Post # 1
I am new to the TTC boards so here is a little back story.
My Darling Husband and I have been together for a total of 6 yrs (married 2 1/2 of those years). We have never taken any precautions the entire relationship so it has always worried me that may not be a fertile woman. That and the fact that I always had heavy, painful periods that have knocked me out a few times.
Well recently I complained about my periods and a U/S was ordered. Cysts were found and the dr wanted to do a lap surgery to diagnose endometriosis due to all of my subjective symptoms. he also told me that my greatest chances of becoming preggo would be immediately after surgery. I wasnt quite ready to TTC because im in nursing school but I dont want to miss that window either. My surgery was 10/31/13 and today I had my follow up visit.
My obgyn told me that my left tube was so scarred shut that he couldnt even touch it and the right one was in bad shape but I still have hope with it. I am devastated and cannot stop crying. I am worried that it may be difficult to become preggo or have an etopic pregnancy and destroy the one i have left. Any radical medical intervention isnt anything i could see us being able to do financially in the near future. I just feel like im less of a woman especially since I know of no one personally that has had fertility problems
Post # 3
Oh sweet, I’m sorry that you got such sad news. But you have to look at the bright side of things…you still have a great chance of getting pregnant. No one has told you that it’s impossible, and THAT could have been the worst news ever.
Did they mention whether or not an HSG would help?
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I’m sorry you got such bad news. At least there is still some hope. My Mother-In-Law had really bad endo but she was still able to conceive my husband. Focus on the positive aspect of the news which is that there is still a chance.
Post # 5
I’m so, so sorry about your terrible news!
A LOT of women struggle with fertility problems–it does not make you any less of a person!
We’re here for all the support you need!
Post # 6
@mrsberry2011: I’m so, so sorry you got that news. I have to say that I know so so many people with endo with miracle stories (I’m Catholic so I know tons of people that have popped out plenty of babies with plenty of conditions 😉 ) I know an infertility counselor that is amazing that worked through many problems to have 3 children. If you’d like her information please PM me. Hope you feel better about everything soon and good luck.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry, that’s a lot to digest, especially with the stress of school now.
But yes, lots of women struggle with fertility problems. You will find lots of support!
Post # 8
Oh I’m so sorry. You still have a chance though. One of my cousins was in almost the exact situation as you. Endometriosis and terrible scarring on one of her tubes. The doctor said that if she ever wanted to carry a baby she needed to do it right away. She got pregnant and had a perfectly healthy little girl.
Post # 9
Oh Hun,i know how you feel because Ive just had diagnostic lap done myself and have been told exactly the same thing as you,both tubes are blocked (but by hydrosalpinx instead of scarring). Surgery may be able to open them but its highly unlikely,so tubes would be removed and we move straight onto IVF.
It has taken a long time for us to get our heads around it and come to terms with it all,and it still hurts now.
Try to remember you are not less of a woman because of this. This is something that is out of your control and there is nothing you could have done any different to prevent/change it. You are NOT responsible for the way your body is.
feel free to pm me if you need anything or just want a chat
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I just want to offer a hug. The week that we got our infertility news was a real gut check. I wasn’t even thinking about/feeling the urge at that point so I kinda shook it off as no big deal. but yeah, it hurts. Allow yourself a week or two to try and digest the news. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel angry/sad/jealous/whatever else you feel. And then pick yourself up and figure out a plan. This isn’t the end of the world. It’s an opportunity to do some soul searching together and do whatever is best for you as a couple, whether that’s adjusting some timelines to be more in tune with your body, looking at alternatives, etc.
Post # 11
thank you ladies. i really needed the positivity. I felt positive going in for the surgery, thinking “oh he’ll remove a little scarring, no biggie.” never thought an entire tube would be rendered as useless. I tried to speak to my mother but all she does is cry, making me feel worse.
Post # 12
I’m sorry that you had to get news like this. I feel for you. That said, while it may be out of your finances right now, there are fundraising sites designed for situations just like this. Tons of people put up their stories on sites like Kickstarter, etc.
Of course, it depends on your comfort putting that out there, but it could make your desire more feasible in the future. Now is, of course, the time to grieve – and to get a few different opinions on what your next steps are, and how likely it is that they will be successful. I am thinking of you.
Post # 13
So sorry to hear your news, however, you need to remember that there are lot of options out there – they may feel out of reach at the moment – but when you are determined it is amazing how thngs happen. Give yourself some time to digest this and then put a plan of action in place. Put it in Gods hands and amazing things will happen. Blessings to you!
Post # 14
@mrsberry2011: I know this may sound like news you may not want to hear or consider, but you just have to accept it. I have long been told that I would have issues. My grandmother had issues with miscarrying, took a drug while pregnant with my mom to maintain the pregnancy, the drug later affected my moms ability to have children. My mom had 1 pregnancy, which resulted in a premature birth (my sister) who passed away at 2 weeks of age. Then my mother decided, no matter what she knew she was meant to be a mother. She adopted my brother 1st and then me a few years later. 🙂 I truly believe it was meant to be. Sometimes you have to go through hardship to appreciate what you will one day have. I have issues unrelated to my moms, but I have come to terms with it. Have you ever seen the move The Odd Life of Timothy Green? My Fiance and I went one day and it was very odd, we were the only people in the move theater. I swear it was a sign.
Post # 15
thanks ladies, i feel a little better today. my husband reminded me of the fact that we wanted to adopt some day even if we have biological children. I have also calmed down to realize that even though the remaining tube isnt in the best shape, its still there. I was so upset yesterday that i just skipped over that.
Post # 16
@mrsberry2011: my dear no woman is less of a woman because of the misfortunes life throws at them. You never know, your baby might be a miracle baby, and instead of feeling like less of a woma, you’ll feel like the most special kind.
Sending you hugs and strength, with science evolving like it does, you never know what pleasant surprises you’ll have. Xx