Worst wedding you have been to and why?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 76
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Busy bee

I went to a wedding where the bride wanted to change her hair in between the church and reception. We were at cocktail hour from 5pm to past 8pm because she “wasnt ready yet”. Stuck outdoors – food ran out, guitar player stopped playing etc. We didnt get inside the reception until 830pm. 

Then they did this slide show where no one could see or even hear and a LONG choreographed dance that was akward to watch. 

The dancing was fun, but nothing memorable. Yes, she had it at a nice venue, but it was awful. 

She is very verbal about what she spends, most of us know its fabricated. She says she spent 250k on the wedding. It was NOT that nice.  I’ve been to much nicer and extravagant weddings that were less than that. She also says her dress was over  35k Ya, maybe the MSRP was! 

I’m planning my wedding now and looked at the venue,  she had the base package – no where near the amount she claims.  

Not sure what was more annoying, her wedding or her comments. 

Post # 77
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

cosimaskye :  ugh. I once attended a wedding at a church where in order to get married there the couple had to have relationship counselling with the pastor first. Well the groom was  repeated offender cheat (they were together many years b4 getting married) and it was a small town so many if not most of the guests knew exactly what was being alluded to when the pastor opted to say “there were indiscretions in the past, but in marriage the past shall be forgiven” as part pf the ceremony and there were actually a few muffled laughs in response. The bride looked mortified.

Post # 78
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

crnnc :  I just don’t see how turning up late is ever not rude. It was explained to us later that’s how it was all done but I really think the bride could have been told. She was very upset. 

Post # 79
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Blushing bee

I went as a date with my SO to one of his friend’s weddings on a farm, and the ceremony was held outside and the recpetion was held in a little barn type buildling. The barn was probably a quarter mile away, and you had to walk. This was no big deal to us but I imagine it was really difficult for people with any sort of mobility issue especially because we were just walking along grass. But after the ceremony finished, they quickly announced that everyone had to bring their chairs with them and use them as their seat during the recpetion. So all of her guests had to lug chairs all the way back to the recpetion area. It was a long walk back and the chairs were really heavy, these were not folding chairs but ones that seemed like they were solid wood. By the time everyone made it there we were all exhausted and sweaty and no one was in the mood to mingle or dance. It was pretty dull the rest of the night, and a lot of people left early.

Post # 81
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Buzzing bee

cosimaskye :  one of the wedding timelines I looked at for planning had that in there food arrival times to brides suite and grooms suite. I went holy crap, how did i forget about feeding us. Lol

Post # 82
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

One wedding had horrible food, and I got MUCH too drunk.  I suppose that’s partially my fault but I was bored and hungry and it was a recipe for disaster.

Another wedding had HOURS worth of speeches.  It was overkill.  The food was also bad but it was the speeches that put a damper on my evening.

Post # 84
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Buzzing bee

cosimaskye :  I know right I get brutally hangry and I somehow thought from breakfast at 7 to cake at 3 without losing my mind or killing someone. I love food amd how I forgot to plan to eat boggles my mind. I already have a list of restaurants I want to try on our honeymoon lol. 

Post # 85
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

The worst wedding I went to was the worst for a few reasons:

1. The bride and groom chose to spend their money on really weird things. They rented a Rolls Royce ($3500 for a day), had ice sculptures and other unneccesary things but had their reception at an airport hotel, a cash bar etc.

2. Their reception was an hour away from the ceremony

3. The AC was broken on a super hot day (not their fault but made it miserable)

4. I went to this wedding with a guy I had been dating for a month. He abandoned me to go watch a football game in the hotel lobby so I was alone at this wedding and knew absolutely no one. Needless to say I kicked his ass to the curb after this (and met FH 3 weeks later!)

