(Closed) Worried that I’m going to HATE my ring…

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Sugaree: Does he know about your past and the other rings that you’ve received?

Would he be willing to go look at rings together so you can show him what you like and don’t like?

It sounds like he’s doing all the right things by finding out metal type and stone cut, so I’d hope that this one turns out to be a ring you love (to go with the right man for you).

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Can you just ask if you can show him pictures of rings you like to help guide him?

This sounds like a very different situation than the last two times – enough that I’d bet that even if the ring isn’t exactly what you want, you’re going to be infinitely happier with it and what it represents.

Post # 6
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167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Do you love him? Do you trust him? Has he bought you ugly gifts before? Try to be happy or your engagement will be marred with worry. Also, if he loves you THAT much and you seriously hate the one he chooses, he will understand if you say you want to go ring shopping together and exchange it.

Post # 7
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree with atalante. It sounds like your two previous fiance’s weren’t too great about the whole process at all!

If it’s that important to you, maybe find a few pictures of something you’d like, and show him “just in case.” Or maybe if you’re at the mall or near a jewelry store you could go in and give him a few ideas. You don’t necessarily need to pick the ring out, but if he has a general idea that would help. However, I think that if your current SO takes the time to search for a perfect ring for you and has even asked about metal type and cut, he’s already doing ten times better than the previous two. I’m sure you’ll love it regardless due to the fact that he is taking that much time and picking you a perfect ring and giving you a proper proposal!

Third times a charm! It sounds like you’ve caught a good this time, congrats! =]

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well, I picked out my own ring after Fiance proposed, but I know that some people don’t like that idea. Could you send him pictures of some rings you like online? If he knows about the past engagements and the ring issues, make sure you’re open about the fact that you really want to like your ring because you’ll be wearing it for the rest of your life, and that those are the styles you really like. I think being completely open and honest about rings (and everything) is the best in any relationship. Since you know it’s coming anyway, it wouldn’t ruin the surprise.

Post # 9
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3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Would Fiance be offended if you wanted to pick out your own ring? It was important to both of us that I LOVE my ring, especially because it’s the mostly expensive thing I wear and I plan to keep mine forever without upgrading. He has a very good idea of what I would like but regardless, we ended up picking it out together, including the diamond itself and the custom setting. He even ordered it with me present. The only thing that was a surprise was when he was going to propose since he had to go pick the ring up after it was made. Another benefit to both of us picking it out together was that I was able to try on different styles and get his input on what looked the best. It might be less romantic, but at least we both love this ring and know 100% it is the perfect one.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Suggest that the two of you go ring shopping together. It’s actually quite common and a lot of fun. For such an expensive purchase, it’s alright to let the cat out of the bag a little bit ahead of time.

Keep in mind the most important aspect of your ring is the center stone. You can easily change the setting if you don’t like the color or type of metal it’s set in. Or if you want sidestones eventually they can be added later. But the center stone is the biggest investment and the most expensive to change. So I would put the most emphasis on that, unless he seems to want you to pick everything out completely.

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