Post # 1
Hello! Need advice! My fiance and I are having a small wedding of about 30 people in Honoulu, Hawaii next month! We live here due to him being in the military, but most of our guests are not from here. Since it is such a small group and we wanted to keep it budget friendly we are having more of a casual dinner reception at a nice restaurant. However, the area where we are having it is semi-private. I am starting to freak out that it may be weird that it is not totally private and there may be other restaurant patrons seated very close to us. Do you think its awkward if we still do things like maid of honor and best man toast? Just starting to get really nervous that guests are expecting something much more traditional! Need advice/encouragement!
Post # 2
I think you are overthinking it.
Your wedding is in freaking Hawaii!!! I really don’t think you can not have fun on a beautiful island lol it’s going to be fine!
A casual dinner at a nice restaurant sounds awesome! And I think it could add to the fun having it semi private- the more the merrier to celebrate you!
Relax and enjoy bee!
Post # 3
- Wedding: December 2019 - Our Backyard in Hawai’i
First, congrats! Second, don’t worry! I’ve lived on O’ahu my whole life and moved around a lot of times, from Kahala/Kaimuki area to Kaneohe, to Kailua, to Kapolei, etc. I’m definitely biased but I believe Hawai’i has some of the best people on earth. I promise it’ll be okay. My best friend had her reception at a semi private area of a bar (I know, a bar!) and we tried to make it as “traditional” as possible with the best man/MOH speeches. No one bothered any guests and the bar staff were very friendly and helpful. I agree with neverbeenstungbee, it could add to the fun of having it semi private! My fiancé and I also attended one of our friend’s wedding (our friend’s wife and wife’s family came from Oregon too) at a semi private part of a restaurant and it wasn’t awkward at all.
Post # 4
A wedding of 30 people will be lovely. Youre getting married in Hawaii!!! We were there a year ago for our honeymoon & I fell in love with Oahu. I’m sure all your guests will too.
Post # 5
I think as it is such a private dinner, your guests are very close to you and know how who are and what the circumstances are.
So they’ll expect you just to be you and are coming so they can spend time with you two and celebrate with you! Don’t worry, you’ll have a beautiful wedding day!
Post # 6
I would talk to the manager/event coordinator at the restaurant about your concerns and get their input. I am sure they see it all the time and can ease your worries
Post # 7
agree, a wedding in Hawaii is all the fun anyone needs. Personally I don’t like speeches, so I do think it’s weird to do them at a semi-private reception. Reason being that if I were another customer, I wouldn’t feel right about holding a conversation or getting up for the bathroom at that time. I’d feel oddly forced into something that had nothing to do with me, even if I wasn’t listening. If there’s some kind of divider it might be okay, but if there are people at tables right beside you, then skip or find somewhere else to do it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME
Your wedding sounds very similar to ours! It was a destination for most people, and there were only 33 guests. We had the ceremony followed by a dinner at a restaurant where we had a private room off the main dining room. We did do some toasts, and I think you could definiltey pull it off at a semi-private dinner too!
We were clear with our guests what the plan was though, as we didn’t want them to be dissapointed because they were expecting dancing and the whole shebang. I assume these are your nearest and dearest, and they’ll be so happy and have a great time because they love you and are excited for you and your FH!
Post # 9
It’ll definitely be fun! Look at it this way, lots of events have guest lists of about 30 people – holiday parties, graduation parties, etc and people have a blast! Its a nice intimate setting where people can interact with each other without being overwhelmed. You and your soon to be husband will actually be able to interact with every guest. As far as food goes, most people prefer casual! That was one of the things our guests loved about our wedding actually, we had a ton of causal food that people actually liked. A lot of people leave weddings still hungry when its “fancy” food
Definitely have the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man make a speech 🙂 It’ll be really nice!
Post # 10
I think you should be fine. Good guests roll with the flow. Provide food and booze- everyone will be cozy!