(Closed) worried about stone size and rude comments 2ct

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Post # 46
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

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raeann1984 :  I own moissanite and diamonds. I wear both. Often at the same time. I love both a lot. In the last 6 years only ONE person has ever asked me about what a particular stone I was wearing was. I have had people look as much at my diamonds as my moissanites. 

An 8mm stone on you won’t look huge, but if it is a stone that is larger for your area, or that others might assume out of your financial reach you may get more looks or questions. Only you can decide if you are comfortable with that. But truly, most people in real life don’t give a damn about your rings.

Honestly, I find it funny when people on here are sooo sure they can tell in real life what someone was wearing at normal viewing distance. I have owned *many* moissanites, have a good eye, and and I still can’t say that with certainty I could identify every moissanite in person if worn on someone else, especially on normal viewing distance. Real life just is not the same as looking at a static, blown up photo. These days there are so many advances in composition and cut (people say they can tell by “splintery rainbows” – well, um fine if you are looking at a classic 6H moissanite round brilliant cut but with 4H stones, H&A cuts, asschers, OECs, and so on the game has changed.) I’ve worn diamonds that showed more rainbow fire than moissanites, I have worn moissanites that side by side perform almost exactly like my diamonds. I have had my jewelers stunned to be told something I brought in was moissanite and gone to check it out under a loupe.

Really, the advances in the many years I have owned moissanites have been pretty amazing – I did have moissy earrings even long before I married so I have had moissanites since not long after they first came out and I do remember well the more “green” moissy. Now we are at colourless, some truly excellent cuts, and compositions that mean diamond-like performance. Pretty cool.

Unfortunately, some of the snobbery remains consistent over the years.

Post # 47
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Blushing bee

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mrshomemaker :  Passing off something less expensive as more expensive is tacky, IMO. It’s like trying to say a knock off handbag is the real deal. But some people need to fake their status due to insecurity so… 

Post # 48
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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raeann1984 :  I don’t think you have any reason to worry.  For what its worth, I am a size 4.25 and wear a 1.7 carat diamond.  Not once have I received a rude comment or been asked if its real.

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I was in the same boat as you as first. We decided on a 1.5c moissy and I was nervous it was going to look too large on my size 7 finger. Then I thought about it, I really don’t care. I asked for a moissy and I like the larger stones. As I get older, I don’t care what anyone thinks except myself and my loved ones really. You rock your ring and don’t ever look back! If you love it, than that is all that matters! 

Post # 50
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Busy bee

This is a 2.25 diamond on a size 9 to give you an idea of scale. I have never had someone ask me if it is real or fake. 

 

Post # 51
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Newbee

If anyone asks if it is real, just tell them it is a figment of their imagination.

Post # 52
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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misspenny2010 :  love that nail polish! Gorgeous ring!

Post # 53
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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mrspenn :  And then there’s those that judge others based on their material possessions, like it’s some kind of testament to their actual personhood, so… 

Post # 54
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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chlomo1992 :  Thats a good response!

Post # 55
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Busy bee

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vwpeach :  thanks girl! I just got my nails did yesterday! LOL. 

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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FutureDrAtkins :  +1 people do judge. So I would rather be judged for a sim than being a poser. I’m upfront about mine (not gonna lie, that wasn’t my original plan) but I can identify moissy and so can my friends. We don’t say anything to them tho unless they’re braggerts. I’m not going to have it forever so no big deal to have a placeholder until we have the money for my dream diamond.

Post # 57
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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SoonMrsCrocker2 :  I’m also upfront about my moissy. I have many friends in the “engagement stage” of their life and think everyone deserves to know there’s other options. I, too, will most likely replace mine one day with a diamond. But I just wonder about people who are constantly comparing what they have to what others have. Like, they must be seriously miserable if they have to take time out of their day to worry about whether someone is carrying a fake purse or wearing a non-diamond engagement ring.

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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FutureDrAtkins :  true but sometimes its soo obvious and they’re annoying!wink

Post # 59
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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SoonMrsCrocker2 :  Ask yourself why you find it annoying? I think it has more to say about you then them. If they’re happy with what they have, be it “fake” or “real” then why is it any of your concern? Why/how is it annoying to you? 

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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FutureDrAtkins : You may want to ask yourself if there are certain character traits in others that you yourself find annoying? Why/how is my opinion on braggers, liars, posers your concern? Think it’s more to do with you. If you’re happy with your own…

 

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