- 8 years ago
I’m up at 5:30 am worried because I think my SO might be changing his mind about getting engaged. Okay, technically, we’re already engaged. I popped the question to him back on Sept 8, and he said yes, but that he still wanted to do things the traditional way before we became officially engaged since his family is very conservative.
When he first talked to his mom about getting me a ring she seemed hesitant, but not disapproving. However, when we picked out a ring a month later and he showed her a picture of it, she told him that she didn’t think we were ready, that he didn’t have a job in his field yet, and they didn’t know me well enough. She said that his parents wouldn’t support him spending part of his savings on my ring rather than using it at a fall back in case his job didn’t work out.
She has some good points, I’ll admit. He’s trying to get a job as a graphic designer, and it’s slow going right now. But chances are any job he has will take him out of the area, and I want to be engaged before that happens.
The bit about not knowing me well enough is total BS though. I’ve been with him for almost two years, and he lives with them. They have seen me almost every day for two years. However, they allowed their daughter to get married to a man they’d met twice and skyped with a handful of times because she lives in Missouri.
I agreed to suck it up and take his mom out for coffee and spend time with her one on one. Hopefully that will help.
This combined with problems I had with my mom, are making him antsy and anxious about any proposal.
But today he looked at me and went, “Are you sure you want to get married?”
I said yes, but now I’m worried that this really meant, “I’m not sure I want to do this now, but I want to make you happy.”
P.S. When he talked to his father, he completey approved and gave my SO his formal blessing. I think his mother thinks I’m not good enough because I have differing views on religion than his family.