(Closed) worst friend ever

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your decision to make. I’ve come to realize that as I go through diff stages of my life, some friends are gently weeded out and new ones are made. You can see how she behaves during your engagement to decide if she’s getting an invite.

Post # 4
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I have a friend who I could easily picture saying something like that to me. I keep her at arms length. It sucks, but some people are just..selfish? I don’t know if that’s the right word, maybe self aborsobed. It’s natural to think about how things affect you when they happen, but it’s a whole different ballgame to verbalize those thoughts at the inappropriate time and to the wrong people.

Post # 5
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2227 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Sounds like she’s going through some stuff & isn’t in the frame of mind to be happy for you right now. I think you need to be a bit more sensitive to what she’s feeling. I know this is an exciting time for you but peoples lives don’t come to a halt because you got engaged.

Also, if that’s what you consider the “worst friend ever”… I dunno… :S

Post # 6
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

She sounds very dramatic.  Give the friendship some time and wait to see if you’re going to invite her or not you don’t have a date yet and things change.

Congrats on the engagement!!!!! 

Post # 7
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2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She’s jealous. :/ Sorry to hear about her reaction, but give it some time and (hopefully) she’ll realize how ridiculous she is being. If not.. well, you’ve already said you’re not best friends anymore. It doesn’t sound like it would be a huge deal for you to cut her out of your life if she’s going to react coldly to you.

Post # 8
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6743 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Cut her off.  No one needs someone who is negative and selfish.  What does she do for you or bring to your life?  Sounds like NADA.  Peace bitch!

Congrats!  Ring pic?

Post # 9
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271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think you should necessarily cut her out, because that causes more stress than simply allowing yourselves to drifting apart.  I certainly would not put her in the bridal party, given what you’ve said about her negative tendencies, but if you feel that you can invite her to the wedding and be distracted enough with others to ignore her, it would probably be ok.

Post # 10
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3053 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I definitely have an ex best friend who was gold medalist of 2011 in “worst friend ever”. You can put her up in the 2013 category though if you’d like lol I say ignore her, don’t make her part of your bridal party, & if you have managed to not talk to her throughout the engagement, maybe you can get away with not inviting her & ending the friendship. I’m sorry she reacted poorly and selfishly and wasn’t able to contain her jealousy. Congrats on your engagement!!

Post # 11
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1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Lol,i made a post about a similar friend when i got engaged.

 

Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy.

 

Dont let her ruin your glow. It was super hard for me to get over her super weird, jealous reaction…but i know you will! It’s not you, it’s her. If you two arent that close,i would consider just drifting away. Ive found that the engagement period really shows the true colors of those around you.

Post # 12
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16 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think she was just saying that she has something going on and needed to get it together before she called you. It’s hard to be happy for someone when you have you have your own issues. She should have tried alittle harder yes.. but maybe it would have been helpful if you would have asked her what was wrong.

Post # 13
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435 posts
Helper bee

@jigga143:  

By worst friend ever are you talking about yourself??  She is obviously going through something and instead of asking her about it you just want to cut her out of your life.  Nice.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 1998

I had a best friend who was like this. Never happy for me, always jealous. Eventually I realized I had to end the friendship because it was basically like a dysfunctional relationship. Just because someone is a friend-friend doesn’t mean we should put up with behavior we wouldn’t put up with in a romantic relationship (at least that’s the comparison I make to myself). 

I’m sorry your friend isn’t excited for you, but it’s only a reflection of the kind of person she is. Anyone that would try to spoil such an important moment in your life isn’t worth your time In My Humble Opinion. 

Post # 15
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MrsRugbee:  @padme:  I agree with both of these posters. Yes, it sucks that your friend didn’t make the moment all about you, but it does sound as though she’s got other issues going on.

Some posters are saying it’s jealousy – so what if it is? Whatever the emotion is, it’s clearly affecting her to the point she feels she can’t respond happily to the news of your engagement. To say she actually needed to pull herself together before she could even speak to a recently engaged person seems to indicate some pretty crazy emotional issues.

Post # 16
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652 posts
Busy bee

@jigga143:  doesn’t seem like she’s interested if your life anymore, move on?

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