(Closed) Worry over choosing a MOH and someone to give me away

posted 4 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Worker bee

I would choose my ‘bridal’ party on the basis of how there you have been there for me and not whom i have known the most. I have a few friends whom i known the major part of my life but this does not mean that they have been there when i needed them. Friendship is not based (in my books) on how long you have know someone. 

Post # 5
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Worker bee

I guess that is a way how to avoid a little drama 😉

Post # 6
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554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Would your dear friends want to walk you down and be MOH? Why not have BM walk you down and he can stand up for the both of you? 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Choose your friend who is coming along and you “would ask in a heartbeat.”  If you don’t want to invite your family, and no one in your family will be hurt, I would just let FFIL walk you down the aisle, with the goal of not adding other people (because it sounds like you don’t want that).  Failing that, I would just have no MOH.  You don’t have to have one just because there’s a best man.  I’m having three groomsmen, including Best Man, and my fiancée is having, perhaps, as many as 5 bridesmaids.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@EternalRomance74:  We eloped and H’s parents were our two legal witnesses.  

Right after our first look happened, H and I joined arms and we walked INTO the ceremony together.  I really really liked this!  I had researched it before we left the US and wanted to incorporate bits of our heritage.  H has a lot of Swedish and Norwegian heritage, and this custom is widely used in Sweden today.  It was perfect.  Imagine holding tightly on to your husband to be’s arm as youre about to make a huge commitment to each other.  It was just … comforting!  In Sweden, no one gives anyone away; you’re equal partners walking into marriage equally.

I’d probably go back to convincing my FI not to do MOH or BM really.  I mean they were there to serve as witnesses and sign the certificate, but I was going to leave that to our mothers should they both had attended.  You already caved and invited his family!

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