Post # 17
Yeah I asked one of my longest friends to be a bridesmaid, she agrees. She gets engaged shortly thereafter, and plans for her wedding to be the week after I wanted my wedding to be. I then move things around, it would be a week after her “date” and she tells me she can’t come because she’ll be on her honeymoon. Okay, so wanting her to be there, I change my date to the end of August to make sure everything is clear. A month later tells me she may not be able to come. And a month after that, after I drag it out of her on GCHAT she tells me she’s not coming to the wedding. No apology. That was awesome. Friend of 14 years. But on the upside, the girl who took her place has been such an amazing bridesmaid. Sometimes things happen for a reason.
Post # 18
Yikes ladies. I have to say, I have great bridesmaids. I’m also not being picky about stuff and not asking for help with anything, but they are handling the bridal shower and bachelorette parties and so far, so good. After my sister had a bridesmaid wait until the last second to get her dress and after a bride forced my 8 month pregnant sister to wear 4 inch heels to match the other bridesmaids, I have a respect for both being a bridesmaid and dealing with bridesmaids.
Post # 19
My MOH/Sister hooked up with my husband’s brother (and best man) the week leading up to the wedding (their first time meeting), and with other groomsmen on our wedding night! We’re going to have some fun/awkward reunions!
Post # 20
Did it not concern you that your Fiance kicked your friend out of the house without consulting you or at the very least telling you or giving an explanation. There seems to be a giant hole in your story….?
Post # 21
My brother went to a wedding where the Maid/Matron of Honor (who was the sister of the bride) basically forced her boyfriend to propose to her AT THE RECEPTION. Not a joke. WHO DOES THAT???
Post # 22
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
He didn’t kick her out. After a month of her being there he asked when she was leaving.. and she decided to leave right then. the huge hole is that she was moving into my territory.. she wanted to go grocery shopping with my Fiance.. always asking him to go out with her…(even when he declined).. Would expect him to make dinner for her when she got home?! It got way too strange for me! He saw this and asked her when she was leaving.
Post # 23
I see your point. . .but I didn’t say I was going to be mean to her. I’m just not going out of my way like i used to in the past. I’ve come to realize that even though she is still a great friend and person, she is who she is, and I know my place with her now. I don’t know how else to explain it.
Post # 24
I just posted this on another post. Here’s the condensed version. My two bridesmaids who have never fought before in our 10+ years being friends decided to have a huge blow out the night before my wedding. My one bridesmaid thought the other one was hitting on her boyfriend and the fight got so loud it turned into a screaming match in the middle of our hotel lobby! Both girls were screaming and swearing as I was trying to pull them a part. They were both so wrapped up in their fighting they started screaming at me telling me to”F**k off” and “Shut the f**k up this doesn’t invlove you..” etc. etc. My father came running over with my uncle and they each had to grab a girl. Obviously the girls felt aweful about this afterward, but for a moment we were 100% in the crazy house and everyone was staring. I was mortified….
Post # 25
LOL that is so cliche to happen at a wedding. My bridesmaids do their share of arguing, but no fist fights yet! 🙂
Post # 26
Wow! Mine isn’t quite as bad as the above but here goes:
Fiance and I decided on no +1s for our wedding. I informed Bridesmaid or Best Man of this and she wasn’t happy. Two days later she sends a text that she doesn’t want to come to my wedding without a date. It was a bit shocking as she will know at least 20 people in attendance. We talked on the phone later in the day and I tried to explain where we were coming from. Instead of being the least bit understanding, she flipped out. She cussed me out, called me a ‘f—-d up person’ told me she didn’t give a s–t about my family. Told me that the most important day of my life wasn’t work coming to without a date. Said that I’m not really a friend to her unless I allowed her to bring someone. More cussing, more cussing… then she hung up on me!
I haven’t talked to her since, she is not only out of the bridal party, but no longer invited to the wedding. It sucks because I love her, but I can’t imagine EVER treating a good friend like that (it wasn’t the first time) and the last thing I need is any drama surrounding my wedding.
In the end, another very close girlfriend, who I had originally asked to be in the wedding but didn’t think she could afford it, was able to be in it and I couldn’t be more pleased. I want to be surrounded by love on my big day, not drama!!
Post # 27
When I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my sister, a Bridesmaid or Best Man she had felt obligated to ask in the first place asked me to hold tissues for her during the ceremony because she just knew she was going to cry (hello? my sister here!). She made us late to the reception because she had to go to the store to buy tums. Everywhere wee turned, she was trying to make the day about her. It just got so frustrating.
Post # 28
Wow ladies! These stories are disheartening. My bridesmaids were awesome! I didn’t ask for anything though. I let them pick what ever dress they want, paid for it, their rooms, and didn’t care if I get a shower or bach party. They threw me some awesome parties anyway. I had so much fun. I hate hearing all these stories.
Post # 30
I had something very similar happen for my wedding.
DH and I decided for the wedding that we would allow our bridal party +1s. Well Maid/Matron of Honor never sent an RSVP card and never let us know if she was bringing someone. So about a month before the wedding I gently asked her if she was bringing someone because we needed to know for the head count. She said I don’t know, let me see if I scrounge someone up. Ummm, ok, the invites have been out for over a month and you’ve known about this for a year but sure I can give you an extra day. Well then she calls and says, hey my ex is going to come with. Her ex is not someone that my DH and I got along with at all, he had physically and emotionally abused my friend, they got into screaming matches, it was awful. DH says, I’m sorry but she can’t bring him, he is not welcome at my wedding, I’m not having you or any of our family and friends on drama watch to make sure those two don’t try to kill each other. Well she gets pissed at him but seems to accept his reasoning. Then a day later she says her ex’s feelings are hurt because we don’t want him there so to placate him she’s going to leave the reception 3 hours early to go hang with him. Yeah, when I said you are either there for the whole thing or don’t bother coming she decided not to come. It’s been long enough now that I can see where I wasn’t as reasonable as I should have been, but the date debacle was the straw that broke the camel’s back, between her negative criticism of my wedding choices (I would never have fake flowers, that’s stupid, when I get married I’ll make sure I have money for the flowers I want) , flaking on plans (she scheduled something the same day as my shower and bolted early), and making every little thing about her (I want a makeup artist, so I will hire one for myself) I think I really only tried to hold on to the friendship towards the end because she was in the wedding.
Post # 31
wow. he was physically and emotionally abusive to her and yet his feelings were hurt cuz he wasn’t welcome. awwww let me get my little violin out! And then she chose him and their defunct relationship over her friendship with you! I’m sorry that just kills me, I had a friend just like that and I still just don’t get it. He treated you like poo poo, what is the appeal???