(Closed) Worst idea ever, HELP!!!

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Is a money tree common where you live? If it is, it might not be rude in her opinion/experience.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Stay away from criticizing her ideas. Phrase your concern from your point of view.

” I am so excited and appreciative that you want to throw a shower for me. I am not comfortable with a money tree. Do you have any other ideas, like a wine shower, a pantry shower, or should we just go with a general shower? Is there anything I can do to help? Do you need phone numbers, addresses?”

 

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh, my God, you cannot do a money tree in North Carolina. You just can’t. It just isn’t done.

Yeah, you need a way out of this. Do you know where you’re going for your honeymoon? Could you do a honeymoon shower? I know someone who had one – she was going to a beach, maybe Key West? And they gave her beach towels, and cute flip flops, and guidebooks, and some even chose to give her money. She was most excited about this cute sarong that someone gave her. 

Would that be enough of a compromise that your stepmother (who really is just trying to be helpful) wouldn’t get her feelings hurt?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We have a honeymoon registry- I hate showers, let me say my aunt and godmother is less than pleased. But we found a solution while I will be doing what is called a shower in a box you could do this as a shower. We are doing a cruise so the guests will be given a port and they will get a gift that can be useful at this port.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t know if this is the best way to go about it, but do you have a sister or someone who you can talk to about this and have them say something (“do you think a money tree is a good idea? I don’t know…), so you don’t come across as ungrateful for the whole thing. That way they can plant that seed and then maybe she’ll come to you and ask your opinion of it. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

….well. Unfortunately, you may just have to suck this one up and put a smile on your face. You’re not the one hosting and everyone knows that. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

What is a money tree?

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@caits615:   I disagree about sucking it up and letting the money tree shower happen. I agree that she is not the hostess but she does know that her stepmother wants to her to partcipate in something that is not socially acceptable. She has a right to opt out.

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Could you arrange for a friend or family member to make the money tree “disappear” before the guests showed up?

I am only half kidding.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I like the idea of a honeymoon shower!

 

Or they also do “fix up the house” showers or something of the sort. Maybe you can have an “outdoor shower” if you have a yard you enjoy spending time in. People can get decorations, plants, furniture, outdoor dishes etc

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