WORST thing that happened on your day? Big or small!

posted 2 months ago in Reception
Post # 61
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Blushing bee

Two things happened at my wedding that were a bit less than ideal but overall it was a great day. Gorgeous weather and everyone was able to make it. 

1. My music to walk down the aisle to didnt start. The guy running the sound accidently exited out of the song and had to go back and find it on the computer. It took a couple minutes. The running joke was that I ran away. It really didn’t matter though just delayed me coming out a few minutes. Our best man dropped the ring as well but it was funny and good memory. 

2. This one I wish didn’t happen was Mother-In-Law lost her cool and yelled at me. Her grandkids were one of our ring bearers and flower girl and she wanted to take them to the reception immediately after our wedding. I think to show them off. We had already discussed with SIL (mom) who was a bridemaid they even going to come and get a few pictures done with the wedding party. Mother-In-Law threw a fit said I had way to high of expectations, was selfish and had no understanding of children, and she was putting her foot down or else. Thankfully two of my Brother-In-Law stepped in to deal with her. I am still a bit angry about it almost two years later that she thought that it was okay to have a tantrum and yell at me on my wedding day. She’s still a huge jerk when she doesn’t get her way and as a result we see her less. 

Post # 63
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Honey bee

My husband and I were long distance leading up to the wedding due to work. He knew I really wanted to dance salsa for our first dance so he took lessons for weeks leading up to the wedding. We even had a very cute moment on the winery’s picturesque back porch refreshing his memory between photos and the reception.

Queue our first song, and bam, his salsa memory completely escaped him. He tried like a trooper, but it was just lost. So I pushed and pulled and counted him through it. I felt so badly for him. He tried so hard. Somehow though, we look like pros in the photos. 

Post # 63
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Bumble bee

Not my story to tell, perhaps, but this is all from my almost-sister-in-law’s wedding a few years ago:

It was late May in New Husband, and we figured it would be in the sixties, maybe. It ended up being 95 degrees and humid (!), which meant that a.) her dress, which was LONG-SLEEVED JACQUARD, was stifling, and b.) the chocolate buttercream-frosted cake, which was made by a family member and NOT transported in a refrigerated van, basically slid apart on the way to the reception. This reception was also located in a cabin in the woods that was built into the side of a ridge, and the only path to the place was very narrow and slippery. This was semi-manageable for the guests (although one woman lost a heel), but the dish crew they hired for the day had to schlepp back and forth across that thing multiple times and I’m pretty sure a few of them very nearly fell to their deaths. 

Edit: The wedding was in New Hampshire, not New Husband, but I thought I would leave that WB contribution in there just for giggles. 

Post # 64
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Worker bee

I didn’t get to really try on my dress after alterations – I just tried it, it fit, great. I didn’t realize it was just a bit too long. So when walking down the aisle, I looked at my feet almost the entire time because I was focusing on not tripping… and when I got near the front, my grandfather started talking to me and I looked at him for a bit so I wouldn’t be rude.. then I was in front and I realized I barely looked at my future husband while walking down the aisle. /face palm 

Post # 65
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Worker bee

Also, my photographer was doing this thing where she was asking people questions like “tell me a funny story about your son” or “which bridesmaid is most likely to get drunk and have you pick her up?”. When I posed with my in-laws, she asked, “what do you like about your new daughter in law?”, they didn’t say a word. 

Post # 66
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021 - Australia

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@jdee123:  oh OW. I mean how hard is it to say ‘everything!’ if you can’t think of anything specific?

Post # 67
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Bumble bee

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@jdee123:  What the hell, photographer? Is this a thing? As someone who will be marrying a photographer, I can’t imagine this strategy works out very well in most cases. Best case scenario you get a lot of people blushing like crazy and cracking up, most likely you just get some embarrassed, bug-eyed expressions, worst case you get an all-out brawl caught on camera. Yikes. 

Post # 69
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2020

I think the worst thing was at the reception the venue messed up the tables by not having them in the order i wanted. I had a seating chart and each table was named and I had them in order and they still managed to have the out of order. I had family in the back and the vendors table right in the middle. But I got over it and we had a great wedding.

Post # 70
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Bumble bee

First wedding- 2003 – Cake person dropped the cake. She was a sobbing crying mess. She ended up going to the local grocery store and buying sheet cakes to cut behind the scenes.

Second wedding – 2020 – Canceled less than 24 hours before the wedding due to Covid shut down. We had already paid for the cake that had been made, the food bought by the caterer and the facility. We got some of the money back from the restaurant we rented. I have not planned anything again. 

Post # 71
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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@calireaming112:  So the worst thing that happened was pre-wedding wherein a family dispute (about why my husband shouldn’t marry me) led us to cancel our large wedding, disinvite many of his family members and host a micro wedding instead. On the day of the wedding, my mother in law ordered the photographer and videographer around so she wouldn’t have to be near my husband’s dad (her ex) so we hardly have any footage of him. And in lieu of a gift, she returned the wedding invitation we mailed to her in the card box so my husband doesn’t even have a card from his mother on her wedding day. Needless to say, that was horrible. But it was still an amazing day and the good news is I’ve never spoken to her since. 🥂

Post # 72
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My Mother-In-Law wore a white dress (which honestly didn’t bother me) and some of my family totally side eyed her the whole time, they still bring it up on occassion… oi. 

The officiant never actually had us say “I do” just had us to our poem, our vows, the unity sand thing, and a short speech then had us kiss. It took me a few weeks to realize it and thinking about that always makes me laugh. 

Our cake was included in the venue price from a high end bakery and we paid extra for some sugar work, the day of, I saw the cake and the cherry blossoms on it were plastic, not sugar. The bakery was apologetic after I called them and refunded us the extra money we had paid. So it wasn’t a big deal. It was the yummiest wedding cake I’ve ever had to this day snd I got to try all three layers which were different.

Overall, just a few minor things the day of… the biggest thing was my husband’s brother getting in a fight with him and decided not to bring their family of 7… I called the venue and they actually allowed me to spend the money on something else, so we ended up with a fancy coffee and liquor bar during dessert (it was a nice touch next to the ice cream bar!)

Post # 73
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Bee Keeper

I never got to eat the food, I was too busy talking to people. And I didn’t have a professional makeup person which was probably not the best idea, but I was looking to save money at the time since we just bought a house. Seriously my favorite part of the day was when I was walking down the aisle and I heard one of my in-laws’ friends say, “that dress had to cost thousands” or words to that effect. I had paid $400. I was quite the penny pincher at 24 lol.

After 35 years of marriage it is sincerely nbd.

Post # 74
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Newbee

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@DrAtkins:  This is a reminder of the wedding I did in Daytona Bch Florida in April, As a wedding planner this was my niece’s wedding and she was my wedding assistant for a few years, so she knew the procotol we follow as planners. we check everything, so she reached out to the groom’s mother, his god mother, her grandmother ( she knew what her mom was wearing ) for a pic of their dress.  Sure as the sun shines, the groom’s mother and the bride’s grandmother both had the same dress only in different color. So her grand mother switched her dress and that was taken care of, we laughed about it, but these things do happen.

Post # 75
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Newbee

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@zl27:  AWWWW!!! It happens, glad it all worked out fine, and you did wonderful standing with him and making sure he was comfortable. WIFEY IN ACTIONembarassed

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