Post # 1
So I just got engaged a month ago and went venue shopping this past week and it was terrible. There was so much information that was difficult to comprehend because one venue would include something and the next wouldn’t include that but would include something else. -sigh- We DID pick a venue, and I’m so so so happy with it but I was having anxiety and it was just tiring and stressful.
Now I’m worried that the entire process is going to be like this! So I was wondering what the worst part of the planning processs is/was for you! Was it the venue shopping, dress shopping, guest-list-making, flower picking, etc? Let’s discuss the bad things of wedding planning. I’m trying to enjoy the process but also plan for the worst (lots of stress and anxiety).
Post # 3
So far I’ve hated dress shopping. I HATE to admit that bc I LOVE to shop for any outfit so I thought dress shopping would be the best part : (
Post # 4
For us it was engagement ring shopping. Everything else has been really easy. I’m hoping the rest goes by so nice!
Post # 5
Each part of it will probably have its challenges, but then it’ll make the stuff that goes easily that much better!
Venue shopping wasn’t great, and I had some stress about the dress. But cake, flowers, DJ, photog, all of it went pretty easily overall.
I just got tired of being stopped in my work bathroom every day to answer questions about the wedding. I won’t miss that. (It’s sweet that they care, it was just too much.)
Post # 6
So far for me, picking a photographer has been the most stressful decision because of how expensive they run. (Also, my fiance and I are from opposite sides of the country, so just deciding where to get married was difficult as well.)
Post # 7
@gelaine22: See now I hate shopping for ANY kind of clothes so I’m worried that I’m going to hate dressing shopping. I’m not overweight but my sister weighs 86 pounds and I weigh 110 so I feel like a beast next to her (and she’s my maid of honor :/) She told me she would wear the ugliest dress ever to make me feel better though.. lol.. but I’m still really worried about it since I see myself in a different light
I loved ring shopping!! I mean we only went once and bought the ring then, so I had some initial anxiety, but I was so excited to get my ring that it made it better. What was bad about it?
Ugh, I’m already getting annoyed that literally everyone wants to talk to me about wedding stuff. I just don’t want to talk about it 24/7, you know?! People don’t get it.
The expenses are SO stressful. I was planning on having a family friend do our photography but I talked to her today and she said she doesn’t do too many weddings now so she isn’t sure if she would be comfortable doing it. So now I’m back to the drawing board and don’t even know where to start or how much to expect!
Post # 8
I’m of the opinion that if I want anything done right, I need to do it myself. Life has taught me this lesson. I know I sound like a bit of a control freak here, but the worst part of the planning process for me has been letting other people take the reigns on some DIY projects. I cringe when they cut things, lol.
Post # 9
@Bunny82: THIS DRIVES ME NUTS. And I haven’t even started any DIYing. But my FI’s mom bought all the materials for a DIY bridal shower favor and then just bought MORE gifts for bridal shower favors without even talking with me first and it really pisses me the fuck (excuse my language, but I have nobody to compain to) off. Why would you buy something for MY wedding before even talking to me? UGH.
Post # 10
For me it was decor and trying to make the whole theme come together and create the right atmosphere, all within a tight budget.
The guest list, seating chart, menu, etc were all a piece of cake. I even rewrote the entire ceremony so it reflected us and that was easy.
Post # 11
For me it has been rentals (tables, chairs, etc). Namely because the woman I have to deal with is a major b****! And yes, I said “HAVE TO”. Because we’re getting married on the coast, 3 hours from the city, there’s only a few event rental places and they want an arm and a leg. This rental place is the cheapest, so naturally I’m going with them.
The lady is just really short with me in emails. Such as, I type out 5 paragraphs and I don’t even get so much as a “hi” and then like a five word response. Not once has she said thank you, even though I sent her the contract signed and am sending the deposit on the tenth.
As long as she gets the stuff where I need it to be, at the right time, and pick it up…whatever. I guess since I own a business I have a certain standard I hold people to with customer service. It’s not hard to say “hello” in an email to at least aknowledge that this person is important to you.
*steps off of soap box*
Post # 12
Stressful, stressful, and stressful. My favorite part has probably been picking out a dress. I love fashion and enjoyed the experience most of the time. I was ultra relieved when I finally made a decision though. Picking the venue wasn’t as stressful as I thought it’d be, now it’s just getting all the special details together. Invitations I think has been the most stressful part because we are putting two languages on it. We had to make sure it was worded “correctly” with my fiancé’s parents.
Post # 13
For us the guest list and seating chart.
Post # 14
Venue shopping has been really stressful for me. There are so many hidden costs with a lot of venues and some venues don’t really include anything but just a place to have the wedding at. Plus, my original venue is now for sale and I found out about it a month ago and it has been really stressful. However, I toured a venue about 3 days ago and I believe that it is where I want to get married at.
Post # 15
@HappyBride827: I agree. The guest list was the most stressful thing for me too.
Post # 16
For me it’s been money and budgeting, mainly as we have none!
Ive most enjoyed listening to lots of lovely music putting together a cd for when everyone’s arriving and for the registry signing etc. I’ve least enjoyed being stressed about money.