Post # 1
So I had a hunch I was going to get engaged this summer and it seems like the BF had similar thoughts. Sadly, it really does not seem like that will happen with our recent $6,000 in vet bills. The good news is the BF had a nice open discussion with me about this. So I will be engaged in the next year sometime, maybe Fall/winter depending on how fast he can save.
We discussed getting a smaller ring or a simulated diamond, but I think he wants to propose with the ring he was planning on buying originally so I’ll just be patient and wait. The good news is my dog has vision in both eyes and is doing wonderfully after his eye surgeries!
I recently expressed some guilt about doing some sort of pre-planning stuff to try to get a basic idea about what type of event we will be having. He said it’s fine if I want to talk about it or get his opinion on things. He said we can check out venues this summer (we are planning on having it at a state park in Vermont by a lake, so we have many options!) and try to see where we would like to have our wedding someday. (The reason I am concerned about where we have it is that it will probably be in a rural part of Vermont, so I’d like to get an idea of what type of florists/caterers are in the general area).
So I am glad it will still be in the next year but damnit I wanted it to be this summer.
Post # 3
Yay! Dont worry it will be Fall before you know it!! Have fun looking at venues!
Post # 4
You are very lucky that your man is so willing to not only speak openly about the timeline, but participate in wedding planning with you before the proposal! I say proposal, and not engagement, because let’s face it — most of us here really are “engaged” to be married. We’ve agreed with our SO’s on having a wedding in the near future and getting hitched. We’re just waiting for those four little magic words and to put a ring on it! 😉 Try to think of it that way!!
Post # 5
I’m glad your pup is doing well and I look forward to hearing about the proposal when it happens! Do you know what the ring is like or is he keeping a very good secret?
Post # 6
Happy for you. At least your man is open to talking about engagement stuff
Post # 7
Thanks everyone. I am happy he is willing to talk about it with me, I am sure wedding stuff is not his favorite topic 🙂 He even watches the wedding shows with me.
Awhile back we talked about the kind of ring I wanted because he was not sure what he wanted to buy was what I wanted. I was not even sure what I liked until I tried them on! So someday in the next year or so he’ll be buying a round solitaire with a plain (thin) white gold or platinum band w/ 4 prongs. I think he’ll be getting it online somewhere (like bluenile or jamesallen)since they were much better quality and prices than the local jewelry stores we checked out. We looked at rings in the 1.25-1.50 ct range so it certainly won’t be a small expense.
Post # 8
I was in almost the exact same situation last summer. My BF even told me last fall that he had planned on proposing last summer, but just didn’t quite feel ready. At that point we were both in school and everyone around us was getting engaged, so he just felt a lot of pressure. I was really, really bummed (especially since he specifically told me he was thinking about it and decided not to. Haha… thanks babe).
We talked about it, and mutually decided to wait one more year. I’m still waiting on that proposal, almost a year later, but I think waiting has made our relationship SO much stronger. When you realize that this person is willing to wait for you no matter what, it can truly make you love each other more. It’s certainly not always enjoyable… but at least we can say that we did what was right for US and that we made the decision to wait for the right reasons.
Post # 9
So, I have been trying not to stress out about the extra long wait. The BF will not tell me when he originally intended to propose (I believe it would have been sometime in August?) because he said it is still not completely out of the realm of possibilities and it depends a lot on financial stuff over the next few months. I don’t want to get my hopes up because he we had tons of bills lately, but part of me is still excited. I think he is due for a large promotion around August as well so that might help (maybe late summer/early fall?).
Either way my doggy is seeing just fine 🙂
Keep your fingers crossed for me!!
Post # 10
I just thought of this too that I forgot to say last post.
Even though I struggle with being jealous over my friends’ engagements, and think that it will NEVER happen…. one thing that we can say is that we still have our amazing proposals to look forward to!! Whenever you get down, think of it that way… you still have it to look forward to, you can still be excited and wonder HOW it will happen, you still have the time of telling everyone to look forward to. All to soon it will be a distant memory; treasure this time of anticipation, even though it’s tough.
That works for me and I hope it helps you too!! 🙂