(Closed) Worst Wedding Cliches?

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
Post # 77
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Bumble bee

I’m a wedding photographer  – soooo…. 1.  Bouquet/Garter toss  then with the people who caught both  2.  Money and/or Anniversary dance  3.  Bridal dance where the bridal party all slow dances with each other  4.  Unity Candle cermonies  5.  Flower girls/Ring bearers   6.    Clinking the glasses for the B&G to kiss  7.  B&G smashing the cake in each others faces  8.  The toasts from the best man that are the “all about me” toasts. Keep it short and simple about the couple.  9.  Line Dances along with  YMCA.   10.  Coreographed dances….  Ok…i’m done…..

Post # 78
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

realtreegal:  Ok, that’s adorable lol

Post # 79
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

rickhurst35:  Awww, I love the anniversary dances 🙂 I saw one where it actually was the final couple’s 50th anniversary. When they “won”, the bride and groom came out to give them a lovely gift and the DJ played “their song” (which if I recall was Stand By Me). It was really sweet. (Although some people would probably interpret it as OMG THUNDER STEALING!!!!1111) But to each their own.

Post # 80
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

tinkks:  he will be very handsome in his wranglers, boots and cowboy hat 🙂

Post # 81
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Personally I hate and cringe at the clincking of glasses during the reception to make the couple kiss… so awkward and why do you want to see them make out so bad!?

Secondly the garter toss and I’ve been adamant I’m NOT doing it.. why does everyone want to see my fiancé going under my dress anyways… kinda creepy 

The last one is the first dance… I know I may be solo on this one but I find it awkward to be staring at each other dancing while everyone simple stares! like whyyy!!! it may be best to note I don’t like being the center of attention lol

Post # 82
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Happy2bMrs:  “Thought of another pre-wedding cliche/annoyance: brides who post every single detail of their wedding on facebook.  I totally cringe at the “just ordered my invitations!!! ” or ” 378 hours until the BIG DAY!!!!”<br /><br />I can’t stand that!!  

I also find the whole concept of engagement photos cliche.  I’ve never seen ones that haven’t looked like ridiculously posed and forced.

Post # 83
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Another vote to the groom-forced-to-be-there crap. If the groomsmen wanna joke about it amongst themselves, fine. But nothing should be said/done that indicates to everybody that he’s not in it 100%.

And another vote for cake smashing. We’re not doing that. It’s stupid and juvenille. And very sexist from most people’s opinions, where it’s horrible for the groom to do it to the bride, but hilarious if she does it to him. Not cool.

As for the bouquet/garter toss, we’re keeping what we like and getting rid of the rest. We want to do the tosses themselves, but don’t want to single out singles, so anyone can participate. If anyone can participate, it’s no longer about “the next one to get married,” so catching the bouquet/garter just means that you get a Starbucks gift card. This should also encourage participation.  This also means that I don’t have to play any of the crappy songs I’ve had to endure either. If we’re all honest, it’s a friggin’ mosh pit, so I’m playing metal. We’re really thinking of doing “Down with the Sickness” for each toss, with the bouquet toss using the Disturbed version and the garter toss using the Richard Cheese version, since that’s much more to FI’s music tastes. For the garter, he is NOT going under my dress! I don’t want his head in my crotch in front of our parents and my brother! Plus, as my mother pointed out (and I sometimes cringe that my mother is this comfortable talking to me about this), it’ll be much sexier to feel his hands slide down my leg, rather than his teeth trying to clamp on a piece of elastic and probably catching my skin. 

ETA: I’ve only been to 1 wedding with the whole “clinking glasses” thing (had to ask someone what was happening) so it’s apparently not a thing around here, and I’m just going to ignore it.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by  PixieGoddess.
Post # 84
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I agree with lots already mentioned, I really dislike all of the ball & chain, drag the groom things, the bouquet toss/garter toss, cake smash, and B&G send offs.. one thing I didnt really see mentioned is speeches! I HATE speeches! I dont think I have been to one wedding without a cringe-worthy speech. They usually end up full of inside jokes no one else gets, making the groom look like an ass  a player, makes the bride look sleezy or they’re so cheesy you know it’s mostly made up!

We did a few of the things ther bees mentioned like pictures before the ceremony (sorry, but I didnt want to make our guests sit around for a few hours just so I can see my groom for the first time walking down the isle… plus I was less nervous during the ceremony and we spent most of our WEDDING DAY together!) The organized dance, a choreographed dance (I donno bout you guys, but our guests LOVED it!), had an anniversary dance which ended up being my grandparents and DH’s – SOO sweet!

Unfortunately I have heard several stories about tragic trash the dress situations, so I didnt want to do it but some of them turn out so incredible! I would have if we had a Destination Wedding.

Just goes to show that theres always different strokes for different folks!

 

Post # 85
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I really don’t like the clinking glasses, or anything to make the bride and groom kiss. I must be the only person that finds it obnoxious. Let them kiss when they want to!

Post # 86
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

And the first dance. Just not for me. It just looks awkward to me. But I get why most people enjoy it. 

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Post # 87
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

I agree with all of the dragging the groom crap, but I guess we had a little of that. DH’s sister bought him a shirt very similar to this one:

He was supposed to wear it as a surprise during the rehearsal, but I found it lying around. When he wasn’t wearing it, I told him to go put it on- I thought it was funny! But he’s a gamer, so it could also just be interpreted as, he found his wife (princess in the castle, anyone?) and doesn’t need to “play” any more. He’s worn it a couple of times since then, but it did not make an appearance at the wedding itself (he knows better than that).

Post # 88
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

robynrox47:  Yes those shots are nice but they are not trash the dress in the typical sense. I am sure that’s what brides expect to have their photos turn out like but in reality it looks a lot worse. 

Post # 89
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The signs “uncle Jim here comes your bride!”, etc.

Wedding party dance – sometimes the wedding party doesn’t really know each other so it’s awkward to make them dance together!

I think the father/daughter and mother/son dances can be cute, depending on the song. One mom and son danced to “When a Man Loves a Woman” and it was awkward!

Bouquet/garter toss, I feel like it’s just mean to all of the single people!

I don’t mind the cake smash…didn’t do it at my wedding (it was the only time I had my makeup professionally done, so that was a big NO on the cake smash!). I haven’t seen a cake smash at any wedding I’ve been to, but hey if that’s what the bride and groom want to do then it doesn’t bother me, not my makeup and hair that’s going to be ruined!

Long ceremonies bug me, I just tend to get bored after awhile.

Any photos where the people are making a heart with their hands. Yuck.

Post # 90
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I also agree with the glass clinking, but I have no idea what to do to discourage this! Anyone, if you didn’t follow this tradtion, did you just ignore it and people stopped or do you have to announce it? I can picture myself hearing the clnking and asking, “Oh X, would you like to make a toast? No? Then please stop damaging the stemware.” I wouldn’t actually say that, but I’d like to!

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