(Closed) Worrywart?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s tough when you have a long engagement.  People don’t take you seriously but you will be getting married soon enough and people will be happy about it in their own time!

Just so you know, some vendors might not take you seriously this far out.  We didn’t book a lot of our things until close to a year out.

Post # 4
Member
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Honestly, you’re overreacting. It seems to me like there are two issues:

1) You’re annoyed people keep telling you to calm down, not worry, and that you have 2 years. It sounds like people are reassuring you, which makes me wonder if you are bringing up your wedding with a panicky attitude of everything you have to do. Not to be rude, but other people generally don’t care to hear about everything on your to-do list when they ask how the wedding planning’s going. I just have a hunch that that’s what’s happening. Besides, what are people supposed to do? Agree with you that you have so much to do? Reassuring you is the polite thing for them to do.

2) You’re upset your mother doesn’t seem so overjoyed that she’s telling the whole world. I could see how this could hurt your feelings a little bit, but when it comes down to it, NO ONE is going to be as excited as your Fiance and you. That’s one of the cool thing that bonds you together during the whole wedding planning process. I bet your mom will become more excited as the big day approaches. It might help if you give her a few things to help plan or choose. Every mom has an opinion. πŸ˜‰

Post # 7
Member
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I feel the same way as you do about no one feeling super excited…but I get that it’s because it is still a year away and in my case everyone else has a lot going on right now. Everyone will get more excited as the time gets closer though so don’t worry about that.

Post # 8
Member
44 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

From one worry wart to another, I feel exactly the same way!!

My Fiance and I have been engaged for a year now, not getting married until March ’13, I felt I should have started planning straight away, everyone in my life felt the same way those in your do…

It makes it so hard, just try to enjoy being engaged and don’t let the wedding part stress you out too much, I find when it all gets too much a few days without wedding stuff and just not thinking about it really helps πŸ™‚

Hang in there, it will all be worth it!! πŸ™‚

Post # 9
Member
7416 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

People have short attention spans. Besides, two years is a long time (especially to non-engaged folks). That would be like looking forward to Christmas of 2013? They will be more excited and it will seem more “real” about a year out. Thats why you have the Bee.

 

Post # 11
Member
3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Once you get closer to your date, or once the calendar turns to 2013, I bet people become more excited. Right now I know for me it is hard to even imagine getting married next YEAR, so 2 years out seems like a big blurr in my mind. Just keep planning and looking around and I promise that once you get to the 2013 mark, people will be very excited.

Post # 12
Member
3142 posts
Sugar bee

Just say ‘well yep, but I’m a ‘planner'” and leave it at that. 

And come to the Bee more often where no one will ever tell you it’s too soon πŸ™‚

Post # 13
Member
32 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Our date is the same day! πŸ™‚ PLAN PLAN PLAN. We’ve already booked our hall, caterer (because they’d lock in the price.. hello prices will go up inevitably), dress. And we’re working on everything else now too. I want to have the wedding paid off before I step foot down that aisle. Everyone keeps telling me the same thing too “You have TWO YEARS! SLOW DOWN” Well, I don’t want to have to wait and wait then have to pay more for everything. I’d like to start my marriage out on a stressful note trying to pay for this wedding. Plus, My contract with my job ends in December of 2013, so I don’t want to try to pay off a wedding while unemployed. As my mom said “Its your wedding… if they don’t like that you’re planning it now… @#$% ’em”

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