(Closed) Worried I have fertility issues

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It took us about a year to get pregnant. And I don’t have any reproductive issues, just long cycles. I’m now currently 21 weeks pregnant. All it takes is one time.

Post # 48
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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katiecat89 :  You realize that even if you had PCOS, it doesn’t mean that you can’t conceive on your own.  I have friends with diagnosed PCOS who have gotten pregnant without any medical help easily enough.  It just might take them a bit longer since they can have irregular or longer cycles (which is why some might need meds to help regulate their cycles).  Since you have regular cycles I wouldn’t be as worried at this point considering you’ve tried for ONE month.  You can have sex every day of the month and your odds are still only 20% for any given month.

Post # 49
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Busy bee

I had 25 day cycles for a while after coming off BC. Your fertile window is RIGHT AFTER AF ENDS! It is so strange. Make sure you downloard FF.

Post # 51
Hostess
8146 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I remember when I started TTC. I got so upset after the first, second and third cycles didnt work. It took me 5 cycles (but we lost our son), so its hard for me to see super fertile ladies walking around as well. A few things: Ovarian cysts are normal. As long as they dont burst or cause INTENSE pains, it shouldnt affect fertility. PCOS usually has many obvious symptoms. LONG (like over 40 days) and irregular cycles. 25 one time, 55, 100 another time.

Textbook (aka unicorn) cycles are 28 days and you’d expect to ovulate on day 14. So you’d have sex day 10-15. I have cycles that are around 30-32 days and that means I ovulate around cycle day 17 or 18 sometimes 20. Long after some people would’ve stopped BDing. Sometimes a two week wait between ovulation and AF could be 12 or even 10 days, which makes it even more important to really know when you ovulated. counting back 14 days will not always work. 

I strongly recommend trying a few more cycles. Try and relax and have fun. Maybe start to have sex starting right after AF ends (every other day at least) and continue it until you’ve sucessfully confirmed ovulation or AF comes. Either by checking fertile signs or taking your temperature or even using OPKs (ovulation predictor kits). When you want something so badly, it hurts to have to wait and to see others. We are now TTC again to try and bring home a baby. It’s been 6 cycles this time and it doesnt get any easier. You find ways to cope. It WILL happen.

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

You seem very naive on the entire reproductive process. Don’t worry, I’m pretty sure the majority of the population are because we are never given all the pertinent information. Instead of freaking out after one cycle, educate yourself. The more you know, the more self assured you will be. Read the book Taking Charge of your Fertility. I actually think everyone women should have to read it in high school. Even if you think you know about how the reproductive system works, still read it. Cover to cover. It’s going to give you a better idea of what you need to do, what can cause delays, and a long way down the road, if there is an issue, you’ll be so much better prepared to take action and work with your doctor on solutions. 

Post # 54
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Busy bee

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BeachBee1988 :  hey can you do that for a 31 year old? Where did you find that info?

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You likely had functional cysts on your ovaries. These have no bearing on fertility and in fact- can reassure you that your body is doing what it needs to do to get pregnant. The cysts associated with PCOS are a whole other ballgame and if your doc told you not to worry, you have no other symptoms of an endocrine disorder- I doubt you have PCOS/cysts contributing to fertility struggles. 

I am 30. I have had cysts since I was 14- including when I was on BCP. It took about 6 months of NTNP but definitely having sex in the “fertile window” before we got pregnant. The month it happened was one where my usually clockwork period came early. Now I wonder if I ovulate differently than my app told me…the typical day 14. 

My suggestion (other than breathe and relax) is to grab an OPK. It would have put my mind at ease to know I was ACTUALLY ovulating and if I were going to really try, to know when. Good luck. 

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I have PCOS and thyroid issues and convinced naturally. It took 12 cycles, which compared to some of these women is a breeze. When we started trying I wasn’t even having periods but every couple months.I understand you are worried but if I were you I would start temping every morning and tracking everything in an app. It will give you something you can focus on and control every day. Wishing you the best. 

Post # 59
Hostess
8146 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

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katiecat89 :  My best advice to you (non-TTC) would just be to enjoy the process as much as you can. There is a quote “worrying is the greatest misuse of the imagination”. If you’re concerned call you doctor for testing and follow what they suggest.  🙂 Thank you and good luck. Enjoy the time with your DH in the meantime as well!

Post # 60
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I’m 27 too, and I woudn’t stress out at this point! DH and I tried TTC for five months with no luck. We were taking a break due to the stress of it, and were going to start again next cycle (making it a 3 month break)…aaaaand I think I am pregnant. I am going to the doctor to confirm today, but three positive tests, loads of symptoms and my period being 12 days late makes me feel pretty confident I am. 

Even if by some weird twist of fate I’m not, I still wont worry.

Stress is the biggest thing against you right now. Just relax and enjoy it 🙂

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