally! Go with your Bridesmaid or Best Man, have a ball, and don’t worry about it… I’m sure your Maid/Matron of Honor knows she has a ton of time to hang and plan with you!!
Post # 10
Thank you all so much. I feel waaay better. There are lots of shows coming up and there will be plenty of other opportunities for Maid/Matron of Honor and I to do things too. I just wasn’t sure about etiquette but it sounds like all is good. 🙂