(Closed) Worried that my wedding isn’t special enough

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 17
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175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If it’s any consolation (which I sadly doubt it will be), your list here…

“We’re having an open bar, hor’s douvers, dj, sit down lunch, outdoor garden ceremony (no decorations), and are going to have a caricature artist on the deck for a few hours during the reception as the favor”

And your beautiful centerpieces and other touches are MUCH more fabulous than I could dream for my wedding ๐Ÿ™‚ Things like an open bar and sit down meal are very unlikely to be on my list, but I don’t think that means a wedding won’t be special.

I agree with the other girls here… LOTS of things make a wedding special and the LEAST of these are the things like decor and fancy trimmings. I’m sure you’ll have all of the important special touches in spades ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 18
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5109 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

When you look at the individual parts of the wedding it may seem blah to you… But once you see how everything pulls together its going to be beautiful!!! Dont be so down.. and your wedding will be special enought.. Its your special day!! Your getting married ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 19
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773 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

There are so many great ideas in that!  I LOVE the idea for favors! And things liek decorations for for ceremony… no one will notice (especially if its ina garden).  I have the same fear ALL THE TIME, and just tell myself I’m being a crazy nervous bride.  WHy not post some pics of your DIY projects on WB to get input fromo your fellow bees. It may help reassure you.  And who CARES about a gorgeous cake, I think mine will look just mediocre, and most people don’t even notice.  I think an open bar, good music, and your dress are the 3 things that most ppl pay attention to.

Post # 20
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966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You are marrying your best friend, your partner in life…what could be more special than that?  From the sounds of it your wedding will be lovely, so relax and enjoy.

Post # 21
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1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I gotta say, the LEAST memorable weddings for me are the ones with all the seamlessly classy, perfectly coordinated, preprinted details…yours sounds personalized, beautiful, and like a total blast! Moreover, you’ve put your $$$ into the things that matter for your guests–you guys, food, drink, a fun time (caricature artist–awesome!) Decor is cool but PPs are right, it’s not the thing that really sticks out in guests’ memories. Besides, your centerpieces don’t sound lame at all–mine were fishbowls with white flowers twirled around inside, toile table runners, and cheap clear plastic frames with pics of animals in them for the table number. (It looked better than it sounds.) Yours sound great!

Post # 22
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Aw, your wedding sound LOVELY! Nothing that you described sounds boring. 2-3 vases with a picture sounds like more than enough to fill a centerpiece area & a pure white cake decorated with flowers isn’t “blah” – it’s classic! (maybe I’m biased because our cake was a small white cake with a couple flowers on top)

Like others said, guests don’t remember or even really care about little details (yes, I think the cake style & centerpieces are little details). They’ll remember enjoying a wonderful lunch outside surrounded by the love that you and your fiance shared with them.

Although, yes, I think all brides feel like their wedding is “enough” at some point during planning. It’s a product of the media exposure of what a “dream” wedding should be and the fact that almost no women is going to create that fantasy (with or without oodles of money). I feel like it’s the same as the typical image of the “dream” women. Nearly all of us don’t (and never will) look like women in the media and we know that’s okay, but the feeling of being not good enough sneaks up now and then.

Bottom line, your wedding sounds ah-mah-zing! All your guests will love it and you will love it, because it’s your wedding. Also, I’m all for seeing pictures of that caricature artist’s drawings, because that is COOL!

Post # 23
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7680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

That sounds beautiful to me!  I agree with the others! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 24
Member
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is the reason I stopped watching all those wedding shows. $40,000 for a damn dress. That is more than I make in a year!

Your wedding sounds awesome. Open bar, caricature artist?! I am DIYing everything! While at times I feel totally less than “6th grade”, this YOUR wedding and you put all your time and energy into it to make it so. That is the power of DIY! I am getting married in a garden. They rock because there is no need for decorations. Score on saving money! That right there should make you feel regal. I have been to so many weddings and do not remember all the details. I am sure they do not either.

You are marrying your bestie. Plus you can always have the wedding of your dreams in a few years should you choose to renew your vows. Keep your head up girl. I am sure no one will notice what you may think are flaws. Just love your man as he loves you!

Post # 25
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269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with everyone else, and I hope you are reassured by everyone’s comments! Your details and your wedding plans sound WONDERFUL, and I hope you know that we all mean that. It sounds like you’ve been able to add some really nice things to your day, even if it’s not the extravaganza that will make it ‘memorable’ for everyone.

Us brides all have moments where we’re unsure of what we’re doing. But remember, the day should be memorable to you and to everyone there because they’re witnessing a couple who love each other and want to commit themselves to each other. Seriously. You simply need to let go of those expectations you think other people will have for your wedding, and you should take pride in the wedding you’ve created – albeit a tad different than the one you dreamt about.

Doing so will allow you to enjoy your day and if you have that mindset, you’ll truly believe your wedding will be perfect. And it will be.

Post # 26
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8 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think your wedding is going to be special. I haven’t heard a caricature artist for a wedding. That is awesome. Plus your have a open bar. Your doing better then me.

Just remember no matter what you have as long as you love it then don’t worry about everyone else. If they dont like it then they don’t need to come.

Enjoy your day with what you could afford and just let the love flow!

Post # 27
Hostess
11163 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

First I will say that as long as YOU love your wedding than it is special. This is about your and your Fiance and no one else.

Second, some of the most amazing and beautiful weddings I have been too were budget weddings, intimate and DIY. Some of the tackiest weddings (ie: my cousin’s wedding in Fresno last year) were expensive and over the top. Money doesn’t really make the wedding special (perhaps easier? but not special). It’s what you do with the budget you have making special/personal touches to reflect you and your man.

I would love to see photos of your theme and what you have done so far. Your cake with fresh flowers sounds beautiful, that is what I am doing too. Perhaps with photos and a theme us Bees can give suggestions that are mindful of a budget?

Post # 28
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570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@futuremjm Don’t feel bummed out, I purchased some of my wedding items from Dollar tree (example shepard hooks, cylinders, and pedestal candle holders) yes girl wedding commodities that are big top money here. 

For your cake trust me half of those guest just take a small bite than throw it away I heard it has to do with their denturesLaughing and cavities, and old age.  What I am doing is purchasing faux round styrofoam placing fondant on it (since it will be outside) and making the top tier and the third tier real. I am getting the 1/2 sheets from Food 4 Less. I am saving $100 on that cake.

Open Bar who does that nowadays (only if you are like me coming from a Mexican family where the drinks are unlimited).  Even the brides that spend lavishly have closed bar or make their guest pay!

Remember it is the times like these that you will remember and laugh 5,10,15,50 years from now.

Post # 29
Bee
6468 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

It sounds pretty special to me! Remember, people are always going to compare weddings – and what is special to one, may not be to another. Remember the day is about you guys and honestly? Speaking from a bride whose wedding day passed in a blur, even YOU are going to be too loved up to remember all the little details, let alone everyone else. *hugs*

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