Post # 1
I have not been working out constantly, and the wedding is in 3 weeks. I’m actually okay with my size, but I’m not the smallest or terribly toned. Up until several years ago, I was obsessive about my weight and size, and I always imaged that for my wedding I’d be at the peak of my physcal perfection – and of course, working out diligently to that end.
I’m in a healthier state of mind, but I feel like I’m missing out because I’m not so focused on my body and appearance. Is it worth making an extra effort to get in daily gym visits? Will I regret it if I don’t make an effort?
Post # 3
Really I don’t think much is going to change in three weeks, and anyways you’ve probably already had your dress fittings right?
If you’re happy with the way you look, then what’s the worry? I’d start exercising because it’s a healthy thing to do, but I wouldnt be obsessive about it at this point, you’re going to look the way you look.
Post # 4
@april13th: No– you won’t. I am one of those brides who works out about 8-9 hours a week and has done so for our entire year and a half engagement. I am not doing it for a perfect body, I am doing it for stress relief. I promise you that whatever shape you are in now, you will look back 10 years from now and think that you look amazing. Plus, with only 3 weeks to go, you won’t have any impacts other than making your dress not fit correctly. Just enjoy and get excited– it is almost time to get married!
Post # 5
@april13th: I think you need to focus on being healthy rather than your appearance. If you feel good, your beauty will shine out from within. I think in the western world, we have the tendancy to equate thin to healthy, which is incredibly unhealthy. We should be going to the gym because exercise is good for our body, not to fit into a certain dress size; but unfortunately this is usually not the case. If you’re happy with who you are, you don’t need to change a thing.
Post # 6
@april13th: First off, Congrats on the upcoming wedding!! So exciting 3 weeks away! I am getting married in 7 weeks and in a similar situation. I was hoping to work out daily and really start trimming down with a strict diet; as it gets closer I feel like I have more things to worry about and I am comfortable with my body the way that it is. My fiancé loves me the way I am. Not to mention my first dress fitting was last weekend and my seamstress told me not to lose much weight because my dress fits me perfectly and it will cause more money in alterations if I drop a lot; I am a size 8 and comfortable with that, certainly not my smallest but far from my heaviest.
Personally I think if you feel comfortable with your body I say not to stress about it; I don’t think it would be a decision that you would regret. Good Luck!
Post # 7
My wedding being over a year away, I’m balancing on a delicate seesaw between not worrying enough and so forgetting to do anything to get more fit, vs. worrying too much, thinking cruel thoughts to myself and/or approaching it obsessively/unhealthily.
So far I have not called my arms (my main target area) any mean names in my head, but I also haven’t done anything to actually change them either. So I’m inching toward thinking about my body goals a little more.
OP, you are now 3 weeks away and in a good headspace. Your body won’t change much from now until then. Stay the course! Don’t make any drastic changes to whatever you are doing (either “letting loose” or “doubling your efforts”), and do NOT let yourself start getting really worried. You sound like you’re doing very well right now…don’t overfocus on your body’s appearance now. I want to be where you are, 3 weeks before my wedding, and right up until my wedding. My mental state is worth so much more to me than a tiny change in my body’s fitness or fatness.
If you really care later (and you won’t), you can always get your wedding pictures photoshopped to look thinner. They can do that very convincingly these days. But I really don’t think you’ll want to. You know everything is fine. Not perfect because living things cannot be perfect. Just beautiful…which is better than perfect.
Bridal gown body esteem disorder. I swear, it shoud be an actual thing that professionals discuss. If I wasn’t planning to get married in the near future I know I wouldn’t even worry that I might switch to a headspace where I start calling myself cruel names based on my body’s appearance. I could just work out and enjoy it without the chance of obsessing. And I know some people catch it much worse than I could, starving themselves etc. …it’s another thing that is really souring me on the whole WIC.
Post # 8
@april13th: honestly, in 3 weeks you could see soem changes, but not that much,