(Closed) worried about shoe buying time when it comes – venting

• Emily Farmer
• 9 years ago

i have the same problem:(

• jhphi
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: January 2008

I’m sorry you have such troubles with your feet!  I know bunions can be incredibly painful!  🙁

I would certainly advise you not to sacrifice your comfort for the day, simply to be taller than your bridesmaid.  Just think how painful it is for you to walk in heels– do you really want to have that pain with every step on your wedding day?  Wouldn’t you be much more comfortable, and much happier, in an adorable pair of flats?  I’m wearing flats because I don’t want pinching toes and painful heels to be taking me "out of the moment" and slowing me down, especially since we’ll probably sit down for only twenty minutes or so out of the whole day.

If your concern is simply for the photos, can your photographer just position you a bit higher up, like on a step in your church or at an elevated spot at whatever venue?  Don’t be concerned about not standing out enough in the photos, just because of your height– you are the beautiful, glowing bride, and all eyes are going to be drawn directly to you regardless of how tall you are!

• Tampamom
• 9 years ago

my daughter has the same issue

she did go up a half size to make it "hit’ the bunion in the right place, but these are just elegant and very supple glove soft leather~ embellished with pearls.

They are so comfy I ordered a pair in another color…

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3019719/0~2376778~2372808~2372904~2376184?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=2376184&P=1

• hunterstorme
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: September 2009

I have bunions and a neuroma (damaged nerve in between two toes, really really reallyreallyreallyreally painful). yay. Finding shoes sucks!! Hmm what can I recommend. First of all, did you know you can have surgery for bunions, it might be covered by your insurance. Second of all, I would throw off the shame, go get a really nice pedicure (those ladies have seen some gross dirty stinky feet, they won’t even notice your problem if they’re clean) and go shoe shopping with no shame. It’s genetic, it’s not your fault, it’s a problem that you have and it’s just something that IS – try to accept it! (and look into surgery if you wish) 

Also as the above poster said, soft "glove" leather and fabric shoes, as well as really open sandals, are the only ones you can get, and there are some beautiful ones out there! 

• wwax
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: October 2009

I have problem feet too and I found wearing a wedge sole to the shoe instead of just a thin heel at the back takes some of the discomfort out wearing a heel.  It sort of spreads the pressure points around and is more stable so they don’t hurt so much.  They make them too so that they are shapped so they don’t look so big and clunky.  If you are wearing a long dress they would give you the height and be more comfortable. 

If you decide to go for a closed in shoe you can get gell pads that you can slip in the shoes to help relieve pressure points I have found these to be helpful with my feet.  I have found these a big help when I’ve had to dress up.  

You can also get shoe stretchers that you put in shoes that can gently ease out shoes on pressure points, and a spray you can spray on leather to make it softer which helps too. 

I am doing a combination of all of the above as I get sore feet very easily and I am not going to let a pair of shoes ruin my fun at the reception.  

Could you have 2 pairs of shoes.  One for the wedding and the photos so you are taller, and then a nice comfortable pair of flats to slip into at the reception?

I wouldn’t worry about the shoe sales people seeing you feet they would have seen all sorts.  I suspect they would be much more bothered about smelly dirty feet and will have seen bunions aplently.   Also if you take them into your confidence, if you get a good sales person they might have ideas on shoes that would fit more comfortably and still look pretty.  

• Mrs. Spring
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: May 2009

I hate shoe shopping too.  🙁  I don’t have your problems, but I have some of my own.  Mainly, the fact that I wear a size 4.5-5 in women’s shoes, which is almost impossible to find.  Stupid shoe salespeople always try to convince me to wear little kids shoes.  It’s embarrassing.

I second wwax’s suggestion of a wedge shoe.  You should be able to find a lot of cute, comfortable, closed-toe options out there.  Also, this is going to sound weird, but have you looked on http://www.crocs.com?  They make a lot of different styles, not just traditional Crocs, including high heels and wedges.  The shoes might not be high fashion, but they would be super comfy, wide enough, and give you the height you want for your wedding.  Some of the styles are kinda cute, some are kinda ugly, but if no one saw them under your dress, they would still fulfill all your other requirements.  At the very least it might give you some options of heels to wear around your office.

• Mrs. Quiche
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

I have horrible feet as well (too many years of stuffing my size 11 feet into too small shoes…my mom said I would regret it one day & what do you know?  I DO!).

It is very difficult for me to wear heels as well, but if I do, I always go with a wedge.  I posted about my trouble finding cute white or ivory wedge shoes, and I ended up going with a very small (1") pewter sandal from Target. 

Mrs. Spring mentioned about Crocs – and it might sound crazy, but you will be comfortable (which is far more important, in my opinion!).  I think Miss Crab Cake did a post on Crocs dressier style – it is worth giving it a shot!

Good luck

• Natakie16
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: May 2010

No foot advice, but I just wanted to suggest buying from Zappos, shoes.com or endless.com so you can try on shoes in the comfort of your own home and not be stressed out about other people seeing your feet. Good luck!