Post # 1
I have HORRIBLE feet… i hate my feet so much… the only time i dont wear anything on my feet to hide them when i’m at home with just my partner.
Finding good fitting comfy shoes is so hard…even just everyday shoes, I have horrible bunions… i know as soon as someone heres that words some people think eww gross some kind of fungi or growth of the foot… but its not its just from my feet rolling inwards and causing the big toes to be pushed out to the side…. all the girls at work (in an office) ALWAYS wear heels to work… me on the other hand have fat skate shoes on lol i guess thats why i never wanted/liked wearing dresses because that meant trying to wear some kind of fancy shoes to go with a dress. so anyway i’m kindda just venting really but does anyone else have this problem.. maybe not just bunions but something else?
I have a few high heel shoes but i only wear there if i know i’m not going to be walking along in them or wearing them for a long period of time… it hurts being on my tippy toes… i’ve thought about wearing cute flats BUT i want to be taller than my Bridesmaid or Best Man (who is my step daughter and is about 3cm away from being my height now… shes only13.. oh and i’m only 5’3) and my Maid/Matron of Honor who has always been really tall… so they will be flats and i would really like to be in heels LOL it’s just trying to find a nice comfy pair that look pretty for a wedding (even if i have to vamp them up myself)
LOL I hate it when the shoes sales person wants to help me with putting shoes on or finding shoes because i dont want to mention my problem or let them see it… even though i know they have probably seen worse.
I think my probably with my feet started when i was in primary shoes doing sports in the hall with our shoes off and i remember this kid saying "ewwwwwwwww whats wrong with your feet?" at the time i didn’t think anything was wrong with my feet… just different but them that happened and never again has my feet seen the light of day lol.
ok i’ve vented! 🙂 even though i’m sure none of you really wanted to hear about my horrible feet!
Post # 3
see even topics about my horrible feet scare people that they dont even reply LOL!
Post # 4
i have the same problem:(
Post # 5
I’m sorry you have such troubles with your feet! I know bunions can be incredibly painful! 🙁
I would certainly advise you not to sacrifice your comfort for the day, simply to be taller than your bridesmaid. Just think how painful it is for you to walk in heels– do you really want to have that pain with every step on your wedding day? Wouldn’t you be much more comfortable, and much happier, in an adorable pair of flats? I’m wearing flats because I don’t want pinching toes and painful heels to be taking me "out of the moment" and slowing me down, especially since we’ll probably sit down for only twenty minutes or so out of the whole day.
If your concern is simply for the photos, can your photographer just position you a bit higher up, like on a step in your church or at an elevated spot at whatever venue? Don’t be concerned about not standing out enough in the photos, just because of your height– you are the beautiful, glowing bride, and all eyes are going to be drawn directly to you regardless of how tall you are!
Post # 6
my daughter has the same issue
she did go up a half size to make it "hit’ the bunion in the right place, but these are just elegant and very supple glove soft leather~ embellished with pearls.
They are so comfy I ordered a pair in another color…
Post # 7
I have bunions and a neuroma (damaged nerve in between two toes, really really reallyreallyreallyreally painful). yay. Finding shoes sucks!! Hmm what can I recommend. First of all, did you know you can have surgery for bunions, it might be covered by your insurance. Second of all, I would throw off the shame, go get a really nice pedicure (those ladies have seen some gross dirty stinky feet, they won’t even notice your problem if they’re clean) and go shoe shopping with no shame. It’s genetic, it’s not your fault, it’s a problem that you have and it’s just something that IS – try to accept it! (and look into surgery if you wish)
Also as the above poster said, soft "glove" leather and fabric shoes, as well as really open sandals, are the only ones you can get, and there are some beautiful ones out there!
Post # 8
I have problem feet too and I found wearing a wedge sole to the shoe instead of just a thin heel at the back takes some of the discomfort out wearing a heel. It sort of spreads the pressure points around and is more stable so they don’t hurt so much. They make them too so that they are shapped so they don’t look so big and clunky. If you are wearing a long dress they would give you the height and be more comfortable.
If you decide to go for a closed in shoe you can get gell pads that you can slip in the shoes to help relieve pressure points I have found these to be helpful with my feet. I have found these a big help when I’ve had to dress up.
You can also get shoe stretchers that you put in shoes that can gently ease out shoes on pressure points, and a spray you can spray on leather to make it softer which helps too.
I am doing a combination of all of the above as I get sore feet very easily and I am not going to let a pair of shoes ruin my fun at the reception.
Could you have 2 pairs of shoes. One for the wedding and the photos so you are taller, and then a nice comfortable pair of flats to slip into at the reception?
I wouldn’t worry about the shoe sales people seeing you feet they would have seen all sorts. I suspect they would be much more bothered about smelly dirty feet and will have seen bunions aplently. Also if you take them into your confidence, if you get a good sales person they might have ideas on shoes that would fit more comfortably and still look pretty.
Post # 9
I hate shoe shopping too. 🙁 I don’t have your problems, but I have some of my own. Mainly, the fact that I wear a size 4.5-5 in women’s shoes, which is almost impossible to find. Stupid shoe salespeople always try to convince me to wear little kids shoes. It’s embarrassing.
I second wwax’s suggestion of a wedge shoe. You should be able to find a lot of cute, comfortable, closed-toe options out there. Also, this is going to sound weird, but have you looked on http://www.crocs.com? They make a lot of different styles, not just traditional Crocs, including high heels and wedges. The shoes might not be high fashion, but they would be super comfy, wide enough, and give you the height you want for your wedding. Some of the styles are kinda cute, some are kinda ugly, but if no one saw them under your dress, they would still fulfill all your other requirements. At the very least it might give you some options of heels to wear around your office.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay
I have horrible feet as well (too many years of stuffing my size 11 feet into too small shoes…my mom said I would regret it one day & what do you know? I DO!).
It is very difficult for me to wear heels as well, but if I do, I always go with a wedge. I posted about my trouble finding cute white or ivory wedge shoes, and I ended up going with a very small (1") pewter sandal from Target.
Mrs. Spring mentioned about Crocs – and it might sound crazy, but you will be comfortable (which is far more important, in my opinion!). I think Miss Crab Cake did a post on Crocs dressier style – it is worth giving it a shot!
Post # 11
After i posted this board i decided to google bunions… and i did you could have surgery but never thought much into it… until i googled yesterday, I doubt i would be able to get my feet fixed in time for the wedding ha ha i’m sure the recovery time is a while but i will start looking into it, lol it would be a dream to have normal looking feet… stupid i know but yeah… last year i thought "ya know what i’m going to get a tattoo on my foot" I love my tattoo so much and i didn’t get it for anyone else to look at but when someone asks to see it i always make sure i dont pull my sock fully off LMAO!
I will have to have a major hunt for shoes that have a sole that is almost the same height all over… like spice girl moon boots lol
hmm i’m happy that there are people here on the board that are in the same boat as me 🙂 it makes me feel better.
Oh pedicure… omg that would take so much courage to go do that LOL! but thinking about that and shoe sales person you guys are right… i’m sure there are people with dirty feet that would normally be fine if they took care of their feet… i can’t help my problem… i keep my feet clean! HA i wash my feet after work before i go to yoga and pilates…. because i know we’re going to be taking shoes and socks off… and i really dont want smelly feet LOL!!!!!!!!
Post # 12
No foot advice, but I just wanted to suggest buying from Zappos, shoes.com or endless.com so you can try on shoes in the comfort of your own home and not be stressed out about other people seeing your feet. Good luck!