WORST thing that happened on your day? Big or small!

posted 2 weeks ago in Reception
Post # 46
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Honey bee

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@thecoffeefiend:  your post should be linked every time anyone asks about outdoor weddings with no back up or whether DOCs are worth the money.

Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021 - Australia

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@zl27:  she had a day of coordinator — ME, LOL.

But to be serious for a moment, you’re totally not wrong. Couldn’t pay me enough to be DOC for real. She’s said she’ll do the same for me, and I would feel a lot more guilty about asking her to help out with things since I know what it was like, but fingers crossed there are a LOT less fires to put out than at hers and she’ll have an easy day!

 

Post # 48
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Honey bee

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@thecoffeefiend:  but you were in the wedding too so there was only so much you could do. And you’re not a professional so it was incredibly unfair of her to burden you 

Post # 49
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Honey bee

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Post # 50
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2016

My Dad forgot his trousers!

Thankfully we weren’t too far away so my Brother-In-Law could drive very quickly to my parents house to get them! Still in the wardrobe! So my Dad nearly had to walk me down the aisle in his jeans lol

 

 

 

Post # 51
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Blushing bee

Everything really went smoothly for us for the most part, but we definitely had a few issues like everyone.  The church had told us they’d be getting rid of all their ugly floral arrangements of mums since we had our own, but they didn’t.  One of my ushers was a saint and literally just picked them up and moved them and then found a VACUUM to clean up the leaves and petals they had left – he was so great.  My husband had made the placecard holders himself and they forgot to put them on the tables, so that was disappointing.  The big thing that happened was that our photographer basically…like forgot to take pictures of me.  There are no portrait pictures of me at all, and the one portrait of the two of us together is blurry. ๐Ÿ™  I was so sad about the pictures and still am a little bit.

Post # 52
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Newbee

So many things…lol married 15 years, but I still remember the disasters. 

The priest was a complete jerk. Like almost had me in tears at my rehearsal. So mean and rude to me for no reason. 

My dj canceled on us 2 days before the wedding and sent a replacement that was absolutely horrible. Couldn’t get our names right and just sucked so bad. 

My wedding cake almost fell over.  Had to cut it right away because it was leaming so bad. Several people saw the baker set it up and it was already leaning. They tried to get her to fix it, but she refused. I complained and wanted a refund and she blamed the entire thing on me and my venue.  

Reception venue kicked us out 2hrs before the agreed upon end time. Told me set up time did not cut into actual reception. That was a lie.

Made a huge mistake on maid of honor choice. 

My florist kind of sucked too

Lots of other small annoyances leading up to it. We’re still married though! 

 

Post # 53
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Helper bee

I love this thread. ๐Ÿ˜‚

There were a few small “mishaps” that I’d change like:

-Double checking the DJ had the right version of songs requested (for instance, for our second “first” dance he played an extremely slowed down version so we had to dance in slow mo, haha).

-Reviewing the best man’s speech (really heartfelt and sweet but he got a bit talkative)

-Banning family from entering the bridal suite, which got us completely off track with timing and made it really hard to find things since so many people crashed!

-Making sure boob tape actually worked and wasn’t showing! There were a few times the tape was evident in photos, but our photogs edited it out. ๐Ÿ™‚

-Making sure our photogs and videographer worked well together. Our videographer ended up being a little aggressive, which was the total opposite style of our photogs. We could tell there was a little tension. 

-We were running behind schedule due to it raining earlier that morning. And our monkey ring bearer ended up going to sleep and not being able to participate in the wedding. ๐Ÿ˜‚

These were all minor, though, and the actual day was completely magical. More than we could have ever hoped for considering the lead up. Honestly, more things went wrong BEFORE the actual day that really had me on edge that I’d never wish on any bride. Like:

-Finding out my planner hadn’t solidified the flowers 5 days before the wedding.

-Realizing the bus we had authorized the planner to contract with hadn’t been secured and the price had DOUBLED when we tried to reconfirm.

-My planner telling me she had underestimated the tables we needed and we need to spend an extra $1000 to accommodate people. (And then a table’s worth of people didn’t even show up, so in the end, it was a waste of $$$$.)

-Choosing our wedding date in the season it was LEAST likely to rain  and then seeing it was set to thunderstorm all day on our wedding day (but be completely sunny every other day of the week!)

-Having our planner tell us at the last minute the rain plan she had wouldn’t work contractually with some of our vendors. So then we had to look for another rain plan tent which was TRIPLE the price we were originally quoted.

-After a year of working together, losing my cool on the planner the day of the wedding because I was just so fed up!

Despite alllllll of this, somehow it all came together. The rain stopped before the ceremony and the sun came out and shined. Our friends and family said they had no clue about everything that had been on the verge of going wrong and said it was truly the best wedding they had ever attended. So it was all worth it!

