Post # 1
Please beware that before reading I am venting and this could get a little long.
I’ve been engaged since march and set the date for sept. 21, 2013… Yes, 2013 and I seriously feel that it might be a little to soon to plan, but at the same time I still am super excited about being engaged and planning a wedding to the man of my dreams (cliche’ I know, but he really is my prince charming, my knight in shineing armor, my mr. right!). While I feel it is way to soon to start planning, I am one of those people who needs everything planned out all the way up to the wedding day and I feel like 2 years is no long enough to plan a wedding especially considering my fiance’ and I are paying for 80% of our wedding and I want to find the best deals and cheapest ways to pull off my dream wedding.
Another thing that is bothering me is that when I talk to anyone about it they keep telling me its ok, calm down, don’t worry about it, and my all time favorite… “YOU HAVE 2 YEARS!” I hate that! I realize that I do have enough time, but when my own mother is not bragging to people that her oldest child is getting hitched. (She actually just attended her 20 year class reunion and when I asked her what people said when they heard I was engaged she said, “Oh I forgot to mention it.”)
I understand that there is more in life besides just my wedding, but it seems as if no one else is as excited about this wedding as I am….
Am I crazy… Am I Selfish… Or am I just a worrywart bride-to-be????
Post # 3
It’s tough when you have a long engagement. People don’t take you seriously but you will be getting married soon enough and people will be happy about it in their own time!
Just so you know, some vendors might not take you seriously this far out. We didn’t book a lot of our things until close to a year out.
Post # 4
Honestly, you’re overreacting. It seems to me like there are two issues:
1) You’re annoyed people keep telling you to calm down, not worry, and that you have 2 years. It sounds like people are reassuring you, which makes me wonder if you are bringing up your wedding with a panicky attitude of everything you have to do. Not to be rude, but other people generally don’t care to hear about everything on your to-do list when they ask how the wedding planning’s going. I just have a hunch that that’s what’s happening. Besides, what are people supposed to do? Agree with you that you have so much to do? Reassuring you is the polite thing for them to do.
2) You’re upset your mother doesn’t seem so overjoyed that she’s telling the whole world. I could see how this could hurt your feelings a little bit, but when it comes down to it, NO ONE is going to be as excited as your Fiance and you. That’s one of the cool thing that bonds you together during the whole wedding planning process. I bet your mom will become more excited as the big day approaches. It might help if you give her a few things to help plan or choose. Every mom has an opinion. 😉
Post # 5
@babylou: I do realize that everyone will not be as happy as I am. I don’t expect people to be jumping for joy with me.
Post # 6
@babylou: but thank you for the comment:)
Post # 7
I feel the same way as you do about no one feeling super excited…but I get that it’s because it is still a year away and in my case everyone else has a lot going on right now. Everyone will get more excited as the time gets closer though so don’t worry about that.
Post # 8
From one worry wart to another, I feel exactly the same way!!
My Fiance and I have been engaged for a year now, not getting married until March ’13, I felt I should have started planning straight away, everyone in my life felt the same way those in your do…
It makes it so hard, just try to enjoy being engaged and don’t let the wedding part stress you out too much, I find when it all gets too much a few days without wedding stuff and just not thinking about it really helps 🙂
Hang in there, it will all be worth it!! 🙂
Post # 9
People have short attention spans. Besides, two years is a long time (especially to non-engaged folks). That would be like looking forward to Christmas of 2013? They will be more excited and it will seem more “real” about a year out. Thats why you have the Bee.
Post # 10
Thanks guys for all your great feed back!!!!
Post # 11
Once you get closer to your date, or once the calendar turns to 2013, I bet people become more excited. Right now I know for me it is hard to even imagine getting married next YEAR, so 2 years out seems like a big blurr in my mind. Just keep planning and looking around and I promise that once you get to the 2013 mark, people will be very excited.
Post # 12
Just say ‘well yep, but I’m a ‘planner'” and leave it at that.
And come to the Bee more often where no one will ever tell you it’s too soon 🙂
Post # 13
Our date is the same day! 🙂 PLAN PLAN PLAN. We’ve already booked our hall, caterer (because they’d lock in the price.. hello prices will go up inevitably), dress. And we’re working on everything else now too. I want to have the wedding paid off before I step foot down that aisle. Everyone keeps telling me the same thing too “You have TWO YEARS! SLOW DOWN” Well, I don’t want to have to wait and wait then have to pay more for everything. I’d like to start my marriage out on a stressful note trying to pay for this wedding. Plus, My contract with my job ends in December of 2013, so I don’t want to try to pay off a wedding while unemployed. As my mom said “Its your wedding… if they don’t like that you’re planning it now… @#$% ’em”
Post # 14
@danaemarie: I like your mom!