Post # 1
The other post was closed by Mrs. Mouse and I decided to delete it after because I didn’t want anyone going through what I’m going through to have to read the posts questioning whether this is fake.
First thing to clear up is my apartment situation. Some of you bees live in huge cities and you have waiting lists for apartments. I have already told you I am in New Mexico. The city I live in is not huge. It doesn’t not take months to find an apartment here (even a gated one). After explaing my situation the landlord allowed me to move in before all the background checks were done as ling as i paid 3 months of rent up front. My parents actually paid it for me. I have nothing in my apartment except a mattress on the floor and a couch. This isn’t some fairytale where everything is perfect. Far from it actually. As far as the call from the OB/GYN and the depo, when I talked to her I asked her to only call me at work because at the time I still wasn’t leaving my husband. I didn’t want a call or voicemail on my cell phone in case he would see it. I have access to my work voicemail from any phone and that’s how I got the message.
I’m sure people make up things on forum boards all the time but after reading my OP I don’t know how any of you actually thought I could make that up.
I don’t know if I will continue to update. I was so grateful for the support but I don’t want to have to come back here and prove myself to online strangers. I hope none of you ever have to go through what I’m going through right now.
Post # 2
Thinking of you Bee!! I didn’t read ALL of your original thread, but I read enough that made my heart hurt so badly for you.
Hang in there and know there are many of us who are thinking of you and/or praying for you!
Post # 4
Don’t feel obligated to keep updating us. Some things should be kept private.
Glad you’re okay. And I apologize for having my doubts.
Post # 5
I would like to know about what’s going on in your life and that you’re safe, but i get it if you decide not to continue posting. Just remember that for every bee that doubted you, there were dozens who believed you.
You’re in my thoughts. I hope everything settles down and you don’t have to worry about that abusive prick.
Post # 6
Glad to hear you’re okay. I think most people are in support of you and the truth is it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks. We’re all really proud of you. I understand if you don’t want to update but if you do don’t worry about having to prove anything, most of us just want to know if you’re safe. If you’re comfortable sharing I’m just curious if your ex is back and if you got a chance to get the restraining order in place. Good luck with everything, keep yourself as safe as possible!
Post # 7
Dont worry about those few people saying this was made up, it was like just a few people. Theres ALWAYS going to be haters so dont let them get to you. There are a TON of people on this site here for you, so dont let a couple people ruin the support network you have built here.
Did you husband try to contact you?! I’m curious what his reaction is… or does he have absolutly no way to contact you? email?
Post # 8
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
I read all of your OP, and all of your updates, but I guess I didn’t see the recent posts where people were doubting you. I’m very sorry to hear that. I really enjoyed reading your updates and am really excited for you to begin your new life! Please don’t let any of the doubting bees discourage you. The majority of this community supports you!!!!! I wish you the best of luck!
Post # 8
You dont need to justify or prove anything to online randoms. You come here if you want to anonymously vent for support, but you dont need to answer to anyone here, especially those jerks who have nothing better to do than spout some negativity towards some in such a tough situation. If youd like to keep posting, just ignore anything that doesnt serve you. You dont need to answer questions or prove anything.
I think youre ****amazing*** and I hope you see the light at the end of the tunnel, that getting your life back is worth all this strife. You can do this! Keep fighting for yourself and stay safe. Internet hugs from me.
Post # 9
thank you so much for the update because i have thouht of you often and want so much for you to be ok. I know that the road ahead is yet long but know that there are people here who care and have no doubt that your story is real. (((hugs)))
Post # 10
Keep going! I wish you continued courage and strength.
Post # 11
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Please don’t feel discouraged in having a safe space to process your emotions. Having been where you are, this point in your decision to leave is very painful/difficult and also a dangerous time for you. Your ex will absolutely be gunning to find you and payback for “leaving’ him will be definitely be on his mind. Being forced to leave your home and being holed up in an apartment with just the bare necessities is very stressful and an extremely lonely experience.
Those of us who care are here for you. [content moderated for name calling] Take care of yourself and if you ever need some love and support, we are always here to cheer you up! xoxo
Post # 12
Thanks for updating us! We were worried about you the last couple of days!! Any updates about the husband coming back or the restraining order or any of it? Obviously you’re still doing pretty well!
Keep going, it’s gonna get better with every day!! 🙂
Post # 13
I didn’t read your other thread past the first couple pages because it got overwhelmingly long so I don’t know what was said but I just want to reiterate again that I am sorry you are going through this and I am glad you got away. If you choose to continue updating I would like to read them and hope your situation improves.
Post # 14
You are so brave and strong, and I’m sure that there will be great things in your future. Congratulations on taking these first steps, and please know that you have so much support here. If you never want to update again I would totally respect that, you need to do what is the best for you – but I hope you know that many, many people will be sending good thoughts to you as you begin this new journey. If we don’t hear from you again, thank you for sharing your story with us and best of wishes to you!
Post # 15
Dear Worthy Bee,
I am sorry that some Bees mistreated you on the other thread. I won’t speculate on their motives, but hope they will have the moral courage to examine them.
Bee, I have been where you are. I too left an abusive husband under threats. I still remember the terror I felt just waiting in my new little cottage, just waiting for him to come and get me.
Keep telling people. Abuse thrives in secrecy. Abusers count on it. Reach out to your local DV facility for support or call the national hotline, 1-800-799-7233.
And absolutely, the decision to leave can be a sudden one. Once that fuse is lit, things can move very quickly for some of us.
Abusers are pretty predictable. Victims are not.
Please keep us posted as you can, Worthy Bee.