Post # 1
Ok, so a co-worker and myself are both getting married in April. She is April 10 and I’m at the end of April. We don’t see each other that often outside of work, but there are those times when all the girls get together and we hang out and have a good time! So, my bridesmaid who also works with us is throwing me a bridal shower- she asked me to make out a list of who I wanted to invite from work… well, I put my co-worker on the list ( didn’t really think anything of it) Her bridal shower was held last weekend, hosted by her co-workers that work in her section- I wasn’t invited- the shower was actually kinda kept on the DL.
So now I feel like I’m the one out there just inviting people for gifts! that was never my intention!! I might be up in my head with this, but I’m really worried now that I invited people from work that I might not really be that close too 🙁 I have been told that I am a worry wart… but this one is really getting to me! I just want everyone to have a good time, including myself. Please… is there anyone else in the same boat as me, or just let me know what you think! <3
Post # 3
I wouldn’t read too much into that! You’re fine!
Post # 4
I think you’re overthinking it. 🙂 Really and truly.
I would say that if you’re REALLY worried, you could shoot her (the one planning the shower) a casual email and say you just realized how many people you put on the list and you don’t want to overwhelm her with planning such a large shower, and offer to cut back if she hasn’t already sent out invites. Or you could shoot her an email and say something asking her to put ‘no gifts please’ on the invites (that assumes, of course, that you genuinely don’t want gifts) – you’d still probably get a few, but fewer. People wouldn’t feel obligated that way.
Post # 5
Well, this isn’t the first time I’ve been told that I make too much of things! 🙂 I won’t let it bother me anymore!! Bring on the shower!! Thanks!
Post # 6
I’m like you. But I would say, try to be zen about it. She might be thinking, “Oh no, I didn’t invite mntbridenc to my shower!” And who knows the circumstance of her wedding. Maybe she has a really limited budget, and would have liked to invite more people. Or maybe she’s a bride that just really wants a super small wedding, nothing personal to casual friends.
But it sounds like her office shower is a little different than the shower your Bridesmaid or Best Man is inviting her to. Are you planning on inviting her to your wedding? (That would be proper for your type of shower.)
Post # 7
Agree with Tanya123 – since your shower isn’t just for your coworkers, you shouldn’t invite the coworker with the 4/10 wedding to the shower if she isn’t invited to your wedding.
Post # 8
She might have been the rude one not inviting you to her shower. But everyone’s situation is different, her shower could have been a surprise and the hosts didn’t even know you existed or it could have been very small and intimate, you can’t just assume it’s the same situation as yours.
But are you invited to each other’s weddings?
Post # 9
Are all the people who you invited to the shower also invited to your wedding? I think you would only look like a gift monger if you didn’t also plan to invite all of your co-workers to your wedding 🙂
Otherwise, you’re fine! Don’t worry 🙂
Post # 10
Agreed with Miss Root. Technically you shouldn’t invite anyone to the shower that you’re not inviting to the wedding. The only time this is okay to do is if you’re co-workers take it upon themselves to throw you a co-workers only shower. If this shower is your main bridal shower (with family and friends), you shouldn’t invite co-workers who aren’t invited to the wedding. If they are invited to the wedding, you’re good to go! 🙂
Post # 11
This shower is being put together by my co-worker who is also a BM- and only work people are invited- so I guess I’m ok! Thanks everyone for the feedback! My mom is having a shower for me in my hometown and the only people invited to that one is wedding guests. From what I’m hearing, I’m good and probably made too much out of it 🙂
Post # 12
I think since it’s a work shower, you were being nice by thinking of inviting all of your coworkers that are friends. If she doesn’t want to come, she won’t, so I wouldn’t worry about it. It’s better to err on the side of over-inviting than hurting someone’s feelings by not inviting them.
Post # 13
Ditto @sapphirebride…she said EXACTLY what I think is best.