(Closed) Worried I have fertility issues

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

These kind of thoughts are doing way more harm than good. Ask yourself these questions in a year if nothing happens, until then seriously chill out. 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

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katiecat89 :  My biggest suggesetions to you would be to temp as well as use OPKs.  That way you can confirm that you are ovulating and you can see what is going on with your body.  I would KILL for 25-27 day cycles.  I do have fertility issues and my cycles range from 35-40 days when not on medication.  It is my understanding that cycles aren’t a problem as long as they range from 26-35 days.  Keep in mind as well that your body can take a little bit to become adjusted to not being on BC. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

“I just don’t understand how so many people get it on the first try.”

Easy enough to explain… They don’t – at least not “so many” of them. Like PPs have mentioned, 80% of normal, healthy couples at 27 don’t get pregnant on the first try, and your odds are only about 50/50 after three months. You need to be realistic about TTC, which in your case sounds like digesting the odds data and perhaps having a glass of wine. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

I would suggest doing the Sperm Meets The Egg plan.

Post # 20
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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LilliV :  I’m not saying no one should complain cause we all feel real pain, I understand that.  I really dont want to discount yours or anyones pain just cause I or other have gone through “worse”.  I know of ladies who have tired for over a decade, and upwards of 10 IVF cycles, but that does not make my pain any less either.  It just got to me to I open a thread about “fertility issues” to maybe lend some input or advice, and it was associated with one natural cycle of trying.  Any who, I’m just gonna bow out of this thread now….

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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katiecat89 :  if you don’t know when you ovulate and are just guessing, I would be having sex more  days in case you are wrong. It took my husband and me 4 months to conceive when I was 32 years old- perfect normal. After a few months of trying I used an OPK to get a better idea of when I ovulated to concentrate our efforts a bit more. Like others have said- it just takes time. Chances are you are fertile and will conceive within 6 mo this of trying.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You are going to drive yourself crazy if you get this way every month.  And if you get this way about TTC, pregnancy is going to be even harder because there are a million things that can happen that you have very little control over.

I really suggest finding someone that you feel comfortable talking to about your fears, because they will get the better if you if you don’t.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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BeachBee1988 :  what’s this from? That is very interesting!

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Many of the other bees have already said it, but seriously stressing yourself out this much only 1 cycle in, will not help speed up this process. Just take a breath and relax. 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee

I second everything everyone else said, but also— how informed are you about the ttc process? I don’t mean to be rude, but your post comes off that you don’t really understand all the logistics of what it takes to get pregnant. Having sex a couple times near your suspected ovulation date doesn’t equal pregnancy.  In fact, I am surprised that you’re surprised you didn’t get pregnant on your first cycle. The odds are COMPLETELY against you getting pregnant on your first cycle trying. While it DOES happen, it’s a rarity. 

Also there’s pretty slim chances you can deliver 3 babies before you’re 30. Pregnancy is 40 weeks + at least 6 weeks of recovery. That’s 46 months for each baby. The only way you could have 3 kids before your 30th birthday is if you got pregnant 6-8 weeks after delivering each of your babies. While it does happen (irish twins!) it is not SUPER common. 

I think you just need to be realistic, and look at the averages of how long things typically take. Don’t panic until you’re at the point of needing to be concerned.

Post # 28
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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italianbride0508 :  lol not to mention getting pregnant 6-8 weeks (or even 3 months) after delivery is TERRIBLE on your body and poses significant health risks for the unborn child and you.  Nature meant to space babies farther out for a reason.

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