Post # 1
My third question of the day. (See? If that baby would sleep at night I wouldn’t be up thinking about these things.) 🙂 Does anyone else feel like they’re worrying more since the baby was born? I guess I’m worrying more specifically about my health and dying. This isn’t all-consuming but things are framed differently. I want to be here even more because of the baby. My dad died when I was 7 and my mom died when I was 19 so I know that skews my thinking. Just curious if anyone else had these thoughts and what you do/did to manage them.
Post # 3
Yep. Addie really affected my husband, too; although we had been talking about him eating healthier/exercising more for years, he just didn’t have the motivation until she came along. Now he eats healthier, has started running, and even asked me about joining Weight Watcher’s today! I was surprised!
I guess, for me, it helps to have a plan of action. You can’t really plan for a car accidnet or something like that, but you can absolutely reduce your health-related risks all on your own. If you are at risk for getting certain diseases, you and your doctor can watch for early warning signs. For me, being proactive reduces a lot of my worry. But there’s always some worry. 🙂 You are a parent, after all!
Post # 4
Definitely. I thought about it all the time. I think about the time her teeth started coming in I was WISHING I was dead, LOL. Not much sleep those days. But I rarely think like that anymore. It was mostly when she was immobile.
Post # 5
Absolutely. I’m on my own most of the time because Darling Husband was deployed when Baby J was 2 weeks old. I was rocking her to sleep one day and started worrying about if something were to happen to me right that moment, how long would it take before someone came to check on us?! Scared the crap out of me to just think of that.
I told my stepmom about it and she said she started worrying about all kinds of things after she had her daughter too…. and reminded me that they call me every day anyway, so if there was a day I didn’t answer and didn’t call back within a few hours, they’d drive out to check on us (they live an hour away). I don’t think that would happen or be necessary, but it made me feel better!
Post # 6
sessaj, I thought that same thing yesterday. Hubby is out of town for a week. Thanks, ladies, for making me feel slightly less crazy.
Post # 7
this is def. normal….I worried a lot when my daughter was born and had to stop myself from thinking those things but it was hard. She’s 5 now and I still worry about things, I think once you become a parent you never stop worrying 🙂
Post # 8
My baby is still on the inside for another 5 wks, but I worried about this around 20wks. I lost my dad when I was 22 and that’s later, but it makes me think about myself dying. Before, it was just me,my SO would be sad, but it’d be nothing like Baby Bear losing me.
Sessj- I thought about dying in bed, once SO’s gone to work and no one finding me til he gets home and the baby just crying, hungry and scared. 🙁
I hope those are normal mom worries.
Post # 9
I am so anxious now that my baby is here. I am having a hard time managing the worry. I worry about everything, from something happening to him (like falling or SIDS) or to me (getting in a car accident and dying)… I lay awake at night worrying.
Post # 10
I worry about everything. I worry that I’ll die or my husband will. One thing I’m hoping will help will be to officially pick someone who will take care of our baby girl if something does happen to us.
Post # 11
i’m right with you – i have had a lot of anxiety since my son was born (he’s 2 weeks old). its not so severe that it affects my sleeping or eating or causes panic attacks or anything like that, but i’ve had a few days filled with thoughts of worry about my baby’s safety. most of them are completely irrational – i don’t even worry about sids or him getting sick or anything like that, but i can’t stop worrying about him falling (i’m terrified of heights) and there have been 2 or 3 days where this fear totally consumed my thoughts. logically, i know it’s fueled by suddenly having soooo much love for this little defenseless person, my mind sometimes dwells on my newly-developed worst fears of something happening to him. i’ve already started worrying less in the past few days and even though i know parents worry for the rest of our lives to some degree, i’m hoping the repetitive thoughts ease up soon.
Post # 12
I think worrying is more normal than not worrying! There are spectrums, though, and if you are concerned, bring it up to your doctor. PPA is very real, and the OB can best tell if it is normal or something else.
Post # 13
I worry more about my baby and my husband than something happening to me. I always have this awful thought when I leave the two of them like “What if that’s the last time I ever see them?” or when I put him down to bed at night I always get worried about him making it thru the night.
It makes me kind of panicky in my head but it’s not like it effects my behaviours (like never going anywhere or staying up with him all night).
I think part of it is that I feel so lucky – it makes me nervous that something bad will happen.