Worried my injury ruined the proposal…

posted 1 week ago in Proposals
Post # 2
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Bummer! Just focus on getting healthy. The proposal will come soon enough 🙂

Post # 3
5720 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Why would it taint the happiest day of your relationship though? 

Post # 4
8450 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

newbee5 :  

Do you really think your fi would withhold the ring due to your injury having ‘ruined his plans’  in some way? I hope not !! 
You are very self blaming in your post  OP, (‘tainting ‘ wtf!) l hope he is not blaming you too. Frankly, l’d like to hear he just proposed and gave you the ring rather than all this ‘planning’ I never understand it , apart from thinking about the words and the place, what is this elaborate planning some men seem to need .

Hope you get better soon OP And get your ring soon too.

Post # 5
77 posts
Worker bee

newbee5 :  Girl I’m sorry that sucks! I know it’s super last minute but could your family fly to come see you guys instead? I’m in the medical field so I can tell you that nothing is worth risking a flight with a blood clot, I’m sure you know that, but I’d just like to reiterate it since I know you’re disappointed!

Are YOU set on celebrating with your family? If not, I’d tell your boyfriend that while it’d be great to celebrate an engagement with your family, you can always celebrate later, and it’s more important that you get engaged to him and start planning your life together! 

Post # 6
238 posts
Helper bee

Only two things can really taint a proposal: one that doesn’t happen and one that ends in the wrong answer.  

I assume you are with someone who is not so superficial that he would delay a milestone because your misfortune would ruin the photo op; and I assume your answer to the proposal would be ‘yes’.   There you go.  Problem solved.

Enjoy your engagement. Glad you got out of harm’s way.  Get well soon!

Post # 8
2045 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

newbee5 :  my husband proposed in his underwear, which I don’t think either of us planned on happening but it was still an amazing day. Stuff goes wrong all the time and life is just about adapting to that and carrying on anyway. You evacuate people from the wildfires, surely you know life is all about things not going to plan? The main thing is to focus on getting better. The proposal will still be amazing, even if not what you planned.

Post # 9
8450 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

newbee5 :  

I am glad to hear that he is kinder to you than you are to yourself!. I think he may forego his plans and just propose right now, that would be lovely. 

Post # 10
3794 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

newbee5 :  Sorry about your foot & diagnosis OP! I’m sure your injury wont derail everything entirely. It may require a change of plans but I’m sure it’ll be a beautiful moment anyways. I had a really bad stomach ache the night my Fiance proposed. I was running to the bathroom every half hour all throughout a lovely dinner he made for me haha. There was romantic music playing and candles everythwere and I was disappearing into the bathroom for 20 mins at a time. Im sure it made him extra nervous since it gave him a lot of extra time by himself to think lol. But we still had our beautiful moment and I actually kind of forget that I spent a majority of that night in the bathroom lol. Be kind to yourself! Wishing you a speedy recovery!

Post # 11
281 posts
Helper bee

I got SUPER sick with a terrible head cold the day of my proposal. We went away for the weekend and all I wanted to do was sleep. I was dosed up on cold meds day and night. I napped before dinner instead of our planned activity. My husband was super patient and understanding which only reassured me he was the right one. He didnt resent me for “ruining” that day. He just loved me and let me rest and still made it special for me.

Also I had a blood clot in a PICC (central line going straight to your heart) and the treatment was just 6 months of blood thinners. No big deal as long as they are managed.

Congrats on your impending proposal!

Post # 12
10859 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

newbee5 :  

Oh, Bee.  I am so sorry you went through the fires and the scare of a blood clot along with your injury.

A proposal today, tomorrow, next month, in three months, does it truly matter?  What you have is so precious—a partner who you know will be there for you all the way, whatever curve balls life hurls at you.  Celebrate that for now.

Trust him to know when it’s proposal time. He sounds like a pretty good egg.

Post # 14
922 posts
Busy bee

I’m just glad to hear your safe from the fire. 

Post # 15
3533 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

If it makes you feel any better, I “ruined” our proposal by not realizing where the conversation we were in the middle of was going and telling him to wait there because I wanted to continue this conversation but needed to take a shit … Sooooo… Yeahhhhh… Lol

Sucks you broke your foot, but I don’t see why that would take away from any of the joy of the occasion. Even if it means he has to adjust his plans, the end result is still the same – you’re getting engaged and gonna get married. 

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