(Closed) Would a Sunday night wedding be awful for our guests?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 62
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@katiedee: great comment 🙂

I am marrying on a Sunday evening, too.

Post # 63
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@popover: we’re date twins!

Post # 64
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m a Sunday bride, my wedding will end at 10pm. However, its in June, half the guests will be in from Australia, some are students, some are teachers, and some own their own businesses so I’m thinking that maybe 5-10 guests will have work the next day so I’m not really worried about it. Not to mention that its ONE day of work to be tired for/go in late

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m doing a Sunday, so I hope not! 🙂

Post # 66
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Bumble bee

@katiegirl84:

I know, but it just completly shocked me.  I mean, they only stayed for 4 hours including the ceremony!  Most weddings are either 30 minutes to an hour for ceremony and then a cocktail hour and four hour reception – at least any I’ve been to or the 100+ I’ve ever worked at so it just seems really rude to me for people to only be able to muster up energy enough for 4 hours during an afternoon that they didn’t have to work on (most people don’t work on Sundays).  I mean, that’s really the thing to me – it’s daylight out, it’s afternoon – I guess when you said you can’t blame them I just wanted to point out that yes, you can, lol!

Post # 67
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

awful? no. slightly inconvenient? maybe. Speaking as a guest, I would definitely make it to a local sunday night wedding. Being honest, I would probably be low-key and leave a little early to prepare for work on Monday. I can’t function if I’m tired, but that’s just me. If it was the wedding of someone with whom I am very close, I’d probably take a sick day Monday so I could enjoy myself.

Post # 68
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

i think you can’t blame people (and personal opinion only) because you don’t know what they have going on work, getting kids ready for school monday, etc.   We didn’t leave early, but the look of disappointment on the brides face as a lot of people did made me really sad for her.  I think a bride should do what they want to do, and if a sunday wedding is it, then good for her.

Post # 69
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Bumble bee

@katiegirl84:

I know – just my opinion too and I’m sure I’m wrong a lot :).  I totally agree that people have stuff going on Monday and everything.  But I still can’t imagine anyone having to get the kids ready for school or get ready for work the next day at 3:30 in the afternoon on Sunday, you know?  I mean (I’m laughing at the craziness of all of it, my tone is sarcastic but I know its hard to convey online) do they just shut down their lives every Sunday at 4pm because they have school and work on Monday?  I guess it just seems crazy to me that people would walk out of someone’s wedding that they supposedly love/care about in the middle of the afternoon on a Sunday no less, when they couldn’t possibly be ‘exhausted’ if they didn’t work Saturday, didn’t work Sunday….you know? 

I mean for Friday weddings, I have to work at 5:30 am that day and we cannot take off at our jobs on Friday, so yes we’ll leave an hour or so early but we’ve been up working/getting ready/driving for about 16 hours by that point, so I think that’s understandable.  But from noonish to 3:30 on a Sunday afternoon just seems rude to me.  But I still go to them and totally agree that if Friday works for them – do it!  Hell, if Tuesday night works, do it….:P

Post # 70
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It depends on the environment/vibe you want at your wedding. I don’t think it’s a big deal, but be aware that some people will probably have to leave early.

We were trying to decide between Friday & Sunday (because of budget reasons), and we ended up booking a Friday night wedding- our ceremony starts @ 6pm. I know some of the guests will have to leave work early in order to get ready before our wedding, but I really wanted them to be able to let loose and party, and not have to worry about work the next morning. 🙂

Post # 71
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@luckyprincess:

 

I’m going to be in a lot of the same boat as the bride that katiegirl84 is talking about…  my wedding is on a Sunday, starts at 11:30 in the morning.  the ceremony will be about 35-40 minutes long, then the reception is 1-5 pm.

While I agree with you that it doesn’t make any sense for people to be exhausted or have to get ready for work for the next day at 3:30 in the afternoon, you don’t know the specifics surrounding these guests. Maybe they were from out of town and had to head to the airport to catch a flight back so they didn’t miss work the next day?  I’m sure there will be a handful of those at my wedding, and I won’t hold it against them because I will know they are from out of town.  We even looked up the flights and tried to have it end so that people could still make it to the airport if that was the case without having to leave early, but some people might not want to feel quite so rushed. 

Maybe that wasn’t the case with this wedding she was talking about, but I think it’s harsh to just call them rude when you have no idea why they had to leave.  Wasn’t that better than just not showing up at all? 

Post # 72
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m getting married on a Sunday too. Saturdays were all booked up. And we have significant people coming in from out of town, so a Sunday afternoon wedding would allow them to take take the Mon morn flight out if needed. Most guests, if they had to take a workday off, would just take the Monday. We nixed a Friday wedding b/c it requires the bridal party (and others coming from really far cities) to take two days off from work (Thurs & Fri).

Post # 73
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am also a Sunday bride. 

We are having our ceremony and reception at a restaurant and are inviting for 5:30 (planning to start at 6:00).  I want to surprise everyone with fireworks, but we have to wait until 9:00 for it to be dark enough to start.

How do I get people to stay until 9:00 and still keep the fireworks a secret?

Will they stay so long as we haven’t cut the cake?

Or should we start later?

Help!

Post # 74
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

katiedee:  I know this post is a few years old… but this made me laugh so hard!  Thanks for the perspective!  I know I was stressing about a Sunday too… but after reading this… it will all work out as it should!:)

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