Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I try my best not to judge others on their weddings. I can’t say that I always succeed, but I do try. Sure, I’ve seen what I’ve considered tacky decor, or dresses I don’t care for, etc. but who cares? As long as the couple is happy, it doesn’t matter what I think about the aesthetics. I’m sure that there are plenty of people out there who think that my yellow/hot pink/purple color scheme is just foul. 🙂
The worst wedding faux pas I’ve ever seen wasn’t a matter of taste. It was a matter of logistics.The groom’s brother was disabled and in a wheelchair since birth. And neither the church nor the ceremony site were accessible!
At least the church had a very wide staircase, and people were able to carry him up and down pretty easily. But the ceremony site was on the second floor, up a very narrow staircase. And it took a lot of effort to get the poor guy up the stairs. To make things worse, the DJ started announcing the groom’s family while the groom’s father was still struggling to get the brother up the stairs. The father was livid and the entire room was pretty uncomfortable watching the struggle, although it was really nice to see so many people chip in to help.
What was the worst wedding faux pas you’ve ever experienced?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Oh my goodness that’s terrible!
I think the worst I’ve ever seen was the fault of the officiant – it was my cousin’s wedding, and the groom FAINTED (three times, but that’s a whole different story), and it seemed like all the officiant cared about was getting what he had to say out there. He just kept on trucking, even though the poor groom was barely able to hold himself up. Then when we thought he was FINALLY done, they were about to do the recessional, he was like “Oh wait! I just wanted to say…” and went on for another five minutes! I felt sooo bad for the groom – he looked miserable!
Post # 4
A reception in a building that didn’t have heat…in the snow on December 31st.
Or, the Ceremony lasting 5 minutes as the friend who was officiating “winged it”.
Post # 5
@dana:WHAT WERE THEY THINKING?! i wonder how long that marriage will last. that is sooo incredibly inconsiderate. okay sorry but major vent there.
Post # 6
haven’t been to that many weddings but i have seen guests commit the ULTIMATE faux pas, in my opinion…..wearing DENIM to a wedding! I have this phobia of that happening now, of ALL things for me to worry about and you better believe I’ll be checking everyone’s legs…
They will be black listed if they wear denim AND I will confront them about it in a “thank you note”. And yes, I do have some guests who are at risk of doing so.
Post # 7
okay this is so bad and totally MY thing but i hate seeing a guest come to a wedding empty handed, i mean no card, nothing (they don’t have to have a gift but a card is awesome for the couple, you know?!) that really drives me CRAZY!!
Post # 8
My aunt’s wedding a number of years ago was a huge faux pas all around and I haven’t met anyone who has been able to top it.
First off, invites were sent the week of the wedding. The problem with that was that no one on the guest list was local to where the couple lived and the entire family of the groom had to fly in from overseas. The registry (they had 2 but only one store was national while the other was located where they lived and no one else was shop at) was limited to expensive gifts only. The lowest price for anything was $200.
Guests were expected to show up at least 2 nights before. However, they could not be bothered to feed anyone who stayed at their house or visited during the 2 days prior. Guests weren’t allowed to go anywhere or do anything where the bride would not know what they were doing. This included going to eat something on their own time before passing out from low blood sugar. When the wedding day came, the immediate families were required (by the bride) at the buttcrack of dawn to sit in the church lobby for 2 hrs during the ceremony which no one was allowed to witness. You would think that with an 8 hr gap before the reception that guests would be able to stop for lunch in between, but no. Reception started at 6pm but the entire families were, again required by the bride, to get there 1 hr early to decorare and set up tables and chairs. Meanwhile I got stuck with the job of coordinator since no one else knew what was going on (I didn’t either) and the bride and her mom were both too ‘zilla to be around anyone at any point. As an example, they would throw a hissy fit and blame whoever was around at the moment for things they didn’t even do.
When the reception started, they only served cake which tasted like cardboard and water. If you didn’t like the cake, you were screwed. The groom was happy the entire time but heaven forbid you want to talk to him or take his picture since the bride didn’t want that to happen, and didn’t want anyone socializing with her either. They chose to have an ipod dj which totally bombed and because no one danced at all, not even the couple, she threw a tantrum like a 2 yr old. The entire event was a very tense, surreal trainwreck where no one was able to relax or enjoy themselves at all. After the wedding, they couldn’t be bothered to send thank you notes to anyone either.
