(Closed) Worried and a little irritated that guests won't "get it."

posted 7 years ago in Themes
Post # 79
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543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@nl:  i am sorry, I did not mean for my post to come across as rude at all. Just the way you stated it in your original post it seemed like you wanted it to be more artsy and too unique. also saying no one will get it, kind of makes it seem like your saying everyone attending your wedding is… well stupid. I didn’t mean to offend you. And I know every girl wants her dream wedding, So i wish you the best of luck with yours. If people do not like what you are doing, so what it is your wedding. One of my sisters constantly complains about ideas i have for my wedding, or calls them dumb, etc. me and my fiance are paying so we get to do whatever the heck we want! 

 

not having colors, is probably an eye roll to people but a smart idea. I picked colors and cannot find anything in those colors, so end up having to pay more than i would if i picked other colors. My mom got married a couple years ago, and didn’t pick certain colors and it was beautiful.

 

as for throwing your own shower, WHO CARES!! I would throw my own too if i didn’t have an awesome Maid/Matron of Honor. a shower can be thrown by you, your getting married you deserve one!

 

I am sorry if my original post on this forum was rude, I did not mean that at all. Once again Good luck with everything.

Post # 80
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814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I don’t know what there is to ‘get’… it’s a wedding theme, not a sci-fi novel. Also, if I got an invitation that listed ways to be a ‘good 50s housewife’ you can bet I wouldn’t be laughing…

Post # 81
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I didn’t post the first time that I read through this thread but after reading a bit more I have to say I now understand what you mean.

My first wedding in 1990 was in a barn turned banquet hall…extremely unusual back then…and I wore a blush pink dress…unheard of! For years my (now ex) Mother-In-Law went on about how we got married in a barn of all things but others that attended had nothing but compliments. I even had a MOG tell me how beautiful my wedding was and how her son’s wedding was a travesty…AT HIS WEDDING!

This time, my FH and I are having a Destination Wedding at Disneyworld. We are having a Steampunk theme and I am wearing a deep purple dress! We are asking everyone to dress accordingly. Some have gotten totally into it while others not so much but in the context of OUR relationship it fits. We are amateur actors that met instage during a run of A Christmas Carol. We have a ton of friends from the theatre and love to dress up…including things like renfests, etc. Not everyone would choose this but oh well…it’s our day and they will have a goodgreat time either way!

Some people will never ‘get it’ but it doesn’t matter…what matters is that you will be married and that your (you and your Fiance I hope) wedding reflects the two of you.

Post # 82
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I also have a coworker that hosts themed dinner parties all the time. The people they invite are expected to dress accordingly as they have a costume ‘award’ at each one.

The last one they held was a 50s housewife theme and they had the same/similar article in their invite which he showed to me. It was hilarious. Of course, no one thought that they were seriously saying those things…it was very ‘tongue-in-cheek’. I think it is also a great reminder of how far we have actually come from those attitudes.

Post # 83
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604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Just make sure you have good food, good music and plenty of drinks and I assure you people will enjoy it and remember it!

Post # 84
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2959 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It will be a beautiful wedding and it really doesn’t matter if your guests “get” the theme or not.

Post # 85
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2117 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I completely understand how it feels to be the black sheep of the family. I am definitely the black sheep. I’m untraditional and my family basically is the definition of traditional.  My parents have always wondered what they did wrong for me to turn out the way that I did…. I swear I’m not lying. 

My dream was to have a completely outdoor wedding at an arboretum or garden. But my parents told me that it wouldn’t be “fancy” enough and it would be too casual. So now we are having the wedding partly outside and the rest inside in a ball room (which I hate, btw …. eww the carpets!). 

 

Post # 87
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@nl:  “I also found it quite humorous that a few women on these boards found it offensive…when an independent woman was paying and planning her own shower because no one else was around to do it.”

I don’t think anyone was offended that a women be independent enough to plan a party. Not throwing your own bridal shower is the same idea as not throwing your own engagment party or even your own birthday party — any party that revolves around giving gifts to you shouldn’t be thrown by you. It’s seen as tacky, especially by people in older generations. It’s called a bridal “shower” because the point is to “shower” the bride with gifts. You’re essentially hosting a party for yourself, asking your guests to shower you with gifts, which is why some people have called you out on it on this thread.

Personally, I’m on the side of do what works best for you and your social circle. If this is socially acceptable with your friends and family, then you know them better than we do.

Post # 88
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2285 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

I don’t really get why you’re bothered by this. You describe yourself as a quirky artist, yet you don’t understand when your non-quirky/non-artsy family members don’t get your jokes and uber-coolness. They’re just different people than you. I think your wedding and parties sounds like a riot! I too love the vintage/antique/50’s thing. I completely get you and your idea here. But why are you upset that some people don’t find it funny or cute? Your style is obviously different than theirs, just do what you want and shrug off any weird looks from them. But there’s no point making a big thing out of nothing.

Post # 89
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

what @allihappy said: “Just make sure you have good food, good music and plenty of drinks and I assure you people will enjoy it and remember it!”

The theme and the vision, that stuff is for you.  People just want to eat good food and have fun.  Don’t get irritated if people don’t “get it.”  They really don’t need to.

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