Post # 1
I know we have all had some great relationship advice and some really really bad advice. What is the worst advice you have been given.
My mom told me to hide parts of my personality when I first started dating Fiance. She told me to not show him all of my personality if I ever wanted to get married. I know I’m quirky and weird but that really hurt. She was basically telling me to be someone I’m not to land a husband. Thankfully I did not listen to her and my Fiance loves me all the more for it.
This one wasn’t me but my FI’s brother got the advice that the more you treat girls like s**t and use them the more they will want you. He DID listen to that and is a complete dick to everyone he is with “because they find it attactive.” He hasn’t learned by all the breakups yet….
Post # 3
“Never go to bed angry”
Sleeping on it can help WONDERS!
Post # 4
@Oneeleven: I second that! It’s a tried and tested method by me.
The worst advice for me probably has come from my ex (hence, he is the ‘ex!’) He would constantly fuck up everything and told me that I should take the blame for him. And I will be a much better person and more respected if I take the blame for him. That will allow him to think that “wow… this girl’s amazing! She’s innocent but she’s taking the blame for me so she must really love me!” (@ss!)
Post # 5
Actually, mine was by my aunt. Fiance and I had just graduated high school (literally, just graduated, maybe a week after…) and she told us that all of her kids were doing great and they got married right out of high school. Reality, her daughters got pregnant IN high school and dropped out and never went back. They also lived with her, didn’t work, and just totally milked off of her. I looked at her like she was crazy and Fiance very politely told her “Actually, we’re going to wait another couple years before we seriously start talking marriage”. Luckily, he was able to recover waaay quicker than I was. lol
Post # 6
GREAT thread !!
I also agree with “never going to bed angry”
The other advice was dont move in together before marriage (milk/cow thing) – there is no way I could decide if i wanted to spend the rest of my life with someone without knowing what it is like cohabiting first – to each their own ! but it def worked for us!
Post # 7
@Oneeleven: I agree.My mother told me not to listen to that old piece of advice, because more than likely when I woke up, I wouldn’t be as pissed. And she was right.
DH’s Dad told him not to tell me that he had a son. “Don’t tell about your previous marrige and son.” WTF??? I almost died when Darling Husband told me that (he had already told me at this point) Could you imagine if after 3 months of dating some guy was like, oh ya I have a kid I haven’t told you about. this still blows my mind and just speaks to what a d-bag his dad is.
Post # 8
@Oneeleven: I am soooooooo with you. Sleeping on it can sometimes help you put everything in perspective.
Post # 9
..you should stay and work things out with him because you two have a child.
—um, no thanks. A child senses when someone is very unhappy. To me, staying together just for a child is a huge waste. Firstly, no one wins.. not you because you are unhappy.. and not the child because they always sense your tension.
Post # 10
@mwitter80: thats not cool
Post # 11
After my Fiance got diagnosed with Crohn’s disease about 6 months into our relationship, my mom told me I either had to break up with him now or commit for the rest of my life. Right now. Six months in. Just because he has a chronic illness. It was weird.
I didn’t listen to her and just continued dating him, but I’m ready to commit for the rest of my life now!
Post # 12
From my grandmother: You should just let him make the decisions. Uh, no. But, she also gave me the best advice too: Each play to your strengths. That one is wonderful.
Post # 13
@mwitter80: That happened to my friend!! They had been dating for 6 months and his family member accidentally let it slip that he had a 7 year old son. My friend dumped him…then they got back together.
Post # 14
“Make sure to have some money on the side that he doesn’t know about. You know, just in case things don’t work out.” (By “some money”, my mom meant $20,000+ in cash.)
Post # 15
I had a friend tell me to make sure every morning I get up first to put on full makeup. Men should never see their wives “in an ugly state.” Uhhh at some point this man is going to be holding my hair as I’m leaning over the toilet sick. I really don’t want to be concerned with putting on mascara first.
Post # 16
“Never get married, and if you HAVE to, wait until you’re 42” -my mother, who is married.