(Closed) Worried about nephew's behaviour during ceremony

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Arrange for a sitter to take your nephew to the kid’s room during the ceremony maybe? Ugh, sorry I can’t be more help but I feel for you! Is there possibly a teenager in the family who would be willing to miss part of the ceremony for 50 bucks babysitting cash?

Post # 6
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

How about you have the babysitter take your daughter and nephew outside for the ceremony? It’s only 20 minutes right? Let the nephew run around outside and the babysitter can keep a close eye on him. Tell the ILs that you think it best if the kids get to play a bit instead of be stuck inside for a quiet ceremony.

Post # 7
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2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@JrzyGurl:  +1

 

There’s nothing wrong with a little fresh air when you’re 2.
Tell mom & dad that you thought it would be nice to give them 20 minutes of together time, on the house.
Just hope he doesn’t find any mud puddles! ๐Ÿ™‚

ETA: oh, and maybe provide some sidewalk chalk or coloring books to keep them busy. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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2269 posts
Buzzing bee

@rubytuesday813:  Yes! Exactly! When I babysit I take that child out of a room the INSTANT they start to get loud. Because everyone knows it’s not going to be one loud sound. There are always more to follow.

Post # 9
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1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ugh. I removed a nephew/cousin from ringbearer duties because I was terrified of how he would act – I didn’t even think of him interrupting the ceremony…

Post # 10
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7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@rubytuesday813:  Can I strongly suggest that your fiance does the talking? It will be much better hearing it from her own brother, than her Future Sister-In-Law (you). He knows his sister and and should know how to say it.

He needs to say something like, “We know kids can be noisy, so it will be an adult only ceremony. We will provide a sitter to mind Jake and Ella in a separate room”. I don’t see how she can possibly object if your daughter isn’t in there either,

Post # 11
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@rubytuesday813: You can definitely say something! I think you could just say that most of the time you don’t mind (because it sounds like you’ve never said anything before!) but that at your wedding you really want the moment between you and your future husband to be perfect. Let them know you are trying to handle this preemptively before it happens, that you’d be willing to arrange his sitter, and that you would really appreciate it if you didn’t have to worry about your nephew and your family would be able to be at your ceremony with you hassle free!  And also let them know that you would really love for your nephew to be at your reception. Don’t mention their parenting style if you want to keep the peace- just mention your nephew’s behavior and maybe even act like his behavior is normal but you don’t want the babies to be at the ceremony because, let’s face it, the kids have no idea what’s going on, and you’d like your moment to be special. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@rubytuesday813:  PS: apparently we’re date twins one year off! ๐Ÿ™‚ Congrats!

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