Post # 1
I always read about people being nice to you and giving up their seat on the train. I’m 5 months pregnant and was on the subway train last night when a 30-40something woman with her 2 friends entered the train. They were dressed nicely as if they just came from work in the city and one was drunk. She was really obnoxious and belligerent and had dropped her bag and coat on the ground. She was being really loud, talking to her friend about how she’s getting old, her looks are fading and how Mother’s Day is really hard on her because her mom is dead. I made eye contact with the group to let them know the bag was on the floor, and the drunk woman walked towards me and started putting her hands on my shoulder. Pregnant, alone and in a packed train on a Friday night, I went into mama bear mode and and yelled, “DON’T TOUCH ME!” Her more sober friend, instead of apologizing, said, “Relax! She’s not gonna attack you!” The drunk woman kept saying in front of everybody, about 50 people, “It’s okay. She probably got raped… she probably got raped. Look at her. She probably got raped.” I couldn’t stand being in close proximity to them anymore so I exited the train several stops before my destination into a bad area of town with the woman mocking me on my way out with a bullying, “BYEEE!” I broke into tears the minute I stepped off the train and was so upset, I reported the incident to the subway police, who drove me home.
I know the woman was drunk and out of it but it was an absolutely horrific experience. The situation keeps playing over and over in my head.
Post # 2
What a bunch of miserable bitches! I’m so sorry that happened to you. You had every right to yell when she touched you. That is a complete and utter violation, regardless if you were pregnant or not.
Post # 3
zl27: It was really horrible!
Post # 4
Just keep in mind that they must be pretty miserable with their own lives to be acting that way.
Post # 5
BridalMonkey2014: hey, something like that happened to me when I was 6 months pregnant – a drunk woman on the subway accosted me and started yelling at me, telling me I was a spoilt pregnant woman, that daddy probably bought me a house and a car so that I could have a baby, that I probably didn’t know what life’s hardships are like etc etc.. I dont remember half of it cos I was shaking so much. I was scared she would punch me in the stomach or something. I texted Darling Husband to come meet me on the platform and burst into tears when I saw him. I think this woman must have been very miserable and jelaous and a bit mad.
Post # 6
amanda3334455: Thanks for sharing your story. I’m so sorry that happened to you. It’s not as if you could just leave the enclosed space and I understand being too shocked to respond sometimes. I could feel my heart pounding while she was talking about me and I just kept my eyes on my phone, avoiding any more interactions with said crazy person.
I hope the rest of your pregnancy went well! and you now have a beautiful baby!
Post # 7
“She was being really loud, talking to her friend about how she’s getting old, her looks are fading and how Mother’s Day is really hard on her because her mom is dead.”
Sounds to me like she was miserable because she misses her mum so she drank to excess, then she saw you and was envious of your pregnancy because she believes she is “over the hill”… I’m not excusing her behaviour because she certainly should not have made you feel that way, I just thought maybe if you considered that she was actually really hurting inside it might help you get over your feelings of being attacked.
I also know that I’m far more defensive and emotional now I’m pregnant than I ever was before. You’re perfectly valid in feeling the way you do and it’s completely natural, but unfortunately a lot of people haven’t gone through it so they just don’t understand… I know I never realised before now how much pregnancy would affect me.
Basically, I’m sure these people weren’t being intentionally cruel. As much as this was awful, don’t let it put you off of going out and being around other people because you deserve more than to live in fear. x
Post # 8
Whoa that is scary! You never know what people will do, and being pregnant and her being a woman doesn’t mean you were safe on that situation. I’m so sorry! Good job getting off and notifying the authorities. I hope you went home and had a hot chocolate and a good cuddle with your SO
Post # 9
I’m glad that you are safe and you weren’t physically hurt!
Drunk or not, she should be ashamed of her behaviour. I don’t think alcohol is ever an excuse for this sort of thing.