Post # 87
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

cosimaskye :  Yes! Everything happens for a reason. And every wedding I have been to with FH has been an absolute blast! 🙂

Post # 88
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Bumble bee

Went to a wedding that only had canapés (barely), and booze. All evening. Everyone was blind drunk. Also it was in the middle of nowhere so it’s not like we could just get food. Also we had all gotten a bus there and so couldn’t escape. Fml. xo

Post # 89
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Helper bee

I helped out and attended one wedding which is what the bride and groom wanted – I think. It was at some armoury – rustic would be nice. BAsically an old gym like building with an ugly ship that the bride wanted me to hide. The ceremony room was divided by coatracks. The decorating budget was $400 for 50 tables (500 guests) including centerpieces, something to hide the big ship and create a wall divider that did not catch on fire. The bouquets and boutonieres had to come out of that budget too. They ran out of food – literally not a grain of rice left. I had to serve the wedding cake so the kids wouldn’t cry. It was an afternoon wedding in a rustic/crude looking old armoury. The bride wouldn’t listen to me that I found a dress for $100 she could keep instead she borrowed her friend”s dress which she had to pay to have altered and then realtered back to fit her friend plus dry cleaning. The boys wore tuxes and one groomsman lost his sole. Don’t ask. The girls wore saphire blue evening gowns. REmember though this was in a crude place in the afternoon with paper platers. The band got to eat first; bride’s brothers friends. They heaped on the food and as mentioned they ran out of food.half way. My gift to them was a cake for 300 people – all I could make that I flew in pieces in my luggage to Seattle from Edmonton. It was horrible starving people – trying to find someone to deliver in the afternoon (oh the food they had was good but also had issues – I warned them they would need more in part because the food was very diverse – American, Mexican and Chinese – interesting combo indeed. I am not sure why they had to have such a big wedding? And while it is always up to the bride and groom but it seemed ridiculous to have evening wear in the afternoon in a beer and pizza and paper plate facility.

Post # 90
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Bumble bee

cosimaskye :  

The worst wedding I have ever gone to seemed quite nice, at first. We attended the religious ceremony, and the reception venue admitted us about an hour after the ceremony ended. What made it bad was the speeches, the food, and shockingly rude behavior from the bride and groom.

Strap in, this is a long story.

Everyone is in early 30’s age group. So old enough to know better.

There was an open bar, but no hors d’oeuvre. People were just drinking, and waiting. And drinking.

Eventually the bridal party arrived. About two hours had passed between the time the venue admitted guests and the time they start serving hors d’oeuvre. Guests were showing signs of being intoxicated. We were getting hungry and had nothing to do.

The speeches went on for about 90 minutes. I am not exaggerating. The speeches were also very long, rambling, full of inside jokes, and 95% of the captive audience was bored as fuck. The bar was closed during speeches, and people started getting up and leaving in droves. I assume they were hungry and/or bored. The father of the bride just up and left for along time too!

Eventually dinner was served. It was a catered meal, a very German menu (neither the bride nor groom are of German descent). I’m not insulting German food, but this wedding was a very west coast crowd, and they were served a lot of sauerkraut and grunkohl (nobody knew what it was, the servers had to double check and tell us). You could actually hear people complaining the food was bad, and plates were left untouched.

But the real cherry on top is how the groom treated his longterm friend “Fred”, and Fred’s longterm girlfriend “Jane”.

 

The groom, Fred, and Jane all went to school together. The bridal couple, plus Fred and Jane, and many of the guests live in the same city, about a 4 hour drive from the venue. Most people required overnight accomodations to attend.

1. Fred and Jane figured quickly they weren’t on the first round of invites, since they didn’t recieve an invitation, yet their mutual friends started making Facebook posts about “yay bride and groom, got your invite, can’t wait to see you!” type of stuff. (I understand you can’t invite everyone, but don’t tell me it doesn’t sting to realize you’re only getting an invite because somebody else declined. Fred was upset, because he considered the groom a close friend.)

2. Months go by. Eventually they did get an invitation. Time-stamped by the post office as being mailed nine days before the wedding. They’ve had a few months of seeing the bride create happy Facebook posts about finding a venue, finding a baker, picking her flowers, and ordering her invitations. So clearly, this invitation was for the C list.

