(Closed) Worried my dream day will offend/upset people

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9181 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Do it!  It sounds great.  I would think that your very closest family would be able to talk and hang out and have a great time together without the need for external entertainment.  You could always have a great iPod playlist playing if people do want to dance.  No point in trying to please the Mother-In-Law, and it’s very true that with a kid, you’ve got more important priorities than blowing a bunch of money on a party.  It’s your day, do what you want!

Post # 4
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

You need to do what makes you comfortable, ultimately that is most important.  Other people may have an opinion or wish list for you, but the only one that really matters is what is on you and your FIs list.


Post # 5
2250 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think that sounds perfect!! We are having a small wedding as well, mostly family and very close friends. You’ve done the other and it wasn’t what you wanted! This time, make it about you and your Fiance… that’s the way it should be ๐Ÿ™‚

If anyone were to make a comment (and, unfortunately, you may get a few), just explain to them how you feel exactly like you just explained to us.

Post # 6
11419 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@weenie:  Unfortunately, it seems that there is always someone who will be critical of something.  Since it’s impossible to please everyone, I wouldn’t be too upset if some of your friends and family do not share your vision.

I think the type of day you envision sounds lovely. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I agree with PPs…do what you and Fiance want to do!

Post # 8
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I really don’t think anyone else gets a say in YOUR wedding. If this will make you happy, then it sounds wonderdul. Its definitly not uncommon to have a small wedding! Plus, like you said, there are other things to spend money on.Good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It’s your day, celebrating your relationship.  It should be what you and your Fiance want.  Not what everyone else wants.  If you give in to what other’s want you will probably regret it.  I say trust your gut and everything will be perfect for you and your Fiance.

Post # 10
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

As long as your happy, that’s all that matters!

Post # 12
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

MILs are just like that. Mine tried to move my venue several times. You just gotta stand your ground. Besides, it’s not your fault her daughter eloped. She should have exercised control in that situation, since her daughter was the bride, instead of trying to live vicariously through someone else’s daughter. Besides, she isn’t offfering to pay, is she?

You have a kid, and the kid should be your biggest responsibility, especially since it sounds like you had your “princess day” and you aren’t too keen on another one. People should understand. Besides, it sounds like fun to me.

Post # 13
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@weenie:  That sounds amazing and really fits everything you wanted ๐Ÿ™‚ I hope you post pic, sounds like it will be lovely. Screw entertainment, give me creme brulee!

Post # 14
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@weenie:  I say do what you want, but take the time to explain why you are doing it to all parties involved. Talk to your Future Mother-In-Law and every guest to say “I want to make sure you know that our wedding will be a little untraditional. Instead of having a fancy recpetion, it means much more for us to treat you to a nice dinner at a restauarant. We will be forgoing the set menu, cake, and awkward dancing, which really isn’t me, and instead will be giving our guests the option to order off of the entire menu and have a night of conversation and laughter.”

Post # 15
2297 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@weenie:  that sounds freaking magical – DO IT!

Post # 16
3230 posts
Sugar bee

@weenie:  You will never satisfy everyone so you might as well satisfy yourself. Your wedding sounds like it will be lovely!

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