(Closed) Woud you be irritated?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Parents have a hard time realizing their kids are now taking on just as much, if not more, than they are. It sounds like of course they miss you but don’t know how to let you grow up.  From my experience, it takes several years for parents to stop thinking of you as a child and to realize how much more demanding college is, even if your mother is in college. I would try and make a day or two a month to see them, once with you going to see them and once them coming to see you since you aren’t that far away. 

FI’s dad was the same way when we moved away to college 2 hours away, and would guilt-trip him about never coming home or “when you DO manage to come home all you do is blah blah blah.” He even said to his dad, “Do you work and go to school full-time, while trying to maintain relationships?” Of course his dad said no. He’s not in school and he’s single. And the interstate works both ways. 😉

And….sorry for rambling. I don’t think you’re being silly, its a genuine issue. They do need to respect what you do, but you also need to consider that this will take a bit of transitioning. 🙂

Post # 4
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1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would just explain to them how much you have going on right now, and how exhausted you are.  That you love them, and miss them, but right now life is just crazy.  I am sure they know this, but sometimes parents need to be reminded of things.  Are they phone talkers?  I know that I can usually stifle my Moms visit needs when I am exhausted (she lives an hour away from me also) with a good phone conversation.  I think in my case she just wants to feel included with everthing.

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