To this day, the tiny guestlist that did show up (they invited 300 people and maybe 25 showed to the reception, and the rest refused to attend since no one was good enough to be invited to the ceremony) all agrees that it was a complete disaster and the worst wedding they have ever attended. Surprisingly they are still happily married which no one expected to see after that set of disasters.
The only other wedding I have been invited to (that I didn’t attend) that had major faux pas included the couple’s parents (who sent the invites) did the mass mailing label thing where the ink smeared so badly from the weather while in transit that it was truly a wonder that anyone received an invite because they were absolutely illegible. They also included a folded up printout from Mapquest, complete with unnecessary ads. From what I heard, no one even attended based on those criteria so there’s no telling what else would have actually gone on at the wedding.
Post # 9
@esrockhold – you had my laughing out loud with the denim. I’m worried about a few of my relatives too. My concerns aren’t demin-specific, just attire-related. Which is funny because if FI’s family showed up dressed casually I wouldn’t be mad at them but would feel bad for them. Double standard?
@crebre80 – I always send gifts ahead of the wedding so I ALWAYS go empty-handed! I know a lot of the gift stuff is regional, but it is considered rude to bring things to the reception because the bride has to worry about assigning someone to take care of the gifts, etc. And cash is given less frequently. So if you see me at a reception – I DID give the couple a gift!! Lol.
Post # 10
HAHAHA Ember, you posted that on another thread, right? Because I remember you talking about that horrific wedding. It’s FOREVER in my memory bank. It seems so bad, it could be on reality tv. THAT’S a Bridezilla episode, nay, SEASON for sure.
Post # 11
One of my sorority sisters got married a couple of years ago now. Apparently very few of her family members RSVP-ed b/c they RAN OUT OF ROOM at the wedding ceremony. The church was literally jam packed. Me and a few other people ended up in the CHOIR section. For those who don’t know where that section is…it’s BEHIND the pulpit!! So not only did people have a birds eye view of the ceremony…..they had a birds eye vies of US too! Talking about being on the hot seat. I guess we should be lucky we got to see the ceremony b/c many were left out in the cold.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
@Ember – Holy crap, that whole story is just terrible.
@silverbrooke – You reminded me of another faux pas I experienced, although it wasn’t the couple’s fault, it was just poor planning when the venue was built. The wedding was in the dead of winter and the reception hall had these two beautiful french doors leading outside. Unfortunately, it was freezing out and every time someone came in or out, the entire room would be blasted with cold. And lucky me, I got seated at the table RIGHT NEXT to the doors. I had to get my coat back from coat check and wear it all night. Whoever planned the venue should’ve realized that having doors leading right from the banquet room to outside was a bad idea.
Post # 13
I’m trying to prevent a faux pas with my Future Mother-In-Law – she is insisting that she is suppose to wear an ivory dress…. I’M WEARING AN IVORY DRESS. Oh brother.
Post # 14
@Mattel: Is your Future Mother-In-Law by chance related to Jane Fonda? My mom wore a white dress with flowers all over it, but she okayed it with me first and it was white background, not all white!
Worst wedding faux pas I’ve seen? At my own wedding! When I was walking down the aisle with my dad, my Darling Husband had to ask everyone to stand! I didn’t realize he had said it, but I could hear a pretty clear “All rise” right in the middle and I thought it was the officiant!
Post # 15
There was a woman at a wedding I went to in the fall who wore a white, lacy, strapless dress. She was in her 20s or 30s, too, so no excuse.
At FSIL’s wedding, one of the bridesmaid’s (the groom’s sister) didn’t try on her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress before she bought it, and didn’t bother getting it altered. She was spilling out of her dress worse than anyone I’ve ever seen, and the bride had to help her safety pin it together before the ceremony because it wouldn’t zip.
Post # 16
I went to my brother’s wedding last may. Apparently when the Future Mother-In-Law sat, that was everyone elses’s que to sit. However, someone never informed her of that and she stood standing the whole time…I think waiting for the officiant to tell everyone to sit. Well he never did. So, for the entire wedding, we all just stood there. Luckily it was only a 20 min ceremony..but a very long 20 minutes.