(Closed) Worst work scenario imaginable, please help!!

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

how is it you are JUST now discovering she works with him? If that were me, I’d be livid at my Fiance for NOT telling me she works there in his department to begin with.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Do you think she got the job because she is stalking your man?  Or could it be possible that it’s a coincidence?  What does your Fiance think about working with her?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

baystatebride, i think your imagination is a little overactive.

summerbride, just avoid her and hope she doesn’t stay on. there’s nothing  you can do about it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think the best thing for you to do is just ignore her.  Pre-emptively going after her will only make her think your relationship is weak and cause tension for which you will be blamed.

Your Fiance had no idea she was also an employee and isn’t speaking with her, right?  That’s what matters.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It may be hard, but if you want to keep your job, and your Fiance too, you guys will have to keep it professional at work.  Hopefully the last two years have been enough for her to have moved on and maybe have someone in her own life, or shes grown past that stage.  As long as Fiance doesnt even cross the line of trying to become friends with her and keeps it STRICTLY professional… I’d just have to hope she’s out of there in 3 months.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@summerbride12:  I recommend writing her name (or initials, anyway) on a stress ball and keeping it handy to squeeze when she’s around or you think of her.  Works wonders.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@kitzy: Not really.  I’m just trying to figure out where on the spectrum this girl falls, so I gave both extremes as examples.

@summerbride12: I agree, ignoring her is your safest option.  I think that your Fiance might be the only one in the position to do anything about her anyways (like speaking to HR to alert them of the situation, or speaking to his boss about scheduling).  Hopefully you don’t have to cross paths with her too often!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Will they actually be doing work together or are they just in the same department? Maybe I’m a little crazy, but my Fiance has a similar ex and I know for sure I would not be okay with them “working late nights” together. I can see how this would be upsetting!

I do agree with PP, however, that you just have to be as professional as you can right now. If things become a problem maybe your Fiance can work out an alternative schedule or request to not work with her because he’s the one with seniority. At this point though I think you’re going to have to hold your head up high and show this girl you have some class….unlike her! The most important thing is for you and your Fiance to communicate well and be open about this. Good luck!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

This may sound harsh but I think you need to get over it and act completely professional. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer, right? Get on with your life, be happy the you won (FI’s marrying you not her) and move on. Hopefully she’ll be gone in 3 months and this won’t be an issue. 

Post # 15
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Your Fiance did the right thing by cutting off communication with her when she sent him inappropriate pictures of herself.  Now, just trust that he is the same responsible man as before and be professional about it.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If she’s seasonal, just wait it out. 3 months isn’t that long. You know you and your Fiance are rock solid, so that’s all you need to know. She’ll move on when the season ends.

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