Post # 16
If you are doing what you want (as in you love your SO and you love your ring), then focus on that and ignore what others say to or about you. Others’ opinions about you are none of your business or concern.
Post # 17
- Wedding: September 2021 - Australia
I know the UK favours smaller rings, but I’m surprised they’d say anything since it’s not like what you bought is outrageously large. Plus, as you say, you are both a bit older and more financially secure than when your friends bought their rings. Why not have something larger if you can afford it? It’s one of the benefits of marrying later! If anyone made any comments I’d probably say something to that effect – ‘well, we’re not young kids so we can afford something a little bigger.’
Plus as the other posters have said, once the initial look at the ring is done, no one is going to really say anything or have it in their minds any more.
Post # 18
- Wedding: August 2017 - Orange County, CA
Hi bee! Rock what you love and dont worry what anyone else is thinking! Your ring sounds like it’s going to be lovely and if you and your Fiance love it that’s what matters. My husband is 25 years older than me and we got married a few years ago. It’s your love that counts ❤️
Post # 19
Life is short…I wouldn’t worry about it. I got engaged when I was living in the UK and it was the 2nd marriage for my husband so he bought me a 2 carat solitaire. I was embarrassed by it in the beginning because my UK best friend got engaged the same month with a .20 antique ring. They used to make comments but my love of jewelry started with that ring. I think after a couple weeks, your own social circle will be used to it. I really worried for nothing because nobody ever said anything in the year’s after we were married. I think rings sizes are changing there. I would go with a simple solitaire or do an oversized halo or some gemstone side stones. Make it look a little more antique or family heirloom.
Post # 20
Do you still have your 2 ct solitaire? Would love to see it!
Post # 21
If your friends are going to be catty about the size of your ring, tbh, you need new friends!
Mine is a small second-hand CZ ring because that was all we could afford. Does it bother me that some of my friends have rocks about 5 times the size of mine? Not at all. I love my ring because it was chosen with love by the man I love. And I assume they feel the same way about their rings.
If you and your fiance love it, that’s all that matters. And people who can’t celebrate the symbol of the love between you are not the kind of people you need in your lives.
Post # 22
thank you! Re face up size, marquise tend to face up bigger than rounds, and mine faces up particularly big (a round of the same carat weight is about 44mm squared, my marquise is 56.7). So it does look much bigger than a round, especially with the halo.
will post a pic of the CAD, I don’t get to see it IRL until we officially get engaged 🙁
thanks! Definitely will post pics when I have it on my finger 🙂
Post # 23
That sounds gorgeous!
Don’t worry about what others think- just be confident with your ring and be proud of it! People may comment on it but so what? just keep repeating how much you love it! You could be starting a new trend towards bigger rings in the UK lol and that’s not a bad thing!
Post # 24
yep you’re probably right lol.
thanks, I love them too! Will share a pic when I get it 🙂
thank you 🙂
yep in the UK smaller stones are the norm. I do know people with larger (1ct plus) diamonds, but they’re less common. That and those I know with larger stones have solitaires, so they don’t look as big.
Post # 25
I changed it to a halo about 5 years after I saw this beautiful antique one in a window in Hatton Garden. I did sort of miss the solitaire at times so I made one in moissanite instead.
Post # 26
I’ve gone for what I think is an antique look: plain yellow gold band, halo in platinum, milgrain on the halo. This is the design;
Post # 27
Awww, I hope you are able to find joy in your ring. At the end of the day its yours and means something to you and your partner. If people are going to talk they are going to talk. Will that change anything? No, most likely they will comment on the size at first ( if they dare although how rude and uncomfortable) in which case you can just have a witty reply and then change the subject. No need to explain yourself or feel badly. Enjoy your Bling!
ps. Make sure you clean it really well before you see any family or friends just so it shines a little brighter.
pss. What is the history of the smaller stone in the UK? I’m from the U.S and I’ve seen this comment around a few times. I’m curious..
Post # 28
what size is yours, do you mind me asking? I do find UK rings are generally so much smaller. It’s also kind of annoying because I know people who have overspent at high street jewellers on smaller rings, mine probably costs the same lol
I’m in Surrey/Greater London. Definitely see big rings, it’s more OH’s friends who have smaller ones (because they got engaged young and a long time ago, before bigger rings were common) that I’m worried about. And possibly my parents’friends (same reason).
It’s also that my marquise faces up large. Then there is the halo. So it basically goes up to my knuckle and is quite wide too. So it will look big. But then, I want big lol
Post # 29
My husband and I have a similar age gap to you and are in the UK. I don’t remember ANY of his male friends asking to even see my ring! They basically had zero interest! Certainly weren’t making any comments about it.
I did have the partner of a friend make a snarky comment about its size (it wasn’t clear to me if he was saying he thought it was too small or too big; it’s relatively big in total size, but it’s made up of a cluster of tiny stones). He’s a jerk anyway though, so whatever. He’s in his 20s.
Post # 30
I’m not one to care about others’ opinions of me. It’s none of my business. Once you stop caring, it’s liberating. Wear your ring proudly, which was given to you by a man you’re proud to call your fiance’! As a side note, I’ve had three relationships with men 15, 20, and 22 years older than me. I just have a thing for older guys, I guess. Distinguished men are so sexy. My fiance’ is only 9 years older, so he’s still a baby. Haha.
I would love to see your ring! Marquise stones are my favorite, next to round.