(Closed) Worst Wedding Etiquette Offense?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am afraid people that RSVP’d will not show up! I will be pissed if that ends up happening for reasons other than emergencies, because that’s a lot of money per person to go to waste. If people are unsure if they will go they should decline!!!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

wow. just wow on that white dress. what was she THINKING?!

and yeah my biggest concern is people RSVP’ing yes and not showing and on the flip side NOT RSVPing and showing up. *shudder*

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

doh! what aren’t i afraid of?!

let’s see, i’m afraid of people rsvp’ing and not showing; i’m afraid of people not rsvp’ing and showing; i’m afraid of people bringing extra people; i’m afraid of people who weren’t invited showing up; the list goes on and on… 🙁

Post # 8
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455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Our reception is at a national park so I’m worried strangers will wander in. Bad etiquette on the part of strangers.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My SO was at my sister’s wedding with his ex-wife. She left her phone on and it went off during the ceremony. Foot in mouth It’s funny now…but really, people. Turn off the freakin’ cell phone for fifteen minutes!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@minutiae – I was at a wedding where someone’s phone went off during the ceremony.  And it was a very short (but nice) five minute ceremony.  The phone was going off for almost half the wedding!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

omg that white dress….that’s….ridiculous to say the least.

aside from a white dress issue lol i would say being invited to the reception and NOT the ceremony seems a little offensive. It’s never happened to me, but i read a post on here by a girl who was waiting in the reception hall for like an hour with other ppl not knowing whats going on, tummies growling only to see a herd of ppl come in and say things like ‘what a beautiful wedding’ and she then realized she was never invited to the ceremony! usually its the other way around…i just find it odd to have ppl come to the reception instead of the ceremony UNLESS its a destination wedding type of thing…

i hope saying this doesnt get me attacked by ppl doing thing on here…i hope i dont offend you with my opinion of an offense!! =/

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m not married yet but I’m deathly afraid that people who rsvp yes won’t show up.  I’m almost irrationally afraid of it.  I worry about it all the time!  I know my FI’s family has been known to do this and if that happens my step father will freak out on me and my Fiance (as if its our fault).  Ah!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m in a state park with no parking. Everyone must park at the reception and board the trolley car I rented that will take them to and from the ceremony. I have made this clear on the invitations and on the wedding website, and will describe it in excruciating detail in the Out of Town bags (everyone is OOT). I even hired someone to hand out bellinis before the reception and for my guitarist to play very early. I’m afraid we’ll still get people who drive and park randomly, or 80 people will wait for the last trip and delay the whole thing.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@sctigergirl81 – my brother did that at his wedding, the ceremony was only for family and really close friends (50 people) and everyone else was invited to the reception but they were aware of it. So, I guess it wasn’t that bad. I’m actually really worried right now because we invited about 230 people and the church only holds 165 =/ hopefully we get enough no’s that it doesn’t matter – but our reception hall holds 300..if we HAVE to we mind send some people, who don’t mind over there – keeping our fingers crossed that we don’t have to do that (you’d be surprised by people who aren’t offended by it). I was thinking all along that our church only held 125 but when I found out it held 165 I was much more relieved. I think we’ll keep it under that number!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My own mother has done this, so please don’t jump down my throat if you have! 

I think it is totally rude for people to go to just the reception and skip the ceremony (above posts obviously do not apply to this, if some of the guests actually aren’t invited to the ceremony).  It’s like I mailed you a WEDDING invitation.. the reception card is just an insert.  I feel like if people do that at my wedding it will show they don’t care about seeing the most important part of the day, but they DO want the free dinner and open bar. 

I understand that last minute things come up.  But honestly if you know ahead of time you can’t make it to the ceremony, don’t PLAN on just coming for the reception.  My FMIL’s friend’s husband has to work the day of the wedding… so she SUGGESTED that they do that!  I was like um excuse me? 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I’ll save my stories for my recap posts, but I went to a wedding this weekend where a guest wore a white strapless dress… with pickups on the skirt. It was cocktail length, but the tables were *really* close together (so you couldn’t see that the dress was short when she was standing or walking around), and she had her hair in a fancy updo (the same style as the bride, almost), so there was more than one time that I thought she *was* the bride from the back. BAD FORM!!

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