Post # 1
Ok, so, OH and I have designed a ring, and picked a stone. It isn’t huge (1.04ct marquise centre with 0.26 halo), but it’s fairly big by UK standards (most people have a 0.3-0.5cg solitaire, though, times are changing).
We both love it and can afford it. I’m not worried about my friends as they all have fairly expensive rings.
But, I can’t stop worrying about what his friends will think. I’m 33, OH is 51. They occasionally tease about the age gap. They also all got married ages ago, and their wives have fairly small rings.
I know I am being ridiculous, I guess I am just anxious about getting a barrage of comments/questions/criticism, and want reassurance I guess.
Post # 2
You definitely shouldn’t care about what they think. That being said, I feel like marquise stones, even large ones, never quite look their weight – as in, I would perceive a 1 ct round as larger than a 1 ct marquise.
Post # 3
Yeah, I wouldn’t give a damn what they think. You’re happy and your fiancé is happy. His friends can kick rocks. Rock your 1 carat marquise proudly!
Post # 4
People may notice your ring at first when you just get engaged, but it’s not something that will stay on their minds. The truth is that people dont pay nearly as much attention to our rings as we think they do. So don’t worry, just enjoy your ring and don’t feel like you have to defend your choice. I’d love to see a photo.
Post # 5
Screw anybody who says anything negative. Be sure to post pics when you get it!
Post # 7
so rude in such an underhanded way!
OP I’m sure it’s lovely! Marquise stones are stunning. Share a photo?
Post # 8
Don’t worry at all! Don’t let others rain on your parade. If you like your ring then rock it and own it!
Post # 9
I’ve heard that in the UK smaller stones are the norm and 1 carat would be considered large but if you both love it, go for it! Marquise cuts are hard to judge size and weight on anyways. And if trends are changing, and the average carat weight is going up then after a few years it may feel more common and you’ll probably be glad you got what you loved instead of sizing down. If you have pictures please share, your ring sounds lovely 🙂
Post # 10
I have similar thoughts with my ring as my diamond is above average, especially by UK standards. At the end of the day, so long as you’re not being obnoxious about it and not waving it in people’s faces, who cares?
Post # 11
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
Don’t worry about anyone else and rock your beautiful ring!
Post # 12
It’s really none of their business. Just keep repeating that to yourself.
What area are you in? I definitely see plenty of 1ct rings, and definitely most in the range of 0.6-1. Marquise are an unusual shape for the UK too so I don’t think the size can be well judged.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2014 - hotel
I’m in the UK and I’m seeing more and more larger stone enggement rings appearing these days, especially wih younger couples. So I don’t think you’ll need to worry, they are becoming the norm over here.
I have the opposite situation. My stone is small by UK standards. I love it, but people make assumptions about me based on it. Putting it simply, you can’t win, there will also be weirdos willing to make judgements on you based on a shiny rock you wear! But their opinions don’t really matter do they? The only person who needs to love your ring is you.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2017 - Central Park
Definitely don’t worry! I have a large wedding ring and it gets some stares and questions, but I really don’t mind. I know my style is very different and I like what I like. If you love the ring and feel like it is a great reminder of the love you share, then don’t worry.
Post # 15
Rock it girl! My ring is still being designed, but it will be a cluster-double halo-pave-super glitter overload everywhere kind of ring. At first I tried hard to convince myself that I would be okay with just a simple solitaire, as that is the norm around here. then I realized, who really flipping cares what other people thing, I love sparkle and I want somethign I am over the moon about. I came up with a plan to get a simple pave wedding band that will look pretty on its own, so when I don’t feel like going full disco ball I can just wear my wedding band. Perhaps that might work for you?