(Closed) Would a Sunday night wedding be awful for our guests?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it depends on what type of wedding you are having. If you’re having an evening wedding with alcohol, to be honest, my Fiance and I would not be as inclined to let loose and drink and stay late because of work on Monday. That’s just something I would want to have the next day to relax and recover lol. Leaving work early on Friday (if needed) is way different than missing on Monday, which wouldn’t be possible for me or my Fiance bc of work. What time is your ceremony?

I know it’s your wedding and what makes you happy but there’s a fine line between just being a little selfish as far as what you’re expecting your guests to be okay with. I’m not saying that you are or that your guests wouldn’t support yall but you still have to take your guests into consideration, too. Friday would just be more fun, to me, if you’re looking for that party, late night atmosphere. If it’s an afternoon wedding with maybe beer and wine, Sunday would be perfect.

Sorry, don’t hate me for my response! Just being honest and giving you another perspective. Ultimately yes, it is what you want and I wish you the best, epsecially with your ill parent.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am a Sunday bride and I think it will be fine.  For us it also came down to either Friday or Sunday and we decided Sunday gave us more time to get everything done and it worked better for our guests.  It allows us to do our rehearsal on Saturday and our wedding party doesn’t have to take off and extra day (Thursday) from work to be there.  Our friend got married in Sept and we had to have 1.5 days off of work just for their wedding.  Most of our guest wont have to take any time off or only Monday if they feel like it. 

I say do what you think is best for you guys.  I asked some of my maids on their thoughts and it helped me feel better with my choice.  Maybe that would help you. 

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with everything

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@UpstateCait: said.

I recently went to a Sunday wedding and I left at 8 pm. I also have a routine that I do on Sunday nights and I like to wind down and relax for about an hour or two before I go to bed.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m a Sunday bride-to-be, but it’s on Labor Day weekend so we have no guilt going late into the night.  If that weren’t the case, I would still go for a Sunday and end earlier – as others have said it’s better especially for the wedding party with rehearsal the night before.

Could you consider the weekend of Sunday, July 3rd?  I know people are funny about weddings on holiday weekends, but then everyone will have Monday the 4th off – and the Sunday discount will most likely still apply (it did for us!).

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i’m a sunday bride too! i strongly prefer sunday weddings to friday weddings. if it’s on friday, i have to take off at least half a day of work to get ready/get to the venue/deal with rush hour traffic. after a sunday wedding, i might sleep in an extra hour or two if needed, but i generally don’t have to take any time off. also, i’m always really tired on friday nights after a long week of work, so i would stay longer at a sunday wedding than i would a friday wedding. that’s just me though.

do whatever you think is best. sunday weddings are pretty much the norm for jews!

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’ve been to Sunday weddings and a lot of folks left right after dinner and the Monday was a holiday.  From what I hear about Friday weddings, a lot of people skip the ceremony and just go to the party.  So either way you may be giving up something.  I personally would prefer Friday especially if the Sunday does not proceed a holiday.

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper

Sundays are fine, but if given the option, I would rather go to a Friday night wedding. It sort of forces me to take a day off and pamper myself :o) Plus, I personally wouldn’t have to worry about getting up for work the next day which is a bigger plus for me!

Post # 24
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I sure hope not cause I have a sunday wedding.  I think if people are willing to take off a Friday to go to the wedding, taking Monday off to have fun Sunday night, should be the same thing!  You would still need to take a day off either way.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

sunday is def not as fun and not as convenient

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

There is no way to make everyone happy.

It’s not rude to have a wedding on a Sunday OR a Friday night, so have the wedding YOU want to have. So if Sunday is what you want, have it on a Sunday. Those for whom it’s an imposition to attend can decline: those for whom drinking and staying out late will cause problems at the office on Monday don’t have to drink or stay late. Sure, if you pose the question of whether people prefer vanilla or chocolate ice-cream, they’re going to espouse the virtues of their preference; but in the end, most would be quite happy just to have whatever ice-cream you put in front of them. 

 

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens

As a guest, I would prefer a Friday evening wedding. I think your guests will be more apt to “let loose” if they know that they don’t have to go to work in the morning.

Post # 28
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would prefer a Friday evening wedding.  I would probably leave at 8 or 9 at the latest on a Sunday wedding if I was local.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

As a guest I would prefer a Sunday wedding. On the flip side, Ii am having a Sunday wedding not to save costs but because at my venue Sunday was all that was left. All my guests know and are fine with it. They will take a half or full day off work to be really enjoy themselves.

The most important thing is to let people know early enough in the year so that they can decide what they would like to do. Over 60% of our guests are coming from overseas so the day doesn’t matter for them so I guess that is something to take into account.

Post # 30
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Wannabee

@yassim: I think Sunday weddings are fine. Remember, the day is about you and your special man, not the guests. I mean, sure you don’t want anyone to not come because of the day, but as long as the two of you lovebirds get married, it doesn’t matter. Besides, you could always have the wedding in the early afternoon instead of later at night. Most people would already be dressed up on Sundays because of church. Hope this helps 😀

Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Personally I prefer a Friday wedding over a Sunday, I feel like I can’t let loose and enjoy myself knowing that I have to deal with work in the morning.  Friday’s allow that extra day to recover, just start your ceremony a little later so people have a chance to come from work.  However, either way if it’s a close friend/family I would take the day off of work if possible to really enjoy my time!

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