- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Sounds like you guys are trying to put square pegs into round holes with this relationship. Why was he in such a rush?? Why are you going along with it?
I think postponing was obviously the right move, and if I’m being honest, perhaps cancelling altogher and ending the relationship is the best thing for you.
I see how it hurt to go from him being in power-forward mode, to him postponing…it’s jarring, but you need to take a step back and take stock in this relationship. Really focus on what you want/need and what you’re currently getting in a relationship. Then decide how you’d like to move forward.
Even if you got engaged after 5 months…. wow no reason to make the wedding a month or even three months after that. It’s no wonder at this point you’re considering if you should even be in this relationship! He sounds like maybe he’s got a bad case of wanting the dream life (a wife and kids) and isn’t willing to be patient AT ALL or respect your feelings in the matter. The other little conflicts that you mention having…. those are not healthy at all! You shouldn’t be bickering all the time and you shouldn’t be having major fights all the time. Everyone fights, but it sounds like he might be critical and controlling. I think it’s wise that you haven’t set a new date yet. I would encourage you to think seriously about taking a break from this guy… it sounds like he’s not really respecting you or your feelings.
I’m sorry, but I say RUN far away from this guy. Based upon what you’ve said, it makes absolutely no sense to marry him.
He does not sound committed to you at all.
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