Post # 54
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2019 - City, State

All of the stress from the planning finally went away but I got sick. I didn’t feel well during our pictures and ended up having to stop pictures before the ceremony because I wasn’t feeling well. I made it through and ended up with a fever on our honeymoon. we also had a snowstorm starting at 10pm the evening of our wedding. We thankfully made it out of town the next day, but many flights were cancelled. 

Post # 56
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Helper bee

Nothing major happened and it was an incredible weekend, but here are a few I can think of:

– venue said they’d have signs, so I forgot to include a map of where the ceremony and reception were relative to parking. People were lost walking around the grounds and we had to start 30 mins late. 

– the colored stickers I put on my place cards for meals were too dark in the dim light, so the servers asked each guest what they ordered. Well apparently people changed their minds and by the last table they “ran out of steak” for people who truly ordered it and they were given chicken. I didn’t know, and my mom & Maid/Matron of Honor told me in the morning after they already called the DOC and arranged free champagne for our already scheduled brunch. Win!

– weeks before, I was offered an extra hour for $1000 and declined. That night, they offered another hour for $3000. We were so not ready to end (it was a 4 PM wedding so over by 9) but I wasn’t willing to pay the extra fee. Especially since we started late, it would have been great! But we just went back to one of the hotel rooms and partied there. 

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I’m coming up on my second wedding anniversary next month, our day went off really well all things considered, only a couple of minor things happened.

1.)  I put my bridesmaids in coral dresses and the groomsmen were to match with coral vests and ties. My husband wanted his vest and tie to be gold so that he would somewhat match my gown. So, that’s what we put in our order instructions at Men’s Wearhouse for the tuxes. The groomsmen lived in all different states so they each had to be fitted and pick up from the Men’s Wearhouse location closest to them. The location my husband’s brother used totally screwed up and ordered him the gold vest and tie instead of the coral, which unfortunately was not discovered until the day of the wedding since he never took the tux out of the bag before then (even if he had the tux came in two days before the wedding so they couldn’t have fixed it). A location close to our wedding venue was able to halfway save the day by giving him a coral tie, but they unfortunately did not have any coral vests in husband’s brother’s size to lend out. So he ended up going sans vest. It really wasn’t that big of a deal and I was so thankful to the Men’s Wearhouse employees for doing what they could to help, but slightly irritated that the one location made the mistake.

2.) My veil fell off during the ceremony during my vows. However, I was so involved in the moment that I didn’t even notice. I didn’t find out until after we’d left the ceremony area altogether and my maid of honor came running to me holding it lol

Post # 57
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Melbourne, Australia

Neither of these things were too but, but still would have preferred they didn’t happen lol…

1) Instead of playing our first dance song after we cut our cake, our band instead played ‘For he’s a jolly good fellow’ like it was a children’s birthday party or something (the band weren’t actually playing our dance song, they just had to press play on their sound system). My husband was not impressed – there was no discussion about that song at all lol… anyway, we laughed it off at the time and we do laugh about it now that technically our first dance song is ‘For he’s a jolly good fellow’ as we had already started dancing lol.

2) My Mum got messy drunk and Dad had to take her back to their hotel room before the night was over and put her to bed lol. I had to lie to her and tell her this was the band’s last song so she would go. However, I figured this would happen (she thinks her tolerance is higher than it is and tends to go too hard too fast at functions like weddings – facepalm!) and I vowed to not let it upset me or ruin my night.. and honestly, while I wish she hadn’t drank at all, having that mindset helped me to just deal with it and not be upset about it for the rest of the night.

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021 - Australia

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@zl27:  aww, that’s sweet of you to say. It’s lucky that in my job I do organise quite large events, just generally not with so many moving parts, so I did have some experience. And in a way I’m really relieved I’ve gone through it, since I have an idea of what to expect for my own day.

I think as well, that it really highlighted to me how important it is to choose good/the right vendors. Another friend of mine had none of those issues at her wedding, and even though I didn’t particularly like her photographer, it was what they wanted, and they were super happy with the end results. The photographer in particular has so much say over the running of the day – they can hold you up, make you feel more/less stressed etc, so it’s REALLY important you get on well and feel like you’re on the same page.

Post # 59
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2021 - Glacier National Park-Montana

It’s funny the weird Little things you remember!  At my first wedding it was terrible weather and we only got two outside pictures.  I wore a tiara headpiece but I forgot to glue in something for the hair stylist to pin too like I was instructed so it was loose all day.  I wasn’t crazy about my hair in general.  My husband’s skin was full of acne that day. My garter slid down my leg during the recessional.  During the reception my husband spent so much time in the kitchen I was annoyed.  Dinner was late (but amazing-)  so that was a little embarrassing. The speeches were bad.  Just thanks for coming and congratulations. I wish I’d have had my BFF as my Maid/Matron of Honor but I have two sisters and one was 16.  I also slipped and fell dancing at the reception. That was funny and there’s a picture of it.  

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Bumble bee

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@butwhytho:  That makes me feel a lot better that our photographer forgot to take photos of the best man/both witnesses at our wedding.

I mean, how on earth do you forget to photograph the bride?!!!!

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