3. The invite was addressed to “Fred and guest”. Not “Fred and Jane”. Note: they had been living together for several years, and have two children together, including an infant under 4 weeks at the time of the wedding. Fred and Jane were an established couple, they had socialized as a unit with the groom for years.

4. The invite stated adults-only please (which is fine), but Jane had just given birth. This becomes important at the end. Jane was breastfeeding, and was not keen on leaving her infant for several hours, remember venue is 4 hours away. She wanted her Boyfriend or Best Friend home to help her with the baby, not partying without her. Jane told Fred if you really want to go, just go to the ceremony and skip the reception because I need you here, but that she would prefer if Fred declined. (I thought this was a generous compromise.)

Fred hemmed and hawed about going. Keep in mind, even if he had mailed the RSVP back to the couple, the wedding was next week, so they might not even have recieved it. But anyway. It gets worse. Much worse.

5. The groom called Fred on Wed (the wedding was Saturday) and demanding to know whether or not they were coming “so I can give your plate to someone else”. Fred (who lacks a spine) gave a non-comittal answer and said they were having trouble finding child care. The groom got mad and hung up.

6. The groom called back later, and told Fred to just leave the kids with a babysitter and come to his wedding. Fred tried to explain it’s not that simple with a 5 week old, infants need their parents close by, the drive is so long, et cet. I can try to make it to the ceremony but I can’t stay.

7. The groom told Fred to just leave Jane at home with the baby! I really want you at my party.

I can’t even.

But it gets worse!

Time passed. It’s maybe a month after the wedding? In the mutual circle of friends, there are rumblings that the bride is unhappy. Her day was “ruined”. I assumed she was mad that her father walked out during the speeches, but I was wrong.

I get a phone call from Jane! One of the bridesmaids (also a school friend of Fred and Jane and groom), came over, and said she wanted to get something off her chest.

This bridesmaid was in the room when bride and groom were going making their initial guest list. She was present for a very interesting conversation!

Originally groom said he wanted to invite Fred and Jane.

Bride said “I don’t want anyone with kids.”

Groom said they won’t bring the kids.

Bride said she can’t leave the baby home, she’ll bring the baby. NO KIDS.

Groom said I want to at least send them an invitation and let them decline. I don’t want Fred to feel like I don’t want him here.

Bride said I don’t want to waste money on an invite that you think will be a decline.

Groom was pissy, but said fine, cross them off the list.

Closer to the wedding date, the bride was really upset because they had already gotten their RSVPs in and given a final headcount to the caterer, but then a few people did last minute cancellations.

The groom got the brilliant idea to sent a last-minute invite to “Fred and guest” because “he won’t bring Jane if she’s not on the invite”.

(Aha. Ahahaha. Who does this!?)

And then!

It’s now about 3 or 4 months after the wedding. Jane sends me a screen shot of a Facebook post from the bride.

Ladies. Prepare yourself.

The bride thanked “everyone” for attending the wedding and how wonderful it was to have their love celebrated among friends and family, blah blah blah. But! She and groom were saddened that so many people cancelled last minute. Bride posted a link to their honey fund on FB, and she tagged ALL the people who cancelled after their intial “yes” reply, AND she tagged Fred and Jane, who she didn’t want to invite in the first place!! The groom was tagged in the post too and he was the first person to comment, saying how much it would mean for them to celebrate their honeymoon in spirit with the generosity of those who could not attend!!

I am not FB friends with the couple so alas I could not witness this trainwreck with my own eyes.

Jane untagged herself, then blocked the bride and groom on FB. I’m not sure if Fred did. He made noise about sending the couple money for their honey moon (wut, why!?), and Jane threatened to throw him out if he dared. (I’m team Jane on this.)

It’s been a few years, but during get togethers sometimes the saga of that wedding still comes up at parties and the group of friends are still tut-tutting over the rudeness.

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