Post # 1
Considering how much time and effort (and time on Weddingbee!) that I’ve put into my wedding, I’m scared it’s going to be really hard for me when it’s all over. Are any of you worried about that? Any thoughts or advice would be much appreciated! xoxo
Post # 3
Keep reminding yourself: it’s the part *after* the wedding – i.e. the marriage – that’s the whole point! A little bit of letdown after a big event is totally normal, but ideally the marriage and the rest of your lives together is the part to really look forward to!
Post # 4
@mrsplanner: I think some people are relieved to get it over with, others are sad it’s done, and a third camp never cared too much in the first place.
I think the key is to know that it’s ok to be sad, but you’ll have the memories and photos and the goal of a wedding is to be married… so you’ll have the husband 😉
The best thing to do is to make sure you have something to look forward to when it’s over. It can be something as simple as planning a long weekend away two months after the wedding… or knowing that you’re going to get a new puppy.
We go on nice trips a few times a year and I get really sad when it’s back to reality. I mope for a few days, get back into reality, and then I am looking forward to our next trip. It helps a LOT to have something planned, or even just in the works (like nothing booked yet).
Post # 5
I have no idea how I will occupy my time after! Two years will have been spent planning this thing…
Post # 6
@mrsplanner: I went through all kinds of feelings after the wedding – first, relief that it was all over, and then 2 weeks later, it hit me that I missed our wedding! There were days when I just couldn’t be here on weddingbee because I was so jealous of all the new brides still planning. I pretty clearly got over that because I’m still here. 😉 At any rate, getting our wedding photos from our photographer really helped me deal with my “I’m sad my wedding is over!” ness. 🙂 Don’t worry, all those feelings are totally normal.
Post # 7
I was worried about that too since I spent so many nights on DIY. But surprisingly, Darling Husband and I were both happy when the day was over and have been living in newlywed bliss since. 🙂 We weren’t huge fans of ALL the attention that was constantly on (mainly) just us the whole day, so I think that’s why we were both a little relieved afterward.
Suggestion: We just made sure to stop during the day (even told each other this out loud) and take it all in…that helped us to remember to actually note and enjoy many of the highlights so there were no regrets to follow. 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for your response! Great advice! I think I will work on taking it all in day by day and planning trips after it’s all over. 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@mrsplanner: I am, IDK what I’ll do at work (I spend a lot of time on WB). Fiance says I’ll have to find a hobby and I hope to go back to school so I hope that will fill my time but yes you are certainly not alone in your fears!
Post # 10
I was pretty depressed after we got back from our honeymoon. The wedding plans had taken over my life and I was left with the sense of not knowing what to do next.
I immersed myself in things I was already doing and over committed but in the end it brought me back to feeling more like myself. Use the time to organize your life, your gifts, your home and anything else that may have been ignored during your feverish planning.
We understand how you may feel so don’t hesistate to ask for positive thoughts when you are feeling down.
Post # 11
It’s sad. I still want to have my day back and do everything exactly the same because it was amazing. I guess it will just take some time.
Post # 12
No. I will be happy to stare at the pictures and marvel in my accomplishments lol. Pulling this thing off from thousands of miles away isn’t easy. When its done I will be happy we all got a great party out of it.
Post # 13
YES!!! I talk with my mom about that all the time. She spent 10 months planning her wedding and talks about how she left the reception crying not because she was unhappy but just because there was so much time and effort put in to the day and after 12 hours, it was all done. I feel I’m going to be the same way, especially considering I have a 22 month engagement! I know that the day is just to symbolize what comes after and that after is the important part, but it’s hard to let go when all that time, money, and effort has been directed at the wedding for that long. We’ll see how I am when the day comes.
Post # 14
You’ll just have to fulfill your time with other “projects” like making an awesome marriage and life!
Post # 15
I’m already sad.
You dream of this day for SO long. I keep thinking of everything we’ve “checked” off of the list. Monday is the cake tasting, next weekend we’re going centerpiece shopping. But pretty much everything is done and it’s so sad.
Guess I’ll have to obsess over a baby next.
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
I was sad a few weeks later. I had a couple little things that didn’t work out the way I had hoped and I didn’t feel as though there was enough time to talk to everyone at our wedding.
As for time, I’m thrilled to have time to do other things. I loved all the little projects I did, but I put some hobbies on the back burner for wedding planning and I feel like I can pay attention to them again. 🙂