(Closed) Worry Over Nothing?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I really didn’t have any idea what I wanted when I first started looking either. Since he hasn’t actually proposed yet, you have time to look around and get tons of inspiration before you actually need to be making any decisions – which is exactly what I did! I stalked wedding blogs like crazy and just looked around…by the time he proposed I had some pretty solid ideas about what I want.

I think the key is to not stress out about it – like I said, he hasn’t proposed yet so you have plenty of time! Just look around and see what you like, and soon enough you’ll begin to form more solid ideas of exactly what you want.

Post # 4
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m in a totally similar situation!! My friend tells me that my bf has chosen a ring so it could be tomorrow or next week or next month! When I found out he was shopping about a month ago I joined WB and started a word file with links to ideas I liked… but I have no solid ideas about anything! I haven’t been able to talk to my bf about much of this stuff bc I’m not supposed to know he’s shopped! I’m hoping that he’ll have some solid ideas, but he’s made many comments about brides running the show wedding-wise and he’ll just go along with whatever I want.

I can’t decide how much I want to spend on the wedding– do I want to embrace my one and only day? Or do I want to save for my future and go super low stress/casual? I can’t decide if I want to make my wedding super small (like 30) or more medium (75-100). I can’t decide if I want to get married in a church or the botanical gardens or outside or in mexico. I can’t decide what season I want to get married in.

Just about the only thing I know is that I want a lace dress, and I want to marry my bf.

But, I’m not really stressing. I feel like when the ring comes and its time for decisions to be made, we’ll make them. 🙂

Post # 5
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2280 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I was a blank slate when I first started looking around too. My biggest concern was that utterly overwhelmed feeling, and having no idea how I was going to put it all together or whether or not I would even like having a wedding. All the weddings I’ve been to were the super traditional type and that didn’t ring true for me. Thank goodness this site and others have shown me that I can follow my gut and craft an event that is right for me and my SO!

Unfortunately, it’s hard to get any sort of concrete idea in mind when my boyfriend and I agree that those discussions should be saved for after a proposal, haha. The most invaluable information I’ve learned is:

1. The amount of work a wedding is.

2. The costs associated with the different parts of a wedding, and how to manage them.

3. What wedding elements I would be happy to keep and what I would happily skip.

And all that is info I can bring to the table when the proposal finally happens. 🙂 It’s never a waste of time to research, even if it confuses you for the time being.

Post # 6
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2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

don’t worry, it all comes together. I had some ideas but those ideas all changed when we got engaged and the things I had no clue about are starting to come together. Don’t push it, you’ll get inspired and slowly but surely you’ll have a wedding!

Post # 8
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559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I really didn’t know either but once I started looking around I could tell what I liked and didn’t and everything seemed to fall into place! Good luck, and enjoy it!

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