(Closed) WORST relationship advice you have been given?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

“Never go to bed angry”

Sleeping on it can help WONDERS!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Oneeleven: I second that! It’s a tried and tested method by me. Tongue out

The worst advice for me probably has come from my ex (hence, he is the ‘ex!’) He would constantly fuck up everything and told me that I should take the blame for him. And I will be a much better person and more respected if I take the blame for him. That will allow him to think that “wow… this girl’s amazing! She’s innocent but she’s taking the blame for me so she must really love me!” (@ss!) Yell

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Oneeleven: +1

Actually, mine was by my aunt. Fiance and I had just graduated high school (literally, just graduated, maybe a week after…) and she told us that all of her kids were doing great and they got married right out of high school. Reality, her daughters got pregnant IN high school and dropped out and never went back. They also lived with her, didn’t work, and just totally milked off of her. I looked at her like she was crazy and Fiance very politely told her “Actually, we’re going to wait another couple years before we seriously start talking marriage”. Luckily, he was able to recover waaay quicker than I was. lol

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

GREAT thread !!

I also agree with “never going to bed angry”

The other advice was dont move in together before marriage (milk/cow thing) – there is no way I could decide if i wanted to spend the rest of my life with someone without knowing what it is like cohabiting first – to each their own ! but it def worked for us!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Oneeleven: I agree.My mother told me not to listen to that old piece of advice, because more than likely when I woke up, I wouldn’t be as pissed. And she was right.

DH’s Dad told him not to tell me that he had a son. “Don’t tell about your previous marrige and son.” WTF??? I almost died when Darling Husband told me that (he had already told me at this point) Could you imagine if after 3 months of dating some guy was like, oh ya I have a kid I haven’t told you about. this still blows my mind and just speaks to what a d-bag his dad is.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Oneeleven: I am soooooooo with you. Sleeping on it can sometimes help you put everything in perspective.

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

..you should stay and work things out with him because you two have a child.

—um, no thanks. A child senses when someone is very unhappy. To me, staying together just for a child is a huge waste. Firstly, no one wins.. not you because you are unhappy.. and not the child because they always sense your tension. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

After my Fiance got diagnosed with Crohn’s disease about 6 months into our relationship, my mom told me I either had to break up with him now or commit for the rest of my life. Right now. Six months in. Just because he has a chronic illness. It was weird.

I didn’t listen to her and just continued dating him, but I’m ready to commit for the rest of my life now!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

From my grandmother: You should just let him make the decisions. Uh, no. But, she also gave me the best advice too: Each play to your strengths. That one is wonderful.

Post # 13
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Honey bee

@mwitter80: That happened to my friend!! They had been dating for 6 months and his family member accidentally let it slip that he had a 7 year old son. My friend dumped him…then they got back together. Surprised

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

“Make sure to have some money on the side that he doesn’t know about. You know, just in case things don’t work out.” (By “some money”, my mom meant $20,000+ in cash.)

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I had a friend tell me to make sure every morning I get up first to put on full makeup. Men should never see their wives “in an ugly state.” Uhhh at some point this man is going to be holding my hair as I’m leaning over the toilet sick. I really don’t want to be concerned with putting on mascara first. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

“Never get married, and if you HAVE to, wait until you’re 42” -my mother, who is married.

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