(Closed) Worried about what others will think…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

This is really difficult!  So sorry you have to struggle with what the world thinks.

I’m sure it will be really special for your mom to be involved! You should  have FH or you have a chat with his family beforehand, just to express your concerns and have honesty on the matter.  In reality its none of anyones business, but because they are family and perhaps their are health concerns or triggers, people can help the situation. Its nothing to be ashamed of!

 

Post # 4
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2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

OMG I WISH I had a mental ilness to explain my parent’s erratic behaviour.  I bet plenty of other brides do too 😉

 

Have you thought about having the 2 families meet beforehand?  I’d give them a really quick low-key heads up like “I wanted to let you know that my Mom has issues with anxiety (or whatever the affliction) and it can sometimes effect how she feels in a crowd (or whatever the behaviour)”.  Have a nice dinner in a restaurant, just the parents, or a small family barbecue…

Post # 5
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SunshingBride: I would say that do what you can to make sure she is included, If you have family members that know her and will be there, have them help you with her.

 

Post # 7
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835 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have the exact same problem. Not going to go into details because I would die if somehow my mom read this…. but I would totally have them meet before, or warn the other family in a nice, proper way. I’m going to have the moms get their hair done together the morning of so that they can spend some time together before the wedding. They will meet at the rehearsal, but I wanted them to have a “get to know” session before hand. Good luck!

Post # 8
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835 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

OMG…. Different languages. That is tough. Well the reason I’m doing a “warning” is because my mom actually gets worse when there are crowds or rather, “an audience”…. so maybe thats not the right thing to do in your case. But my mom can’t NOT be noticed….by any means. So if you can fly under the radar, maybe thats a good idea.

Post # 9
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Uggh, it stinks that this has to be a worry for you 🙁

Can your FH explain to his friends/family the jist of the situation if there is a language barrier?  I think that most adults would be able to get VERY few details (just as you provided here) and not judge.  We all have our struggles, so no one should misbehave if they know in advance.

Hope everything goes well!:)

 

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