- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
First of all, I love that my mother is eccentric. Not in that weird way, in that really cool way. She has incredible dark skin and is half korean. She can pull off color. She looks hawaiiain, almost Cleopatra-esque. She still wears turquoise eyeliner every day and a purple-red shade of lipstick. It works for her! Occassionally i do the turquoise thing for a night out.
However, I am VERY worried about her look for my wedding. When I had my makeup trial this weekend, both my parents tagged along. My dad kept telling me I needed more color, like purple on my eyes. uhhhh???? For the record, my wedding is shades of soft champagne pinks, champagne, ivories, and other light, flowery, romantic colors. Soft, pretty and elegant. Classic, like that Ralph Lauren Romance ad. That’s what I think of! Definitely NOT dramatic. Then he proceeded to tell my mom she has to have purple and gold smoky eyes because it would look incredible in his book. Gold/flashy does not photograph well, right? eek. Initially, my dad had tried to talk her into wearing a fitted, spandexy electric blue one-shoudler dress with rhinestones. This is the man that refuses to wear a tie like the rest of the groomsmen. It HAS to be a bow tie so he stands out like 007. He doesn’t understand why it was inappropriate although my mom and i were apalled at the idea. My mom said, "time and place" and that time and place was 25 years ago when they met. He thinks the mother of the bride should stand out. My dad is going to be with her on the day she gets her makeup done for the wedding. She wants to go with a vogue look. I don’t know what vogue is except for dark and dramatic eyes with bright red lipstick. All I can think of is those fashion models. Her dress is crimson red, and i helped her pick it out. It looks great on her! One shoulder chiffon, red, kind of grecian, not too tight, just perfect.
However, I’m worried about her makeup. I do not think my wedding is the place to be going with a dramatic over-the-top look. I want her in more neutrals (which is not her thing, but you know, a little more neutral than gold/purple) and i’m scared she’ll end up looking too scandelous in that "ooo, too much" kind of way.
How do I approach this topic with her? I’ve mentioned to her that she should ditch her regular lipstick for a softer look and go with bold eyes but a more neutral lip. She simply replies that she loves the "wet look" on her mouth. I say cool, but I think it’s all just too much with all that color. A soft "wet" pink would be fine. And I don’t see all this color and shine and shimmer photographing well. I’m scared it will end up more prostitute-y than anything else, and I don’t want to be offensive to my supercool mom, but c’mon! My dad was very offensive in front of my makeup artist. I told her all about my dress, the pallettes, everything, and all my dad kept saying was that I looked bland and needed more color (like purple!) and darker lips, etc, what’d she do to my skin, why can’t i do it myself, etc. It ended up being way too irritating for me.
Help. I need some tactics. I don’t want to make my mom change (and i know this post makes her sound incredibly tacky but she isn’t, I swear!) but I also don’t want her looking completely out of place and over the top. Like Mimi! eek. In general, my parents will be flashy and will make it a point to wear more diamonds and stuff than they should. But…I’m concerned she’ll look tacky and sort of, er, stripperish.
Whoa, super long. SORRY!