(Closed) Worried guests are going to bail…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@hyperJulie:  an hour trip is not long as all, especially for people in a city, travelling for an hour would be nothing, we live out of town so often have to travel 2.5 hours to visit friends in the main city near we live. I would also be excited to go to a hotel after a wedding as then people dont need to worry about driving. But if you are really stressed out about some of the other things you have mentioned is there time or money to change them?  Personally I think BBQ sounds very nice & I would love that.  Also maybe your Mum’s negativaty is causing you more stress, her comments do not sound hepful at all, I am sure many of your guests & friends are excited and cant wait to come. Can you purchase some lines for cheaper then renting them or do a list of things you are paying for that you could cut down on to save some cost?

Post # 4
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1357 posts
Bumble bee

Your plans sound wonderful!

We’re planning a wedding in which maybe 10% of people will not have to stay in a hotel (we’re immigrants and most of our guests are family), and we’re expecting most to show up. So I’d say your guests should definitely not have a problem! 

Although we’re requesting no gifts due to many of our guests having to travel from Europe, which is about 1200$ round trip ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

And honestly, looking at it financially, I’m half-hoping that more people than I expect will decline… Also from all the weddings I’ve attended, the intimate ones were the best, because everyone got to know each other, have a good time, and be able to hang out with the bride&groom during the reception. 

Don’t worry about it. Be happy ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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25 posts
Newbee

@hyperJulie:  I understand the hotel price issue – I’m getting grief from Future Father-In-Law that people who don’t live in a big city don’t realize hotels are expensive.  I got a rate of $230 for the hotel the wedding is at which is a super nice place in the middle of the city and another rate of $160 for a hotel a few blocks over. For the middle of summer those are good deals here.  It is going to be a lot of money for people to come but that goes with the wedding and really what can I do? I wanted a city wedding so that’s what I’m doing.  Im stressed over all things that are all about pleasing all the guests and while yes, the guests are important ultimatley us Brides should do what we like, want, and need. 

I love BBQ and museums so I wish I could go to your wedding! I also LOVE staying at hotels! RELAX – it’s going to be great! 

Post # 7
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1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

my reception ends at 10 and I have a couple friends who don’t want to spend money on a hotel so they’re going to make the 4 hour drive home.. 10 isn’t too late ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@hyperJulie:  I am sure your Mum is making you feel worse especially as she doesnt like travel or weddings so she has a skewed view of it all.  Also I dont know what costs linens are or anything in the USA as I am from New Zealand but have seen other bees say they bought them chepaer but I am sure different areas have differing costs :-).  Ours are included but we are having a wedding in Thailand as we have so many friends spread out overseas so our guests are travelling a long way. Most of them are excited and cant wait but we have had negative comments from some of FI’s family but I am over that now, and finally I am getting excited for our wedding too.

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