- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2016
So I am getting married in 12 days!!! But, unfortunately, I have a bridesmaids-from-hell story to share!!
It all really started from the beginning of the engagement (July 4th, 2015). I asked 3 of my best friends to be bridesmaids. I had already decided who my maid of honor would be a long time ago, so I hadn’t needed to ask her as she had already been preparing on pinterest and stuff (haha!). Anyway, One of the Bridesmaids (we’ll call him D) totally wanted to do it but a couple of weeks in realized he couldn’t be a “bridesman” because he had too much going on at the time. D emphasized that he wanted to still be a part of the big day so I offered him the day-of coordinator job and he emphatically said YES!
Well, fast forward to bachelorette party weekend (Jan 2, 2016). The only person to show up or to even respond to coming to the party was my Maid/Matron of Honor. The other bridesmaids (V, N, and D) had conflicts that wouldn’t have been an issue had they scheduled the weekend much farther in advance like responsible adults.
Ok, so present day (jan 5, 2016), I sent a group text to my whole bridal party (MOH, V, N, and D) to try and get pictures of their dresses (I told them all to pick floor length black gowns in any style, fabric, shape that they wanted, but I wanted to see a photo of it before they purchased just to make sure there wasn’t too many similarities.) and suit for D. Well, N had yet to purchase her black gown (2 WEEKS TO GO!!)with the excuse of moving back home with her parents and she had no extra money to buy a dress (but she has been aware of the dress requirement for just under 6 months now…), V had shown me a picture of her gown in July, but I wanted to confirm and have her re-send the photo, and D basically gave me a BS excuse that he had no money to go rent a tux because Christmas broke him. I also was reminding everyone of the rehearsal time and date so no one would have any confusion. Well, V said that she wouldn’t be able to make it to the rehearsal on time because of traffic. (This is not really an excuse, just poor time management on her part because I have 2 family members that live in the same metropolitan area and will be able to arrive on time so the traffic excuse V tried to use was BS.) I initially set the rehearsal time while visiting my mother during the Christmas holiday and I got no response, (good or bad) except from my Maid/Matron of Honor (who has been an absolute DREAM in this whole debacle). I ultimately had to put my foot down and say that if you cannot be at the rehearsal you will not be in the wedding ceremony. Period.
This all blew up into a HUGE fight, where D basically blamed me for all of this nonsense because I picked a wedding in January, I knew that it would be next to impossible for it to happen in January, I didn’t give them enough time to prepare (6 months is tight, but I sure as hell planned the whole wedding alone in that time frame), blah blah blah. He also made it a point to say that we all have lives and unforeseen circumstances arise, which I agree with. I rebutted with the fact that all of these “circumstances” arose much earlier than when I was notified.
Long story short, I basically fired my bridesmaids and my coordinator 2 weeks from my wedding. I now have a new set of bridesmaids, same Maid/Matron of Honor because she is the bee’s knees, and a new coordinator.
Thank God for Family!!