- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
So most of my family knows that I love vintage things. For my wedding I am having a vintage shabby chic and rustic type of feel to the day. The venue is a barn that has been updated into a banquet facility, and there will be vintage milk glass, and thrifted items all around, many from my personal collection. I’ve handcrafted a lot of things.
My bridal shower, which is coming up soon, (and long story short I also planned and paid for) is a vintage retro housewife theme. I made this quite obvious in the invitations which were over the top, and included an article on how to be a good housewife from a 1955 magazine. Many people “got it” and got a good laugh. But i’ve heard from a cousin, who is kind of narrow minded in her own rite, that not everyone got that it was a joke. She said they just figured it somehow fit in with my theme. Ok…… yeah…..
But anyway, I have a few family members who just aren’t seeming to get it. This doesnt surprise me as they are the ones who seem a little flighty. I know the people who care about me the most are going to rant and rave about how cute it is or was. I’ve already gotten feedback from several family members that they thought my invitation for my shower was a riot, and their hubbies did too. So I know it wasn’t completely lost on everyone.
I’m kind of the black sheep in the family. I’m an artist, and therefore when I’d be talking about deep meanings of my work they were giving me blank stares and i was hearing crickets. So to sum it up, i’m the black sheep. But I guess not everyone can be deep thinkers!
My family has had so many cookie cutter weddings in the last year. And I mean cookie cutter! Two of my cousins had photobooths and everyone thought it was great, because it was different. I have a lot of other very different things happening for my wedding. Things that are common here, but not for my family at a wedding. (I had to convince my Future Mother-In-Law that an adult reception, in the evening, with 4 hours of open bar, wasn’t all that uncommon….) My fear now is that they are not going to “get it” at all. My one aunt said “well, how stupid can you be!” That made me feel a little better but I guess i’m worried now that it will all be lost on some people.
What do you tell people, or how do you cope with people who don’t grasp your theme or concept and kind of give you that look where they just got a whiff of dog poo on their shoe??? As with any good artist, I think i’m questioning my original ideas, although its too late now to go back! When I was in school I had a very brilliant professor tell us that we need to just let it roll off because everyones a critic and you put that pleasant smile on your face and nod… while inside you’re thinking, “you’re insane! Thats the best part of this piece of artwork haha!”
Just looking to get everyone’s perspective on how you deal with those who just can’t step out of the box!