Post # 1
Mine: A co-worker had her reception in a small venue, which is totally cool, but we were SQUISHED.
(Takeaway – if reception is in a small location, invite less people)
Also, she had a breakfast for dinner thing, which was cool, but it threw us off since we were not expecting that.
(Takeaway – tell guests what they’ll be eating ahead of time)
The best man SUCKED. He just sort of shrugged and said “Good luck, I guess. Whatever.” That was his whole speech.
(Takeaway – know what guests will say in their speech. If they don’t want to give one, do not force them!)
Post # 3
I once went to a wedding that had a punch and cake reception in the church’s hall, but the bride and groom and the wedding party stayed only about 20 minutes then left together to go out to dinner. I was maybe 12 at the time, but even then it impressed me as a really crappy thing to do to your guests.
Lesson learned: Don’t ever have a two-tiered reception where only a select few are invited for the good stuff…or where some are invited only to the ceremony and not to the reception. If you can’t afford a full dinner reception for all your guests, then just have the cake and punch reception…or a barbeque…or whatever you can afford. The money you save isn’t worth the feelings you hurt.
I also attended a wedding where the result was almost the opposite; the guests ate, but the bridal party didn’t. I was a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding. The wedding party took pictures after the ceremony. By the time we arrived at the reception hall (about an hour after most of the guests had left the church), the guests were eating dinner. Most were done or almost done and a few had already left. The caterers put the food out and the people just got in the buffet line and served themselves.
Lesson learned; Have SOMEONE at the reception venue be in charge so that the guests don’t take matters into their own hands. And if you are taking pictures after the ceremony, have some appetizers and drinks to keep your guests happy until you get there.
Post # 4
hmm.. this is a good post.
1.) Indian weddings are infamous for having really bad, tacky indian dancing (especially west indian weddings).. The dancers are amature and just…BAD
TAKE AWAY- See the performers BEFORE they come to the wedding
Post # 5
I haven’t been to any bad weddings (well, at least since I was a little kid), but one thing that struck me at the last wedding I went to was the awkwardness of not having assigned seating. I understand why you’d want to skip that part, but I think its worth it.
LESSON: Seating charts are worth the pain 🙂
Post # 6
I think there was a thread about something like this a week ago or two ago. It might be helpful.