- 5 years ago
I have posted before about my Maid/Matron of Honor who recently got engaged and being a little worried about her situation.
Her Fiance proposed to her a month after I got engaged. Our FI’s are close friends and actually were friends before Maid/Matron of Honor and I were.
First, I was a little worried that her Fiance proposed because he felt pressured to get engaged. They had been dating longer than my Fiance and I had, and we had gotten engaged before them. Then some Bees talked me down and said it was pretty normal for guys to propose soon after their friends because they realize they need to get their butts in gear.
I also was worried because, honestly, I don’t think they’re right for each other. At least once a week, Maid/Matron of Honor makes her Fiance sleep on the couch because they get into a huge argument. And sometimes they are just flat out mean to each other around us, especially when drinking. This doesn’t happen often, but often enough to cause concern.
We recently moved 4 hours away from Maid/Matron of Honor and her Fiance. They came to visit us a few weeks ago. We talked wedding things, and there didn’t seem to be any huge developments. By the way, they are getting married in October 2014. I am not her Maid/Matron of Honor, but a bridesmaid nonetheless.
Last night Maid/Matron of Honor called me and left a voicemail saying she got her dress. Whaaaat? I know I don’t live in the same town.. but she didn’t even mention to me that she was going dress shopping. Or that she was even thinking about dresses yet. It kind of came out of nowhere. I took Maid/Matron of Honor dress shopping with me a few months back. I didn’t choose a dress, but she was along for the ride.
So I called her back. She was incredibly nonchalant about the whole thing. Didn’t seem excited that she found “the dress” or anything. It was just.. weird. I’m not upset that I couldn’t be there- I live 4 hours away, I wouldn’t expect Maid/Matron of Honor to wait until I can be there to look at dresses. I’m more confused about her lack of excitement about the whole thing. And I’m also a little surprised that got a dress so soon especially since she has never mentioned anything about dresses previous to this weekend. I know her mom has been pushy about things pertaining to the wedding since. Maybe she pushed her to buy a dress she wasn’t crazy about?
Should I talk to Maid/Matron of Honor about the dress? Or let it go?
EDIT: I’ve edited this post for clarification. I DO NOT plan on talking to Maid/Matron of Honor about troubles with her Fiance. I understand that is not my place. I am mainly concerned about the issues pertaining to her dreass.